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My journey as a developer started in 2021, after ASUU decided to go on another strike. I focused solely on frontend until I graduated in 2024. Since then, I have learned backend development too, so I could proudly wear the title of fullstack developer. I knew that being fullstack

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I understand the desire to be careful and intentional about marriage. That part is reasonable. But your framework has some serious logical and real-life flaws that need to be addressed. First, cohabitation for 6 months to 1 year exposes a woman to disproportionate risk. Pregnancy is the most obvious one. Biology does not wait for timelines. If she gets pregnant within that period and you suddenly “discover” she is not wife material, who bears the heavier consequence? Definitely not the man. We have seen this play out countless times in real life. Men walk away, women are left with the physical, emotional, and social weight. Second, living together often kills motivation in men, not improves clarity. Many men lose the urgency to marry once they start enjoying the full benefits of marriage without commitment. Food, sex, companionship, emotional labor, domestic support. All without vows. I have personally seen men stay in such arrangements for years, always extending the “observation period,” until the woman is exhausted, older, and resentful. If cohabitation truly guaranteed marriage, we would not see so many long-term girlfriends being abandoned after “trial periods.” Third, a man does not need a woman to live with him for one year to know if he wants to marry her. Character is not hidden for twelve months. Values, temperament, kindness, discipline, emotional intelligence, conflict resolution, and compatibility can be assessed through intentional dating, honest conversations, family exposure, stress situations, and time. If after months of dating and consistent interaction you still need her under your roof to decide, the issue is indecision, not lack of information. Also, let’s be honest about power dynamics. When a woman moves into a man’s house unmarried, she is almost always the one adjusting, compromising, cooking, cleaning, and proving herself. Meanwhile, he positions himself as the examiner, judge, and final authority. That is not partnership. That is probation. Now let me ask you a sincere question. Would you allow your own sister or daughter to go and live with a man for 6 months to 1 year without marriage, just to be “tested”? A man who can send her packing at any point if she fails his standards? If the answer is no, then the rule is not principled, it is convenient. I am not condemning cohabitation outright. Adults will make their choices. What I condemn is the timeframe and the structure. A healthier alternative is frequent visits. Let her spend a week or so with you, go back to her place, repeat over time. You still see habits, routines, moods, conflict, and compatibility without trapping her in an arrangement that benefits you far more than it benefits her. Finally, if we strip this argument to its core, it often sounds less like “protecting the future” and more like looking for free labor and guaranteed sex while deciding if the woman is worth committing to. If that is the case, it is more honest to say that plainly, rather than dressing it up as wisdom and due diligence. Marriage should not begin with one person auditioning under unequal risk. It should begin with mutual intention, protection, and responsibility. Anything else is just comfort disguised as caution.

On this day of this dance, we just received a notification of quit notice from the landlady. And our reaction was to show a gratitude of dance. And guess what, two weeks later, my wife got a job in York, England. She relocated two months after and we joined her two months after she had left. First reaction to disapointment and failure should be gratitude. Express it anyhow. Not easy but do it! Good morning, great people and welcome to the last day of 2025. 💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿

@docneto I came to sort for this missing bit, “Any discerning man knows never to date a woman he couldn’t potentially marry.” It is what informs my dating life.

Any discerning man knows never to date a woman he couldn't potentially marry. The issue is often when men think with their third leg and start to be led by it. Keeping coitus until after marriage is one way to protect yourself from your foolish member. Celibacy gives clear eye!

