Shantanu Sharma

Interesting DINK, getting more hate than ZINK ( zero income numerous kids). When a couple labels themselves DINK, it’s often not a statement for others to judge - it’s a boundary. A quiet way of saying: stop prying into decisions that aren’t yours to question. You don’t know their story, their struggles, or their choices. I remember a retired uncle on Quora writing something that stuck: when you ask couples why they don’t have kids, you’re stepping into deeply personal territory. Either they can’t, or they’ve chosen not to - both are valid, and both deserve peace. Either way, the question doesn’t add value - it just disturbs it. India isn’t going to be depopulated if 1% decide not to have kids, call them greedy all you want but they are silently paying for the extra kids others are having. I’ve seen many DINK couples picking up extra load - at work and within families for those with kids. Not everyone is “woke” or selfish the way we often generalize. I have seen more bad parents than selfish DINKs in my life.

@GupteVedang @shrelock13 Going on a war affect a society, freebies affect society, reservation affects society but yeah lets talk about personal choices of people and that may be the 2/3% who choose not to have kids

@shrelock13 Because it will end up affecting the society, and nation as as a whole in future. The aged population will be more than the working population, not even enough to fund the social security of the working population. And as far as "choice" is concerned, it is just the product of

DINK, SINK or not, it's each couple's choice. Period. Why is this being debated about?

@Msdian0770 @brawling_virago Why will someone die helpless?? Is there only one relationship that sustains? What about friends, siblings? Also home care, if I have money I can do anything. Also, I am selfish.

@brawling_virago Go DINK, not have kids and when old age strikes, pay someone's kid to help you or else die helpless. Basically, taking advantage of demography but not contributing to that demography yourself. That's selfish. Kitna ghum lega koi? 😀

Muting this. You have a choice, free will to a certain extent, means to avoid having them. Having them if you don’t want to isn’t going to do any good. Internet is not convincing you to have them, if anything the entire popular social media algorithm/narrative is convincing you to avoid them for a stress free life. My statements will sound contradictory but they are unrelated here.

@BaluGorade I need ease and flexibility not a fan of depth.

DINK life is trending. Double income, no kids. But life isn't only about ease and flexibility. Having kids brings a depth of meaning you don't anticipate. I have 2 children and it has never felt like a burden.

@drsunita02 Why do you guys think that everyone out there is not having kids?? Its choice for God's sake, some people are having it and others are not?? There's not gonna be a situation where everyone decides to not have children. Stop with the Judgement.

What happens when people don't have kids?? Society falls and fails. The couples who think they can manage on their own without depending on kids, have they ever thought the young home helper who comes to do jadu-pota-bartan is someone's daughter. The young vegetable seller guy is someone's son. The young security gaurd of their housing colony is someone's son. The young guy who picks the trash is someone's son. The delivery guy is someone's son. The young electrician, plumber is someone's son. The young nurse who is going to look after you, bathe you, clean you is someone's daughter. The doctor who is going to treat you is someone's daughter or son. The young banker is someone's child. The list goes on. See developed countries where fertility is failing and older population is more than younger population. Japan for instance, Europe for instance. When a population of a country declines, to run the economy, the country's borders are opened. And then all hell breaks loose. This is what is happening in Europe now.

@Sai_swaroopa LOLOLOL

Unpopular opinion about DINK choosing couples. I think wanting children is the most natural thing. Not wanting is a result of an unresolved childhood trauma or a heavy self (and ecosystem) doubt. These couples were deeply pained either at their parents' sacrifices or incompatibility or toxicity. At times it could be a messy combo of all. They don't want to bring a child into that mess that exists in their subconsciousness. Financial readiness is also a factor but we seem to be talking about affluent section today.

@NomadicVK @DeepakVisva You buy a vehicle with a guarantee and testing, can you really buy a home now?? Also, if I dont see good roads, no petrol pump in my city I wouldn't buy it?? The analogy doesn't work but hope this helps. If we are struggling for the basics, why should I bring a new life..

@DeepakVisva You buy vehicle with guarantee that no accident will happen, you buy home with guarantee that it survive earthquake, do you start your vehicle when all traffic light of city is green? The discussion of whether bringing children in this world is sane/not, ur parent missed the bus

More than asking DINK couples to consider having children, shouldn’t we be discussing whether bringing children into this world is even sane? Are we promising the children we bring into this earth a better world? Better air? Better water? These are basic rights. But how cruel is it to bring children into the world without addressing the very disastrous, unlivable conditions?

@AthriBhat @DeepakVisva Then let the people who are worried about it have 4/5 children??

