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@yurimusings i know that ill never get what i want, and ill never stop being miserable if i just sit around wishing for the pain to go away. having or working towards a good balance of food/shelter/work/hygiene/friends is really helpful too. u *can* create and live ur own life if u fight 4 it

how do i fix myself not having any drive for anything ever

@DoomsdayAtm i mean, ill talk for days/weeks/months w these people, and ill let them tell me what to do/how to play with myself irl. ive also done lots of hypno which feels effective even online. but i like kink, i just wish ppl were more cognizant when it comes to stuff like csa and slavery

@acoolspaceship Right, you're basically just dealing with people hornyposting. It's like how everyone has really strong opinions of poly people but probably have never knowingly spoken to one in their life. There are communities to learn both online and off but you have to go looking.

The reason kinksters tell you to shut up about "analysing our kinks" isn't because we don't want to analyse them, it's bc we've been doing that extensively and we know that you as an outsider have nothing of value to add and would need to be handheld for the most basic shit.

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@Laszlo_Vincze this u?

@acoolspaceship @Clankeruhhst @RedJayson90 how is that possible, you tweet like the most unfuckable person on the planet

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@Mossovanny where would i go to look, though...?? its not out of laziness i just genuinely do not see this discussion taking place + most of the people ive come into contact w engage in kink in a very non-critical and unthoughtful way (or appear to)

@acoolspaceship @doctorbaixue People adress it all the time, even in ways that *you would* agree with. You just haven't looked

@DoomsdayAtm diff places online, mainly discord but tumblr as well recently. i dont really have the resources to go offline w it + ppl online dont even do safety basics like safewords effectively despite how often thats talked abt, so going irl also feels very dangerous

@acoolspaceship And what kink spaces are you typically in to get this perspective?

@Clankeruhhst @RedJayson90 i literally partake in kink on a nearly daily basis lmfaooo 😭😭😭

@RedJayson90 @acoolspaceship @doctorbaixue I mean there are conversations to be had just not with that dude its like if two gay people were talking about their experiences with homophobia a cis straight guy tried chiming in about it thinking they know more

@edge_story gender norms are based in misogyny/patriarchy 😭 men have a lot of limitations, but we live in a system thats structured to uphold male power and push down female power

@acoolspaceship So… gender stereotypes/norms in general, not misogyny specifically.

@edge_story and sure, but how often do you see a woman telling a man to kneel completely unsolicited? once a week i see a goth woman talking abt being sexually harrassed for being goth in non-sexual spaces, a lot of sub dudes are still really disrespectful unfortunately

@acoolspaceship misogynistic, it’s misandristic. And the unsolicited bit you mentioned seems a bit disconnected from the point because yes but… like you said it’s like any other harassment, it’s no different than the inverse of an unsolicited “kneel for your goddess” or whatever.

@DoomsdayAtm i mean i do not see people think even to that level, at least not openly or often. just walking around like "yeah itd be so hot to be/have a sex slave" without a second thought, to the point where ive felt crazy or like the friend thats too woke for even questioning it

@acoolspaceship @doctorbaixue I'm dying to know what you think "surface level" is if this is your deep insight.

@YaDadsFav420 it's great that you feel in control of it + you have that level of insight on your experience, but that's not the case for everyone participating in kink. i would still recommend diving deeper into it if you're comfortable, it often goes more subconscious than thinking it was ok

@acoolspaceship Brother. I’m a sexual trauma survivor, who read plenty on psychology, who has coped through such kinks… me being into cnc does NOT mean I think it’s okay for anybody to assault me or take advantage of me. Its a sexual scenario I enjoy that I control and can back out of it needed

@edge_story i mean, the reason why you being a sub is subversive at all is bc of misogyny. its not misogynistic in of itself, but you can still be misogynistic as a sub. an unsolicited "step on me dommy mommy" is just as bad as any other sexual harassment for example

@acoolspaceship @doctorbaixue How exactly is me being a sub misogynistic? I’m a guy.

@pupzasha im speaking from my experience in the community. vast majority of people ive come into contact with display the bare minimum awareness of social issues, if that. i feel like theres more mh discussion but its very surface level/not really about the negative side of things

@acoolspaceship @doctorbaixue This is shit kinksters talk about all the time. SO many of us talk about how our kinks are related to our trauma or mental health issues. Again, people who are not part of this community are speaking on us despite being wildly unaware of our community.

@YaDadsFav420 that last part is really misinformed 😭😭 a lot of kink in general (esp cnc) is actually people playing into + reinforcing their trauma and the beliefs + responses they developed bc of it please read a book on sexual trauma by a psychologist

@acoolspaceship @doctorbaixue Wait till you find out many people have kinks that literally stem from trauma and are a way to cope and take back their power. Wait till you hear about CNC, you’ll shit your pants.

@doctorbaixue then why does no one address it, why does everyone pretend like it doesn't exist?

@acoolspaceship That's the most surface level stuff