Adela Pérez

Escribid mujeres. En memoria de todas a las que ese privilegio fue negado… #cementeriodelibros

They put 17 people, married an average of 21 years, into a brain scanner and showed them a photo of their spouse. The same parts of the brain lit up that fire when a teenager has their first crush. Two decades together, and the chemistry was still going off like fireworks. The study ran at Stony Brook in 2011. What changes after 20 years is the anxiety. That panic of not knowing if they love you back, the wondering, the checking. All of that fades. The pull toward them stays. So that tells you what old love looks like in the brain. It doesn’t tell you how a couple gets there. A marriage researcher named John Gottman has spent 40 years on that question. He films couples arguing in his lab at the University of Washington and predicts whether they’ll divorce. He gets it right 93.6% of the time, from 15 minutes of footage. More than 3,000 couples now. He watches the two-second moments between sentences. The pauses. That’s where the prediction lives. The fights themselves matter less. His go-to example: your wife is staring out the window and says, look at that bird. You glance up and say, oh wow. Or you keep scrolling on your phone. That tiny choice, that little reach for your attention, is what he calls a bid. He watched newlyweds in his lab and followed them for six years. The couples who were still married had responded to each other’s bids 86 times out of 100. The couples who divorced had responded 33 out of 100. Same money fights. Same in-laws. Same dishes in the sink. The one thing that was different was the bird. This part stopped me. Gottman found that 69% of the things every couple fights about are problems that never get solved. The chores. The money. His mother. Whose family they spend Christmas with. The arguments repeat for 50 years. Happy couples and unhappy couples have roughly the same list of problems. The happy ones learned to argue about that list without contempt. The eye roll. The sigh. The little smile that says you are pathetic. Gottman calls contempt the sulfuric acid of relationships. He says it’s the single biggest sign that a marriage is over. When you see two old people asleep on each other on a plane, the forgiveness in that picture is real. They have absorbed thousands of small failures by now. There is something quieter underneath the forgiveness, though. Decades ago, one of them said look at that bird. The other one looked up.

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Amarte y no necesitar de nada.

@mjunda Si Majito, hagámoslo!

@_Adelapt ¿Lo intentamos, Adelita?

¡Qué maravilla! 🥹

¡Feliz día del libro! (Versos de Leandro Gabilondo)

—Gracias por salvar mi vida. —Es solo un libro… —No, no lo es. Nunca será solo un libro. 🥺 Hoy, en el Día Internacional del Libro, es inevitable pensar en esa verdad que muchos hemos sentido alguna vez: los libros no son simples objetos. Son refugios, puertas y salvación. ❤️‍🩹

Feliz día a todos los que siempre tienen varios libros en la mesita de noche.

NO TODOS LOS HOMBRES pero 62 millones se unieron a un grupo en Telegram para ver tips y videos de como drogar a sus parejas y poder abusar de ellas. 62 MILLONES!!!

Hay heridas que te persiguen hasta en los sueños. Son las que de verdad te han dejado tocado.

Como se siente estar enamorada en la voz de Alfonsina Storni.

#DíaInternacionalDelBeso

"... Before you know kindness as the deepest thing inside, you must know sorrow as the other deepest thing. You must wake up with sorrow. You must speak to it till your voice catches the thread of all sorrows and you see the size of the cloth. Then it is only kindness that makes sense anymore, only kindness that ties your shoes and sends you out into the day to mail letters and purchase bread, only kindness that raises its head from the crowd of the world to say It is I you have been looking for, and then goes with you everywhere like a shadow or a friend". –Kindness (fragment), Naomi Shihab Nye–

Cómo hacerle enteder a @BArevalodeLeon que justo por lo de hoy, por lo de la USAC es por lo que realmente será recordado. Ya la poca, muy poca credibilidad y apoyo que pudo haber tenido lo tiró a la basura.

Hoy se lleva a cabo la elección de #RectorUsac y esto es lo que debes saber. ⚠️ Walter Mazariegos libera tinta como calamar al sentirse acorralado🦑 y busca de nuevo la rectoría a través de trampas y recursos disfrazados de legalidad. #Guatemala #Usac

Consignas desde la resistencia

Lo que más indigna en el caso de la USAC es que no se dimensione la gravedad del problema. Se permitió impunidad a Mazariegos en su 1era elección fraudulenta y ahora se le permitirá hacer fraude otra vez. Es una aberración: quienes ostentan el poder deben actuar a la altura.

Mazariegos dormido en una cómoda cama de hotel 5 estrellas se duchara con agua caliente el chef le prepara el desayuno con plata de nuestros impuestos mientras los estudiantes están afuera pasando frío Guatemala premia a delincuentes y castiga al pueblo por eso aquí nada cambia