Womaning womanfully

@itsolelehmann Plus all the extra cuddles and kisses, and the developing sense of humour, and seeing things anew through your child’s eyes.

everyone told me having a kid would slow me down but my son is 9 months old now and i feel like my life just started this is my first time reflecting on it publicly. here's everything i've learned so far: 1. everything before feels like a prequel of a movie. like i was living in a draft version of my own life and didn't know it 2. my bullshit detector went through the roof. if something doesn't get me closer to where i want to be or it cuts into time with my son, i just don't do it. zero hesitation 3. i used to spend so much time circling around my own thoughts. overthinking, optimizing, generally self-obsessed. having a kid quietly turns that off. people say you lose yourself when you have a kid. i think that's actually the point 4. being present becomes easy. with a kid you have to be. you can't get sucked into your phone. just sitting on the floor playing and laughing is honestly like a spiritual practice 5. your relationship with your parents changes overnight. you see them as equals for the first time. you realize they were your age or younger doing the exact same thing. suddenly you understand how much they sacrificed and any bad blood just gets a new reference point 6. watching my girlfriend become a mother is one of the most beautiful things i've seen. she wanted this earlier than me. now i feel like a complete idiot for ever doubting it 7. birth and postpartum were scary. she dealt with hormonal depression and it took a while to recover. she's the most upbeat person i know so seeing her like that was rough. my respect for what women go through changed completely 8. i miss one-on-one time with my girlfriend. that's been the hardest part. i sometimes miss the old life. but i wouldn't go back. i would have just kept living the same way forever 9. some friendships just stop working. having a kid makes lifestyle mismatches obvious fast. you only see it once you're in it 10. having a child completely changed why i use AI. it's way more about having time to live and be with my son than about maxing productivity so i can do more. the whole equation flipped 11. building my life the way i did is paying off now. working from home, being self-employed, being able to afford help with cleaning and meals. all of that eats your time like crazy once you have a kid. and i get to see my son multiple times during my workday. just pick him up, play a little, eat together. those moments make a huge difference 12. every time i step into more responsibility it gives me more purpose. running a company, employing people, being a parent. your capacity for what you think you can handle just grows 13. nobody prepares you for how 24/7 it is. it just doesn't stop. it trains your mental capacity in a way nothing else does 14. your motivation for everything shifts. health, fitness, work. stuff that used to annoy me i just do now because i know who i'm doing it for 15. one fear i carry: that i'm spending too much time working on something that won't matter and trading away time with my son. he doesn't care how much money i make 16. everyone suddenly has an opinion on how you should raise your kid. you have to know your values and hold them 17. you start understanding what's actually good for humans. clean food, nature, less screens. for a child you really want all of that to be true. it changes how you think about where and how to live 18. the love is 10 orders of magnitude more than anything i've ever felt. some biological switch flips and you can't understand it until it happens to you. i'd heard people talk about it my whole life but nothing prepares you 19. sometimes in the evening when he's asleep i look at pictures from that day and just feel so happy. and every time i realize how much is still ahead. he can't even talk yet. someone said it's the reverse of losing someone. when someone dies you think about all the things you can't do anymore. with a child every day you realize all the things you're about to experience together 20. a child heals you. i don't need to use the word trauma but something shifted on a nervous system level. 100x'd my appreciation for life even with the sleep deprivation 21. i want my son to look up to me for the values i represent. you can't teach a child anything if you're not the example yourself

@VintageMrHobbes @Worldcuptour @RmSalih Except that all the evidence is that British people, especially young ones, are much less fond of the pub than they used to be.

@RmSalih "Why do British people like things that British people have liked for hundreds of years?" is definitely the sort of question that a well assimilated, totally British person would ask

Why do Reform UK endlessly push pubs and drinking culture? I csn only assume it's because unhealthy slobs who vote for them spend all their time in pubs. Alcohol is bad for you and pubs are a bad environment for anybody. I hope they all close.

@JamesMelville 1066

When did Britain start to go downhill? And why?

@ThomasWillett9 Except she won on the harassment. And will appeal on the part she didn’t win.

All this performativity surrounding Peggie losing her tribunal is deeply strange & repulsive. She lost. None of her accusations against Dr Upton were evidenced. This has become a disgusting hate campaign against trans women aimed at abusing them and driving them out of work.

