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@aukitstic EHEHEHE

@aelibunn I LOVE THIS GIF SO MUCH LMAO 😭😭 & i'm glad this post reached exactly who it was supposed to :)

i hate making mistakes & accidentally hurting people / making them uncomfortable, but i LOVE getting constructive criticism, learning why something was hurtful & how to avoid that mistake in the future. ty to anyone who gives me grace & an opportunity to become a better person!!

@aukitstic head emotionally even if the literal meaning itself isn’t racist and since you’re german + a non-native english speaker, it makes complete sense to me why the distinction feels way less obvious from ur perspective, especially when both those sentences mean the same semantically!

@aukitstic yeah honestly i think part of this is probably also just cultural/language differences too!! because in my american brain, there’s a LOT of historical baggage attached to black women being associated with masculinity, so certain phrasings immediately set off alarm bells in my…

it'll do the opposite. as has been shown in the US. this will & has lead to not "only" trans women, but lesbians & gender non-conforming women in general, as well as Black women (because they are perceived as more masculine due to racism) getting questioned, harassed & assaulted.

@aukitstic whereas “black women are often masculinized because of racism” puts the focus more on the racism/social process itself. does that make sense? but genuinely i think you handled this conversation really thoughtfully and respectfully!!

@aukitstic like the difference is less about the dictionary meaning and more about what feels “centered” in the sentence. “black women are perceived as masculine” can accidentally put the focus on black women + masculinity together in people’s brains first,…

@aukitstic absolutely!!! :D you are such a sweetheart yona, i don’t think ive ever had someone look, analyze, understand a situation like this as wonderfully as you did here with me!!!

@aelibunn you also don't have to of course, i know it's not your responsibility! & it doesn't matter that i didn't intend harm, i genuinely appreciate constructive criticism. if i can improve the way i talk about these issues by learning from people who are affected, i'd love to do that.

@aukitstic but genuinely i understand what you meant now and i really appreciate how open and considerate you’ve been throughout this conversation!!! (´；ω；`)

@aukitstic masculinity is an inherent trait of black women.

@aukitstic i just wanted to emphasize that distinction because it’s a really loaded stereotype historically (｡•́︿•̀｡) i know you didn’t mean harm!!

@aukitstic that’s my bad though i know you weren’t trying to say blk women are inherently masculine and i do understand the point you were making about black women also being targeted by gender policing….

this is a really good summary of symbols worn by far-right people (nazis. if they use these they are nazis idc). some of them are specific to germany, but many of them aren't / have been adopted by the right in other countries knowing these can help you identify them & stay safe

Trans women have been using the ladies loos for two decades in the UK. There is NO evidence to suggest women are at a greater risk because of it. This is a made-up problem caused by some rich bigots. Excluding trans peoples from single sex spaces will not make c!s women safer.

@aukitstic idk the wording just rubbed me the wrong way as a black woman because historically black women have been masculinized for centuries and denied femininity/womanhood because of it. but i totally agree with you!! (3/3)

@aukitstic like black women are not inherently “more masculine.” racist beauty standards and racism masculinize black women in people’s perception. those are two completely different statements. (2/3)