Adele Bloch

What's a cheat code to adulting?

We're rolling out a small tweak to boost visibility of your posts to your mutuals (people who you follow back). We noticed this data was missing from the algo and it made your friends appear less in your replies. This resulted in the reply section feeling more like a battleground with people you don't recognize. This should also help clusters form around interests more easily, which many people have asked for.

We're rolling out a small tweak to boost visibility of your posts to your mutuals (people who you follow back). We noticed this data was missing from the algo and it made your friends appear less in your replies. This resulted in the reply section feeling more like a battleground with people you don't recognize. This should also help clusters form around interests more easily, which many people have asked for.

We're rolling out a small tweak to boost visibility of your posts to your mutuals (people who you follow back). We noticed this data was missing from the algo and it made your friends appear less in your replies. This resulted in the reply section feeling more like a battleground with people you don't recognize. This should also help clusters form around interests more easily, which many people have asked for.

We're rolling out a small tweak to boost visibility of your posts to your mutuals (people who you follow back). We noticed this data was missing from the algo and it made your friends appear less in your replies. This resulted in the reply section feeling more like a battleground with people you don't recognize. This should also help clusters form around interests more easily, which many people have asked for.

i've started working with people on their writing, voice, and public body of work, and it has become some of the most fulfilling work I’ve ever done the work is basically: creating a container and mirror for the ideas already in you, finding the signal, then helping it become more real in public if you feel something in your mind wanting to take shape through public writing, essays, a newsletter, or a clearer body of work, reach out

my friend asked if i had any tips for hosting an easy holiday gathering (of course I do!!!) this is an underrated skill - knowing how to bring people together in a low-lift way tips: > common misconceptions: you don't need a million friends, a perfect place, or an overly complicated plan > hosting is as simple as bringing people together for a shared experience with good vibes > not enough people host gatherings anymore (we're in a loneliness crisis ya'll!!) - everyone will be SO grateful that you got them together. challenge yourself!! make it happen!! pick an experience: > casual event ideas: inviting friends out to dinner (your home OR restaurant), sunday morning coffee, picnic in a park, cozy movie night + hot chocolate > holiday season vibes: ugly sweater party, cookie decorating, gift exchange, friendsgiving, and MORE! > you don't need to go over the top for your first one. pick something that genuinely excites you invites: > make a list of everyone you'd love to connect with in your area. coworkers, gym buddies, neighbors, old friends, new friends, that person you met last week, that other person you always say "we should hang!" to > a good event has a balance of old friends + new faces > you don't need to fill all the seats yourself. give people a plus-one option - takes pressure off you AND them > invite the friends you're MOST confident will say yes FIRST and have them RSVP before sending it more broadly so that there is early signs of momentum on the event > send a personalized message to people about why you'd love to see them there - it will help increase RSVP rates!! leading up: > totally ok to have people bring something!! it makes it more fun to have their buy-in > don't worry so much - people will remember the vibe, not the details! they'll remember how you made them feel! > remember to have FUN!!! you're bringing your people together!! you're being a positive contributor to your community!!! you're the reason people will make new friends and have a fun time tonight!!! challenge yourself to host something this holiday season!! don't overcomplicate it - pick a date and send the invite!! people will be honored you invited them!!! you've got this!!!

when it comes to social anxiety/ loneliness/ isolation/ etc, basically everyone thinks about it 100% wrong. you're looking in the wrong direction when someone "feels left out" that is 9 times out of 10 a skill issue ON THE PART OF THE HOST every social context is hosted by someone. sometimes 1 sometimes 2 people who set the boundaries of the container it's nearly always true whether or not it's obvious. as mammals our sociality is always enacted and mediated through hierarchies the nervous system state of the host transmits automatically and irresistibly into the nervous systems of all their guests we live in an era of depleted hospitality. it's common to meet people who believe they "don't do well in groups", bc they've never been invited into a properly hosted space conviviality is a field that expands from the hearts of 1 or 2 people when they take responsibility for a social space. a skilled host can create optimal conditions for hundreds of people at once if you're "socially anxious", instead of beating yourself up, you can ask more from your hosts