Actually, Solomon’s life and death teaches exactly the opposite of this. Please bear with me let me explain what I mean. The story of his life and how he ended up actually serves as a deterrence, rather than an endorsement, in why marrying multiple wives and frolicking with many women just simply because you can afford to do so is a very destructive idea. People only remember Solomon for his wealth, his many wives, his wisdom and his magnificent kingdom but many people are not aware of how badly his life was messed up in the end - basically because of those very many women and the kind of vain sensual sybaritic life he lived. It may interest you that the life of King Solomon ended up in spiritual decline, enticement to idolatry and an eventual split of his once great kingdom - all direct consequences of his sexual recklessness and endless marriages to many women who ultimately turned him from God. Long before “polycule” became a buzzword on Nigerian social media, Solomon had something far worse. He had wives, concubines, girlfriends, sarewagbas, and whatever else you can imagine. No matter how wild you think it is, Solomon did it. Towards the end of his life, Solomon said "I denied myself nothing my eyes desired; I refused my heart no pleasure. My heart took delight in all my labor, and this was the reward for all my toil". Ecc2:10. He pursued a life of hedonistic material pleasure -using women as one of the means to this end. Any woman, or anything that promised pleasure, that he could imagine, he chased after. He had the money, the means, the power and the resources. Yet after a life dedicated to hedonism and self seeking material pleasure, in the very next verse he said: “Yet when I surveyed all that my hands had done and what I had toiled to achieve, everything was meaningless, a chasing after the wind; nothing was gained under the sun” Ecc2:11. Ultimately what he found after dating and marrying all these women was that it was all nothing but futility and worthless vanity (that only compromised his heart, wrecked his commitment to God, and destroyed his kingdom). So contrary to popular misconceptions, The life of Solomon is actually a stern warning that a life dedicated to pursuing material pleasure and vain hedonistic sensual desires can only lead to chaos, regrets, and a destruction of one’s life achievements (which for him was collapse of a once-great kingdom). So yes if a person is actually wise, They will not live life like Solomon lived. That is the whole point of Ecclesiastes. Thank you for your attention to this matter.

@_ManLikeAJ Applied Geology I’m interested🙋‍♂️

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That’s exactly why this is so beautiful to me. Apostle paul said it best… 1 Corinthians 1:18–25 (NIV) 18 For the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God. 19 For it is written: “I will destroy the wisdom of the wise; the intelligence of the intelligent I will frustrate.” 20 Where is the wise person? Where is the teacher of the law? Where is the philosopher of this age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of the world? 21 For since in the wisdom of God the world through its wisdom did not know him, God was pleased through the foolishness of what was preached to save those who believe. 22 Jews demand signs and Greeks look for wisdom, 23 but we preach Christ crucified: a stumbling block to Jews and foolishness to Gentiles, 24 but to those whom God has called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of God and the wisdom of God. 25 For the foolishness of God is wiser than human wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than human strength. Now here’s the hammer: “For the foolishness of God is wiser than human wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than human strength.” This is the paradox people still stumble over. The Jews wanted a Messiah of military power, the Greeks wanted a Messiah of philosophical brilliance, the Romans saw crucifixion as the lowest, most shameful end imaginable. A crucified God??? Scandalous, weak, FOOLISH!!! Exactly. That’s why no human being would ever invent this story. No culture, no religion, no philosopher, no empire would ever imagine a God who wins by losing, conquers by suffering, and overthrows death by dying. The very thing they mock is the very thing that proves it’s real. God chose the one method that makes all human categories collapse, so that our power looks fragile, and our wisdom looks small. That’s the power of the Gospel: The Cross looks like defeat to those perishing, but it is the power of God to those who see. I wish you the best. 🙏🏾

@_iamtpo Hello, thank you for sharing. I saw in the comments that you studied microbiology for your first degree. I studied applied Geology. How did you switch to computer science for your master’s? Is it allowed or you had to take some exams?

This is the full breakdown of what I did to land software engineering roles at Meta and Bloomberg as a master’s student in Switzerland. It’s a long thread, but worth it if you’re trying to break into big tech, especially from a non-technical background. 🧵👇🏾

THANK YOU JESUS!!! A New chapter. Anew season.. I have a request today, if you can, on my behalf, help me say THANK YOU JESUS for 41 times…

@DunsinOyekan THANK YOU JESUS! Happy Birthday Sirrrr

I graduated from the prestigious College of health sciences, Obafemi awolowo university, Ile-ife. Dr Akanbi P.O. MB.ChB(IFE) Congratulations to me🎉

Hi ,I ’m Adeyokun Adenike, a second-class upper graduate of Applied Geology from FUTA (CGPA: 4.07/5), deeply passionate about earth science, energy, and environmental solutions. I’m currently seeking career opportunities in the Geoscience space and would love to serve(NYSC).

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@neneofdgoodlife Congratulationssss🎉 I claim this for myself next month too. I go do my dump🙏

@chelseanwoye We will be here for it🥂