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Is the widower in your life ready to open his heart? 💙 The updated Dating a Widower will help you find out. New cover just dropped! 👇
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Abel Keogh
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Abel Keogh
@abelkeogh
"The Dr. Phil for widowers and widows." Author of 9 books including The Wife in the Next Life, Room for Two, and Dating a Widower. Father of 7. Runner.
Utah, USA Katılım Ocak 2009
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Hit every single green light on my morning run today. Not once did I have to stop or even slow down. 🟢
That kind of momentum is rare. When it hits, you don't question it. You just run further than you planned and feel every bit of it. The road had me, and I was just along for the ride.
Those runs don't happen often. But when they do, you remember them. 🏃♂️
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Христос воскресе!
Christ has risen!
Воистина воскресе!
Truly, He has risen!
Честит Великден!
Happy Easter!
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A viewer writes: "Abel, my widower has asked that we take a break so he can get help with his grief and put his life back together. How long should I wait?"
How long should you wait? Well, you shouldn't wait. Don't put your life on hold for a man who isn't ready to be in it. Taking a break to "work on himself" may be genuine but that's his journey, not yours.
While he’s getting his act together, live your life. Date. Have fun. Do things that help you grow personally and professionally. If he eventually does the work, gets his act together, and comes back — you can decide then whether you still want what he's offering. But that decision gets made on your terms, not from a place of having waited around hoping he'd show up.
Most importantly, when you wait, you don't get those months or years back. Don't give them to someone who isn't even in the relationship right now. The right man won't ask you to wait for him to decide if he wants a life with you. He'll already know.
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He shouldn't have an ex that he's falling back to in the first place. 🚩🚩
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Don’t put your life on hold waiting for him to get his act together. If he's not showing up, making decisions, or moving forward, that’s your answer. His potential doesn’t build a relationship—his actions do. You don’t get those months or years back. Keep moving. The right man won’t need to be dragged into a life with you.
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This week in relationship coaching reminded me just how many people are quietly carrying loneliness. 😕
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@abelkeogh Thank you! Initially things were tense and unpleasant between me and my son when I started dating, but by God's grace that has changed. I'm marrying a lovely widowed lady in a few weeks, and he seems genuinely happy for me. Your advice about dealing with grown kids was helpful.
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The people who recover from devastating loss and go on to build something meaningful all have one thing in common: at some point, they stopped identifying as someone who was grieving and started identifying as someone who was rebuilding.
That shift doesn't mean forgetting whoever they lost, nor does it mean their grief isn't real or the loss profound. It just means they decided which movie they were the main character in: the one where grief is their origin story instead of the backdrop of their life.
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@SteveCarpe85126 Thanks for the kind words, Steve. Hope things keep moving forward with you, your son, and your relationship.
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@abelkeogh I appreciate the content you put out, Abel. I've disagreed on a few minor points, but overall your content has been very helpful after my wife of 24 years took her own life. It's been especially helpful in navigating my relationship with my grown son after I started dating.
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@gabegundy If it was just me and my wife, we would have left it off, but my kids aren't sleeping because it's so hot.
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@abelkeogh Crazy temps. We're still no AC. Going to push it a little bit.
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Typically, I like to see how far into May I can go before turning on the AC. The record is May 27. This year, I turned it on March 25.
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"Start fresh together" = I'm going to spend every cent of it. 🚩🚩🚩
The Husky@Mr_Husky1
I’m about to get married, and my fiancé knows I have an inheritance that was left to me by my grandparents. It’s in my name only, and I’ve been saving it for years. Now he’s saying that before we get married, I should put the entire inheritance into a joint account so we can “start fresh together,” or he doesn’t think we should go through with the wedding. I’m 36 already and this is something my family worked hard to leave me. I’m torn between wanting to build a life together and feeling like I’m being pressured to give up something important to me. What do you think I should do? By isitmeaitah
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In my coaching, I see couples who consistently put their kids first often reach the empty-nest stage and realize they’ve neglected their own relationship and each other. Kids absolutely matter, and there’s a real balance to strike. But when they’re always the top priority, it can come at the cost of the marriage and life. Over time, that tends to create more problems than it prevents.
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Lol so Meghan McCain retweeted and this got too big and people are being too weird about it so I'm muting it.
But if we are internet friends and you wanna chat about it, like I'm so happy to. This post is probably stronger than I meant it to be, and it is more about pushing back against a lot of the more individualistic stuff I see circulating on the internet these days
Laura Hudson 🇨🇦@latterdaylaura
My super strong parenting opinion is that while the kids are awake, you come last. No spending all of Saturday golfing. That’s family time. 6 am tee time only, maybe. Wanna go to the gym? Go after the kids go to bed, or wake up at 5. In a few short years, they’ll be out of the house and you’ll have all the time in the world for your own stuff. It’s okay to come last for a while.
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In answer to the DM, no it's not the feds. 😂🙄😂🙄
Abel Keogh@abelkeogh
There is an ice cream truck driving down my street, music blaring. It's March.
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@elnathan_john @JoshDaws They didn't miss it. They picked up an indie book that was selling well and didn't care who or what wrote it.
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Still thinking about this case. Everyone and their uncle swears they can tell AI. That AI can't do this or that. But someone used AI, and a whole publishing house liked and bought the book. The editorial team missed it. A whole major publisher missed it. Marketing team missed it. So called sensitivity readers missed it. It went to press. Until someone on the internet said something.
Olivia Moore@omooretweets
Hachette just cancelled the publication of a popular (fiction) book facing credible allegations of AI use The most fascinating part is watching readers edit their Goodreads ratings in real time People who loved the book when they read it now hate it if AI was involved 🤔
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