ThinkWithDeji

Would you date and financially support a university girl for 4 years with NO intimacy involved… knowing another man could still marry her in the end? 😭💀 A friend shared something with me recently and honestly… Nigerians will argue this one till next week 😭 This guy is a banker. Young, doing well for himself, financially stable and responsible. For the past 6 months, he has been seriously trying to date one girl he really likes. Not for cruise. Real intentional dating. Finally this week, the girl agreed ❤️ But she gave him conditions that shocked almost everybody around him 😭 First… NO intimacy till marriage. Second… She just gained admission into University of Lagos as a 100 level student and plans to marry only after graduation. Meaning this man is expected to date her for the next 4 years before marriage 💀 Now wait… That’s not even the main issue. This girl comes from a struggling home. According to her, her parents clearly told her: We cannot afford university. But she refused to give up on school. She learnt tailoring, plaits hair, hustles for herself and plans to continue surviving on campus through those skills. Now this is where the argument started 👀 Some of my friend’s guys are telling him: Bro, this girl sounds responsible. Wife material. Others are saying: You’re about to sponsor somebody else’s future husband 😭 Because practically speaking… For 4 years, this girl will obviously have needs: School fees. Accommodation. Feeding. Transport. Handouts. Random emergencies. And naturally, as her boyfriend - especially one already financially stable -support will start entering the picture little by little. Maybe not immediately. But gradually. Now the real question is this 🤔 If a man is expected to emotionally support, financially assist, stay loyal for 4 years, avoid intimacy completely and still wait till after graduation… Practically, what exactly is the girl bringing into the relationship during those years? Love? Loyalty? Peace of mind? Future potential? Moral support? Or do you think the man is carrying most of the burden here? 👀 Be honest… Would you advise your friend to enter this kind of relationship or run before feelings grow deeper? 😭👇