Ryder
101 posts


亲爱的老公:
昨晚你对着屏幕发呆,咖啡凉了也没喝一口。我站在门口看了你很久,你都没发觉。
想起五年前你刚开始做交易的时候,每天眼睛都是亮的。你说找到了最适合自己的工作,不用应酬,不用看人脸色,一台电脑,一部手机就能闯天下。那时候我们多开心啊,周末还能一起去爬山,你教我认K线,我笑你走火入魔。这几年确实在你的努力下 ,我们的经济状况是越来越好了!
可是慢慢地,你也变了。
先说你的身体吧 。 上次你感冒发烧到39度,吃了片退烧药继续盯盘。我说去医院,你说“等美盘结束”。结果第二天烧成肺炎,住院那周你还在病床上用手机下单。护士都笑你,可我真的笑不出来。你以前多爱运动啊,篮球打得那么好,现在连走几步路都喘。上个月你起身倒水,突然扶着桌子站不稳,脸白得吓人。我那一刻真的害怕了——我怕哪天你倒下了,我和孩子怎么办。
再说心态 。 我永远记得去年那个晚上。你连续止损了三笔,砸了鼠标,然后把自己关在书房一整夜。第二天早上我推门进去,满地都是揉皱的复盘笔记,你坐在墙角,红着眼睛跟我说:“我就是个废物。”那一刻我好心疼。你曾经那么自信从容的一个人,被市场折磨得连自己都不相信了。后来你赚钱了,又变得特别亢奋,说要给孩子换学区房,要提前退休。你知道吗,这种大起大落,我看着比账户的波动还要揪心。
风控的事 ,我本来不懂。 但我记得你教过我,“截断亏损,让利润奔跑”。可你自己呢?那次重仓原油,你说基本面绝对利多,死活不设止损。结果一夜之间亏了六位数,那是我见过你最沉默的三天。后来你跟我说,你违背了自己所有的规则。我问你为什么,你说“因为贪心”。老公,你不是不懂风控,你是不肯认输。
还有社交 。 上周你发小从国外回来,大家聚会,你又没去。我说你去嘛,你说“晚上有非农”。后来我在朋友圈看到他们的合影,十几个人就缺你。你以前是最爱热闹的那个啊。现在你的微信好友除了群友就是客服,能聊天的越来越少。有时候看你一个人在书房复盘到深夜,我觉得你不是在做交易,是在坐牢。
钱的事我也想说说 。 上个月你大赚了一笔,兴冲冲给孩子买了个上万的手机。我说太贵了,你说“这点钱算什么,明天再赚回来”。结果第二天真的亏了,你又唉声叹气。老公,钱不是这样花的。赚了是运气加实力,亏了是常态。可我们的生活不能跟着账户上蹿下跳。女儿需要的是一个稳定的家,不是今天吃大餐明天吃泡面。
最让我难过的是你的情绪 。 你亏钱那几天,家里的气压低得可怕。孩子让你陪她拼乐高,你说“别烦我”。我做了你爱吃的糖醋排骨,你说“没胃口”。我知道你不是故意的,可你知不知道,那种小心翼翼的过日子的感觉,有多难受。你的情绪像一根绳子,拴着我们所有人的呼吸。
最后说说执念吧 。 你总说再试一次,再优化一下策略,就能稳定盈利了。你报了七八个课程,加了无数个群,换了好几个交易系统,研发了好几个ea ,可市场永远有更优解,你永远觉得自己“差一点”。老公,交易真的需要那么完美吗?还是你只是不甘心?
其实我知道,你比谁都努力。凌晨两点的K线你盯过,周末别人休息你在复盘,你笔记本上密密麻麻记满了心得。可我不想你赢了市场,却输掉了健康、输掉了快乐、输掉了我们。
昨晚我端牛奶进去,你趴在桌上睡着了。电脑屏幕还亮着,K线还在跳动。我关了灯,给你披了件外套。那一刻我突然想,我不需要一个 交易冠军 ,我只需要一个健康的、开心的、愿意周末陪我们去公园的丈夫。
写完这些,天快亮了。等你看完这封信,能不能抱抱我?
爱你的妻子
中文

你要起号拿低保
首先就是做好自己的内容
没有我这样的原创能力
你就多去抄袭、搬运、打信息差
做好自己内容的同时
就一个劲的去和大v互动
你是蓝v,你跟他们互动
这帮孙子是有钱拿的
持续互动,坚持不懈的互动
主要就是混个脸熟
他们也喜欢你这样的粉丝
互动的内容要有点见地
敷衍了事的不行
然后差不多了就去私信他们
一个个,诚恳点,求个互关
有了前面的铺垫,一般都不会吝啬
然后关注你的大v多了
别人点进来也看得到
你再互动其它的时候
他们也会自然而然的给你个回关
慢慢的你账号的权重和分量就起来了
保持良好输出,一月1000u,一次500u
一个月赚它万把人民币的
轻轻松松。
就这么简单。
切记的一点就是别做成了
运营号和营销号的感觉。
下课
中文

