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Isidro Nando Pestana
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Isidro Nando Pestana
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Caracas, Venezuela Katılım Eylül 2010
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NARCS DIE ALONE; KARMA SHOWS NO MERCY.
Every narc goes through 7 extreme phases in their life from cradle to grave (Danish Bashir YouTube video):
STAGE 1: THE NARC SEED IS PLANTED. There are 2 extremes of parents - those who overpraise & coddle their kids, and those who neglect and abuse their kids. The kids soak up this chaos and become masters of wearing masks. They learn that fooling the world brings reward and that truth brings punishment; they learn that love is not real and only power matters. They become cold, manipulative, emotionally shut off. Their real self gradually disappears as the false self takes over. The false self is programmed to connect with people – not to love them but to dominate them.
STAGE 2: BIRTH OF THE FAKE SELF. The narc completely abandons being authentic and focuses entirely on putting on a show. They study what gets them praised, and replace their true emotions (guilt, shame, vulnerability, love) with calculated reactions (charm, arrogance and the need to control everything around them) to get what they want. Their authentic self gets silenced, forgotten and buried under this carefully constructed image they now present to the world. At this stage, the mimicking act begins. They morph into exactly what you want them to be. They mirror your hopes, desires, dreams, likes, dislikes. They use skills to fool people into thinking they are a good person - kind, compassionate, selfless - a person who they actually are not. It’s all a show. They no longer have a “self” to experience life for real – they search for a high that they never experience, and if they do, its short-lived.
STAGE 3: THE HIGH OF VALIDATION. This is when they get their first real taste of romantic partners who fall for their act. Friends believe their performance. Narcs begin to understand what they can get by copying emotional depth. Addicted to admiration, praise becomes like a drug to them – becomes a necessity like oxygen. They cannot function without a steady stream of people telling them how amazing they are. Those who can’t supply validations, get discarded or treated terribly. Narcs become parasitic; they heavily depend on people who they think depend on them. Narcs turn into addicts.
STAGE 4: THE MIRROR GAME. They stop seeing people as human beings, but use everyone as mirrors. They want you to reflect their greatness back to them; validate the fantasy they have created about themselves. If you reflect anything less but perfection back to them, if you point out a flaw, set a boundary or ask them to be accountable for something – they will shatter you until you are a broken mirror. Relationships are not about love, but all about self-reflection to them. You are nothing more than a prop in their show. If people start to see the person behind the mask, they go crazy and jump from one situation to another to escape from being exposed.
STAGE 5: THE MASK CRACKS. The narc’s ex-partners and other people start catching on to them. Their life and persona they tried so hard to maintain starts crumbling. But instead of looking within themselves, they blame everyone else for the problem. Their rage increases, panic sets in. They desperately try to find new people to supply that validation, but it’s not working the same way anymore. Their tricks are not landing like they used to; their charm is starting to wear thin. They find themselves recycling the same stories, telling the same lies, hoping no one notices all the cracks that are starting to show.
STAGE 6: THE ISOLATED SHELL. They turn into an isolated shell which is the beginning of their downfall. Friends start drifting away from them, ex-partners want nothing to do with them, their own children cut contact. They become bitter, paranoid and increasingly unstable. The world is not applauding them anymore; the world does not revolve around them anymore. That silence absolutely terrifies them. They spiral down into depression and unhealthy obsessions such as drugs, alcohol. They may be surrounded by material things, but there is no one left who truly loves them; even likes them as a person. They are emotionally stunted or arrested. They do not grow; they do not age gracefully. The older they get, the more miserable they become because the closer they get to their own rottenness, to the reality that they are shame-driven, insecure individuals who never took responsibility for their actions and blamed other people for everything, and that their tricks aren’t working anymore.
STAGE 7: MISERABLE ENDING TO THEIR LIFE. They grow old without love, without respect, without any real connection to other people. They sit there thinking about all the relationships they destroyed; all the people they pushed away - those people are now absent. Their health starts declining; the image they worked so hard fades, but the worst part is that they still cannot accept that they were the problem all along – that’s the delusional part of it, so they die holding onto their delusions – angry at the world, which simply stopped playing along with their game – “manipulation over genuine connection and control over authentic love”.
Final words:
Victims feel narcs must face the consequences but there are no bigger consequences than the narc’s own life, because the things they have done and all the pain they have caused always finds its way back to its source. So you just need to sit back and let things happen-if you go silent, if you do not intervene, if you do not talk to them, if you become indifferent – you will watch them fall apart, because they are nobody in your absence.
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