@DesireeAmerica4 Can you cook, though? Can you meal plan? Can you knit him a hat? A jumper? Can you hem his trousers? I’m not saying you should be able to, but if men have lost their ‘traditional skills’, haven’t women? Can HE cook, etc, instead?

She’s saying what a lot of women are thinking but are afraid to say. ​She wants a man who can change a tire, change the oil, and actually pursue a woman. Basically, she wants the "Dad Standard." But she feels like her generation has completely lost those skills and that mindset. ​It raises a real question: Did we stop teaching young men how to be capable, or has society just "softened" the role of men entirely

@stephenwhittle You are assuming predators are driven by libido and not wounded ego. You assume that GRT starts with testosterone reduction.

Would any predator start gender reassignment treatment, before attacking women? No - their libido would drop through the floor It is violence mostly by men who is a partner, ex-partner, or who the woman already knows And it takes place in the home instagram.com/reel/DSIXx39iJ…

@1633Fangirl @jk_rowling @suzanne_moore Yes, and I bet he does in Algeria.

@jk_rowling @suzanne_moore If you think imane khalif is a man despite living her entire life as a girl do you think she should be using men's restrooms and male pronouns?

Every single word, by @suzanne_moore telegraph.co.uk/news/2025/11/1…

@NomadicTerra @1633Fangirl @jk_rowling @suzanne_moore That’s a bit weird because sharia hasn’t recognised them for over 1400 years. It just says kids have to choose their id at puberty.

@1633Fangirl @jk_rowling @suzanne_moore He lived as a boy — now as a man. Because that is determined by your biology. I'm sure he uses male pronouns when he refers to other males. DSDs are not recognised in Algeria, so he likely has no legal basis to use men's spaces there, though he can do it when unrecognised.

@Artemisapphire This was my favourite. God did this one:

Bot account posting pictures of electrical fires in 2014, no doubt to make a point about the dire state of CofE and local heritage funding, as anyone who genuinely cared about England and their community would ... Strike that, he's just culture warring for likes and dopamine

But, as a group, men are not financially disadvantages. So what is stopping campaigns like this from doing what women did - going round to their (male) peers and asking for funds and volunteers to right this lack of support for male victims? Can’t men work for each other? 2/2

This campaign raises some questions. Primarily economic. The Women’s Movement worked collectively to set up shelters for female survivors because collectively was the only way women could muster the economic resources since women are, as a group, at a financial disadvantage. 1/2

@Skirt_Go_Spinny I’ve got a better question. What if women didn’t exist? How could you be dysphoric? Who would you imitate? Women are necessary for trans women to even be imaginable. If trans women didn’t exist, we’d be fine.

My favorite part of transgenderism is when men in womanface pretend to be offended by other men doing womanface for the wrong reasons.

@TTExulansic You can always have the cuppa but nowt else…

@WomaningWell Why is the UK bigoted against Americans who need asylum and a cuppa?

Your local disabled queer activist femboy asylum seeker with EDS and POTS, FND, MCAS, chiari malformation and cervical cranial instability is not at all satisfied with the accommodations provided by the UK government. But she's gonna keep fighting the fascists.

@0nlyk1tt3n They’re in Turkey. He’s speaking Turkish and Turks are not Arabs.

What an insane interaction. Yet people still wonder why I ignore strangers, unfortunately not the first time this happens.

Here is my account of the research linking terrorism and violence against women: theguardian.com/commentisfree/…

“Ted, do you want to paint a traffic island with me”

@LucyHunterB @Charles95684721 @dinahbrand2 Yes, late 90s I was working in Higher Ed and complained about registration forms with ‘gender’ instead of sex.

@Charles95684721 @dinahbrand2 You are in California, I notice. It's an American import, based I suspect on a greater prudishness in the home of the Hayes Code. Here's the evidence from the UK. Mum was noticing a real phenomenon here.

I remember, sometime in the 1990s, my mum - an English graduate passionately interested in language - getting annoyed about the creeping use of “gender” when people meant sex, because a linguistic term for nouns was being applied to people. And also because it was twee and prim.

@cwayneshuck Seed oils are not banned in Europe at all. In fact we produce a lot of them.

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American food is banned in the UK. Not because of politics, but because of what’s in it. Cancer-linked dyes, Toxic seed oils, & Additives you’ve never heard of.... Here’s how banned ingredients in Europe are making Americans sick (legally): 🧵

@Gaynotqueer1 Weird. Leaving aside the costumes, it seems to be 95% males.

Family-friendly Manchester Pride.