VAGINISMUS:
THIS HAS DESTROYED MANY HOMES.
NO, SHE'S NOT PRETENDING.
READ, SHARE AND REPOST.
Dear Women and Men, come and learn...,
When the Body Says No: Vaginismus, Silence, and the Myth of a Closed Door
They come quietly, these messages, and they often begin the same way, Dear Doc, and then a confession wrapped in confusion, and sometimes shame. I married my wife as a virgin, and yet it feels like something is blocked, and I can touch her, and we can linger in foreplay, but when it is time for intercourse, the door closes. And in that sentence, a woman is almost turned into a riddle, and sometimes into a suspect. As though her body has decided to be wicked. As though pain is rebellion. As though fear is witchcraft.
But let us say this clearly, and say it gently, and say it loudly enough to undo years of silence: this is not witchcraft. She is not wicked. Her body is not conspiring against love.
This is called vaginismus, and it is far more common than we admit, and far more human than we allow.
Vaginismus is the body tightening when it should soften, and closing when it should welcome, and doing so without permission from the mind. It is an involuntary spasm of the vaginal muscles during penetration, during sex, during examinations, sometimes even during the thought of penetration.
Many women say, my vagina is blocked or I am too small, and what they are really saying is that their body has learned fear. And this fear does not belong only to first-timers, although many first sexual experiences are marked by it. It belongs also to women who have had sex before, and to women who have known trauma, and to women whose bodies remember pain from surgery, from radiotherapy, from infections, from stories whispered by aunties about how sex is suffering and womanhood is endurance. It belongs to women who were assaulted, and to women who grew up learning that sex is danger dressed as desire.
And yes, vaginismus has broken hearts, and strained marriages, and turned bedrooms into battlegrounds of guilt and misunderstanding. But it is not a moral failure. It is not stubbornness. It is not punishment. It is the body doing what bodies do when they feel unsafe, protecting itself.
So what do we do, when the body says no?
We begin with belief, belief in the woman, and belief that healing is possible. We begin with counselling, especially when there has been sexual trauma, because the body listens closely to the mind. We seek help not from one person, but from a team, the gynaecologist, and the psychologist, and the counsellor, and the physiotherapist, and the specialist nurse, because vaginismus is not a single story and cannot be solved by a single voice. We talk about lifestyle, and hydration, and the quiet power of pelvic floor exercises like Kegels, and we talk about lubricants, yes, generously, and some that soothe pain as they ease entry. We talk about patience, and vaginal massage, and gentle exploration, sometimes guided, sometimes slow, sometimes awkward, and always kind.
We talk about foreplay, not as a prelude, but as a language of reassurance. And sometimes, when anxiety refuses to loosen its grip, we use medication to help the body learn calm again. Vaginal dilators may be used, slowly and consistently, not to force the body open, but to teach it that opening does not equal harm. Surgery, we say clearly, is rare, and only for true physical obstruction, not for fear, not for memory.
This is a big issue, yes, and it can unmake intimacy if left alone in the dark. But it is also a treatable one. Help exists. Compassion works. Conversations heal.
And so, if your body has been saying no, listen to it, not with anger, but with curiosity. Seek help. Book consultations. Treat infections. Drink water. Be patient. Be gentle. Because sometimes the door is not locked.
Sometimes, it is only afraid.

English
Ryder retweetledi

Join the Sova Genesis Quest on Galxe ⚡️
Sova is the first native-Bitcoin chain for institutional yield, liquidity, and treasury growth.
Claim a commemorative NFT, and unlock:
- Beta access to Sova Prime
- Genesis role in Sova Discord
Join here: app.galxe.com/quest/SovaBTC/…
English

为了感谢 @elonmusk 对ZERO的再次支持
ZERO社区启动第三轮抽奖 回馈 @elonmusk
随机抽取8位幸运用户,每人$10000 ZERO,48小时开奖
参与条件:
点赞➕关注➕转发
评论区留下你的BSC钱包
ZERO是BSC meme行情的起点
现在BSC meme正在走向低谷
ZERO将再次引领BSC meme走向繁荣、辉煌、顶峰
建设!建设!建设!Build!Build!Build!
@cz_binance @BNBCHAIN #ZERO #BSC链

钻石手柯基@DiamondCorgi
ZERO社区第二轮抽奖正式启动: 参与过第一轮抽奖的都知道全程透明没有内幕 这轮依旧使用第三方抽奖工具 Easy3随机抽取8位幸运用户,每人$10000 ZERO,48小时开奖 参与条件: 点赞➕关注➕转发 评论区留下你的BSC钱包 ZERO简介:ZERO是BSC生态0gas的映射 meme,也曾 被CZ大表哥和埃隆作为话题 讨论过,是BSC这波MEME大行情的核心发动meme,ZERO叙事绝对牛 @heyibinance @cz_binance @BNBCHAIN #ZERO #BSC链
中文

想提醒一下做 DeFi 调研的 KOL 朋友们,或是在 DeFi 存钱的大户:
我主动联系了某项目,花了 10+ 小时调研,下飞机后立刻沟通,凌晨聊到本地时间 3:30,又花了 3 小时写推文,为他们带来了 2.4 万曝光。
因为真心想帮社区发现更多冷门项目、一起讨论,所以即使他们只说会有“很少、不确定的社区贡献激励”,我也愿意先免费发帖支持,并且按照他们的要求修改内容。后来才知道,其他博主都是付费合作,而我是唯一免费支持的人。
💡 在这个行业,KOL 收钱合作是正常透明的商业模式。我愤怒的不是钱,而是:
•发帖前反复催促,发帖后才被告知(很少的)奖励还要锁仓一年
•合作态度恶劣,还甩锅、羞辱
•完全无视已经产生的流量和价值
如果一开始就说“没有奖励”,我依然可以发帖。但他们先说有奖励,再事后临时加条件,还来打压我,这不是误会,这是不尊重和欺骗。
KOL 的时间、影响力和品牌价值不是免费的,更不该被欺骗和白嫖。
透明和尊重才是合作基础,这种行为只会让行业恶性循环。
这次经历让我明白:善意和信任值得,但不能给错人。
希望同行们、投资者们,在和项目合作或投资时,都要仔细确认细节,保护自己。一个连合作条款都可以随意更改的项目,用户资金安全又凭什么值得信任?
中文












