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“I have a money issue. It’s not that I don’t attract money, it’s more like that the money comes and leaves and I’m in a constant lack” A client came to me with this question last week. We sat down, did a short breathing exercise and tuned into where the block felt the most in her body. For her, it was tightness in the solar plexus. We tuned in and asked this part of her: What do you need? Immediately, the answer came: security. We then continued the intuitive conversation with it, and it brought up a memory from her childhood where my client said she felt as if her parents had given her all the material security and safety, buying her things that she wanted and those she didn’t. She was dressed like a doll and made to wear tight shoes and fake curls in her hair. A poster child. When we asked that little girl how she felt, she said all she wanted was to be loved. She was never given a loving touch, a warm hug, or encouraging words. Her parents didn’t know how to show love and affection otherwise and overcompensated with an obsession for buying new things for her. As a result, my client developed an addiction to buying pretty and expensive stuff, brands. It was never enough. Whenever she felt insecure or down, she would go on a shopping spree that did not necessarily meet her financial situation. She was living in the home, driving the car and dressing in clothes that she couldn’t afford. She was applying the same old learned model, but no matter how many new dresses she bought, the insecurity hole could not be filled. Because it was not what the little girl in her needed. No wonder all the money she made was spent on all the unnecessary stuff, and she would barely make ends meet, get into debt, and dread the money aspect of her life, leaving her feel even more insecure. This has created a vicious unconscious loop that seemed impossible to break out of. Having found the root cause of the issue, the other half of the session focused on comforting the little girl, giving her love that she so craved, shining light on the seemingly irrational behavior driven by this unmet need, and reminding her of the real sources of security - acts of self-love, compassion for the wounded little girl, soothing and encouragement that her little self needs. We then gave assurance to the little girl to always be there for her lovingly so that she doesn’t need to go looking for love in the wrong places. We finished the session with a list of actions that the client can do every day to embody the newly found truth and practice the act of self-love.

I soooo know what you mean Cristina! That glow is palpable. When you’re in your shoes, in your theme, following your heart’s desire, all valves get open for that energy to flow and overflow. It’s the most attractive thing when a person radiates that. Congratulations on the time of your life!

I was at a bachelorette party this weekend in Barcelona, celebrating a dear friend when some of the girls came up to me and said, "Wow—you’re glowing. Your energy is palpable." They noticed how much I've changed since starting my business and asked when I'd run an energy workshop, saying they'd be the first to sign up. 🥺🥺🥺 It's not about selling when you’re in embodiment. You attract who you are. When you truly understand this, you become a curiosity magnet. With every trigger, every new soul you meet, and every challenge you face, you first look inward for answers. You extract the lesson without judgment. You accept that while it’s not your fault, it is your responsibility, with this greater level of consciousness, to choose how you want to move forward. If you feel stuck, lost, or just "meh," look at your past week: How much of it did you experience calm, ease, joy? How much of it did you experience tension, anxiety, dissatisfaction? Then, challenge yourself to slow down and sit with yourself, with your body. Tune into it and listen to what it’s telling you. The distance you have from your body is the distance you have from yourself. 📸: Picture from this weekend. The architecture in Barcelona is just 🤌🏼

@nadiatidona1 I analyze what message it has to me🤣sometimes even silliest lyrics is a way to grab your attention and point to something.

What do you do when a song you hate keeps playing on repeat in your head?

@supermanuelsaez Very wise and humble man. Youth are meant to do it better than us. Let them.

My Dad: "Learn how I do it first, then make it better."

You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop. — Rumi

Learning to meditate? Focus on consistency vs time spent. You gotta put in the reps.

Always say yes. That was my mantra when I started my career. When others hid behind screens, I volunteered to almost every task that others were scared off. I was too. That excelled me in my career, made me learn more about life and fear less. Keep saying YES to life opportunities!

@ethEquilibrium I sometimes have a glimpse of what it means. Other times I am relentlessly searching for that feeling

Feel all over the place? Can’t assemble your thoughts or focus on one subject at a time? Meditate. It will train you get command over your awareness and focus.

@calebmkeller Your horse in that field would make for even better view! Not sure the master of the crop would like it though 😂

@Toma_Matik What a cool view! My horses are would hard to find in that field.

@psyphiuk Yes. I felt that analogy playing well in this ocean of wheat 🌾

@Toma_Matik Or a field of… corn?

@liveonyourterm Yes. Emotion needs to be experienced and let go off.

@Toma_Matik Learn to find an outlet for pouring your negativity.

Your negative energy spilled onto others is a form of environmental pollution. Help keep the surroundings clean. Go for a walk, take deep breathes, hit the pillow, break a brick, scream in the woods if you must or just meditate.

@psyphiuk Bravo! Keep going!

@Toma_Matik Have done an extra 4 short meditation today! I’m working on it!

@Zak_Louisa Thanks Zak! Totally agree. And it is done one person at a time, starting from oneself.

@psyphiuk Yes absolutely. Experiencing it is the only way to let go. Any pushing away will get the emotion stuck.

@Toma_Matik Or just experience it briefly and let it go!

@somsschool I believe that epidemic is already dawned. I can’t emphasize enough to everyone who listens how powerful it is for mental health to make it a habit to meditate.

@Toma_Matik Experts are saying,there will be a mental health pandemic. Already three quarter USA population is on some medication or chemicals, and it's spreading all over. All human experience is created from within if you try to stimulate it from outside then there's a price for that.

@StoicGainz Absolutely. 30 minutes spent meditating will save you hours of meaningful wondering of your thoughts without purpose

@Toma_Matik This is why it is so powerful. Ability to be present is the most wonderful skill in the world.

@timpope63 You’re welcome Tim. Feels like it’s a trend. We get pulled into the mind games and forget that we are actually the masters.

@Toma_Matik A timely reminder, thank you Toma

@Crompton21 Happy to serve as a reminder ;) We all need it at times.