@DeepakVisva Keep panicking another community is ready to take over just like kashmir

@GabbbarSingh Shut up

People who are averse to having kids and live a DINK life. It’s perfectly fine. But they are missing on one key thing in life: The purest form of love in the world is what a parent has for their kid. Their own blood. It may not be vice versa. Relationships, marriages often devolve into transactional setups. Love between a couple diminishes with time & becomes a most optimal peaceful settlement. But the affection for your kid is pure. If you are okay with not experiencing it, it’s totally fine. :)

Beyond the realities of an unsustainable world and the rising cost of raising a child, there’s something else I’ve been thinking about as I move deeper into my 30s. You can walk away from many things in life - a marriage, a job, a friendship, situations that no longer serve you. But you can’t walk away from being a parent. Once you choose it, it’s yours for life. There’s no undo button, no clean exit. And a commitment like that deserves real deliberation. If someone decides they don’t want children, that’s not something to question - it’s something to respect. Because the alternative is far worse: bringing a child into the world and realising, midway, that you don’t have it in you. You can’t just opt out without consequence. And when people do, it often leaves behind a lifetime of emotional damage. We’ve seen this play out across generations - people raised by parents who were physically present but emotionally absent, or who quietly carried the weight of a life they didn’t fully choose. Many of our parents didn’t have the space to make that decision consciously. They were expected to follow a path, not question it. I often think about how different things could have been if they had that choice - if they could have decided freely, without pressure. Even if that meant some of us wouldn’t exist in that version of the world. So yes, it’s a good thing that more people today are choosing not to have children - not out of fear, but out of clarity. Because they understand what it truly means. Because they know it’s permanent. Because they’re choosing responsibility over assumption. And ultimately, that’s far more ethical than bringing a life into the world and not being able to show up for it. And have you seen the world we live in today? It requires being brave, and having strong will to raise a kid. And I truly applaud the folks who are doing it.

@madmanweb EXACTLY. We dont need any more Bua, fufa's to interfere in our life.

I'm reading dumbass takes all over Twitter on people choosing to not have kids. Do what makes you happy, boss. Why insist on it being the only option for everyone? Their life choices have zero impact on you. Imagine if I say you will not be happy unless you love karela.

Vishal is an expert in real estate industry and yet he doesn't understand the reason behind this decision. Sir, even if I have kids where will I raise them? I cant afford a house in any metro city?

@VishalBhargava5 Tell us the regret part?? What exactly will we regret?? We need the FOMO reason..

A silent pandemic is underway in Indian cities. Far too many couples are opting to not have kids at all. It is the wrong decision. Most will regret it.

@imshwet25 @taditdash Yayy, lets be happy that some of the Americans share our bad manners.

@taditdash Yesterday I saw some American spitting on the road. So yes we are not the only one.

This is not India! This place is just ~10 hours from India… Guess!

@SandeepMall My entire isse with this Have Kids Sermon is you no one even acknowledges the cost behind raising a kid. You tell me have a kid, and then tell me the math as well na?. Why restrict to a generic statement? Not everyone is a millionaire or an entrepreneur.

It’s a very personal matter but definitely a scary trend. Have kids guys. Who will pay tax for your pension. And what’s even the need for marriage if DINK is agenda. As far as nature is concerned that’s the only reason we are born. Life for me would be completely incomplete without my grand child.

@SandeepMall @ajuSingh_07 And yet to want people to have kids.?

@ajuSingh_07 Factories will not need humans for many roles in 5 years.

@ganeshsonawane @mrtechsense Christopher's cafe in Kalyani nagar. Tried it, really good.

@mrtechsense How can i try this tomorrow noon?

Must try: Cranberry sparkling water and espresso shot! 🤌

@ZeroWorkEthic @Nithin0dha Hahah, best tweet of the day

@Nithin0dha Basically: The rich are getting richer, the poor are getting AI, and the middle class is getting philosophical threads from billionaires.

I'll admit this might sound odd coming from me, maybe even clichéd. But it's something I've been sitting with for a while, so here goes. When I started out, like most people, I had a simple wealth goal. I'd actually written it down: hit ₹5 crore, retire in Goa, beach shack, done. That was the dream. After the Zerodha journey, I find myself on a very different side of that equation, and the dark inequalities of wealth and opportunity are harder to ignore than ever. We all know the numbers on inequality. The concentration of wealth among the top 1% is severe and getting worse, and it's even starker among the top 0.1%. The post-2008 era of rising asset prices has likely made this worse, because the people who hold financial assets are, by definition, people who already have money. This isn't unique to India. Barring a few exceptions, it's a global phenomenon. I'm cautious about attributing every socio-political problem we face today to inequality, but it's hard to deny the role it's played in the political upheavals we're seeing across the world. History rarely shows that sustained, extreme inequality ends well. To me, it increasingly feels like sitting in a car with the brakes cut, watching a cliff approach. Btw, all of this even before AI, which has a non-trivial probability of making things worse. I'll stop short of prescribing solutions. It's too easy to reach for simple answers to complicated problems, and that's a separate conversation entirely. But I think we need to collectively acknowledge this: wealth that just sits in financial assets whose value keeps compounding upward doesn't do much good for anyone beyond those who already have it. And if that wealth isn't in motion, if it isn't doing some social good, the fabric that holds us together will only continue to fray and lead to cynicism, resentment, and worse yet, nihilism. We're already seeing all of it. What I am saying is that even if a portion of that wealth were channelled into things that could materially improve lives, that seems worth doing. Hoarding wealth, in the grand scheme of things, doesn't really help anyone.

@aravind Bhai tu wahan baitha hai, OUR kahan se ho gyaa??

Our Sidhant's posts are so straight and reliable, The US House Foreign Affairs Committee (Democrats) read them and quote them. Because they can't reliably rely on US media and their fake news.

@markmbhd @rishibagree @chiragbarjatya Can you see it?.

First in your bloodline to actually expect full-grown trees in a park opened merely weeks ago after it was turned from a garbage dump. Never knew overuse of protein powder could dumb you down to this level of foolishness.