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@pilatesdeer Yess this. I get not being official right away, but if it doesn't feel intentional, like with a growing connection and a relationship being the goal, I end up just feeling unsure and used, like someone's source of "fun" 🙄 Gonna try to maintain this boundary, dating sux

"situationships" are ugly and selfish because one person has more power than the other in a really bad way. the person who feels "lucky to be noticed by the other" experiences an all-consuming limerence, unable to relax or understand where they stand with the other person. In a real relationship, intentional pursuit and the label of girlfriend/boyfriend provides peace and solace, creating a normal, healthy dynamic that has way more potential for lasting long-term, and protecting one's heart from manipulation and being used.

@justalexoki I agree with you that this is close enough to visualization 4 me that it doesn't feel disabling. The only thing that has made me reach for the label of aphantasia is relying on the description of other people, who seem to describe a mind's eye so concrete it's like hallucination

@justalexoki I can't procure the image of an apple (or anything) in my mind's eye as a concrete thing I'm looking at. But I can still conceptualize and remember the memory of how things looked. It's like thinking about how things look rather than seeing them

i am certain aphantasia is fake, they just don't understand what visualizing something means

@CartoonsHateHer Idk if you are familiar with attachment theory but this reads a lot as the classic anxious woman-avoidant man scenario! Your theory probably doesn't work on all men or especially healthy ones imo.

If this is happening to you, maybe you are also too supplicating! cartoonshateher.com/p/the-men-year…

I was asked to write about the epiphany I had when I realized that being demure and agreeable was not a good romantic strategy for women--listen to what men do, not what they say. Link in replies.

@danidonovan Setting a 30 min timer with the goal of getting as much done in a task as possible, playing music while doing so. When the 30 mins is over, often the momentum is created to keep going, but doing this first helps me to gamify it and make it more interesting/urgent

Hey ADHD friends: What ✨actually✨ helps you manage your time better? ⏰ Any hacks/strategies are appreciated—even if they only worked for a short time! 💖

@lananelfros @democracynjoyer @celine4cix @hjk27uk @Aldreath @MediumSizeMeech I can confirm dark brown hair can shine golden in the light, my hairdresser said this is what mine does. It's part of why Deep Autumn is my color season. Brown hair can run cool or warm like blonde. (But I'm also not against gatekeeping blonde hair, dishwater blonde is a thing)

@democracynjoyer @celine4cix @hjk27uk @Aldreath @MediumSizeMeech Seems like an overly broad definition of blonde. Most brown hair does turn golden in sunlight. Only very dark brunettes (like me) do not have golden lights.

I’m convinced white people don’t know what colour blonde is since a lot of them are blonde as children and then their hair gets darker as they age. That’s not your life no more baby, you’re BRUNETTE

@CartoonsHateHer Yeah, she ran a quite centrist sort of campaign. The only thing maybe not centrist about it was there was a lot of focus put on abortion, which I'm not the right person to ask if that was a turn-off (I am pro abortion).

@DanielleFong @heyalexchoi This is the take. School's definitely not set up for all teens to succeed and it takes a toll on many. I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease as a teen that probably wasn't an accident, and I'm unpacking self-esteem trauma from that stressful period in therapy to this day

tbh i think teenagers are running a millennia optimized biological program growing their bodies and brains before their forebrain matures. it's not just about willpower. society has had much longer to optimize itself than any teenager has had time to squeeze themselves in this ill fitting box.

my cofounder presented a study that showed teenagers learn better if they can sleep in a little more, and the school came back with “well we can’t adjust it now, we have a contract with the bus drivers” oh, so the school is for the benefit of the bus drivers?? much like the port is for the benefit of the longshoremen, and the polity is for the benefit of the politicians, eh?

@annak1ns Congratulations, that's huge 😊💕

20 quizzes. 11 exams. 7 skill check offs. 2 simulations later… i finished my first semester of nursing school! god is so good 🥰📚

@Knimbleyx I just finished the Mistborn series! I really enjoyed it! ❤️ I started to read his Stormlight Archives series recently and I'm kind of struggling a bit, as I tend to do when starting something new, but excited to get into it.

Library Run 💕( ღ’ᴗ’ღ )

@B1zzle Thanks for using it, it looks so mystical! 🥹🌙

@Knimbleyx Living for this loook, your hair, the necklace, the coat 😍😍 The caption 🥺

@heli_bloo Love you too Heli! 💕

@giingersnaaap so pretty, love your bangs and eye makeup ❤️

@mossmoria I feel like this is a very thoughtful thing to express. I've become a little more shy about things online, but social media is likely best when it's about being social and connecting and not just scrolling 💕

Okie but can we start a caring era? I feel like we all just consume stuff and forget to interact with people on posts. Leave a cute comment and make someone's day 💛✨ (p.s most of my posts go in drafts so i get its hard to speak up <3) Let's try together 🥹

@Mollys_ADHD Structuring time, big projects like essays or research papers

As a neurodivergent, what made or makes school overwhelming for you?

@polypocketknife Dr. Berg You can also read the book Metabolical which agrees with Dr. Berg and has the science to back it up, but the targeted videos on what you're looking for are nice

genuine question where the fuck can i find real actual advice on healthy food that isn’t propaganda from agriculture lobbyists, grifters pushing fad diets, or bullshit pseudoscience? i constantly hear conflicting things and all the studies seem to be funded by the food companies

@emilykmay Getting more sleep greatly improves my life when I can manage, I have early shifts 🥺 It sucks when I have to cut tasks out of my day bc I run out of time, but the clean, non-shitty slate the next day makes it worth it to substitute more sleep instead- usually, I believe

what's a small thing you've done that's greatly improved your life?

@thechosenberg I'm dying!!!!! This is so real There was this guy who told me I looked tired at work every day a few years ago and eventually I told him off lmao It's just not a nice thing to tell someone...every day... it's shady

Daily life is filled with such high drama

@KingDylpickle Ah ok,I saw "vulnerable about IRL problems" & connected it to say, venting on stream/discord too many times when maybe that's not the place as the comm. leader, based on my own reflection. I don't think anyone would take an issue with saying you had a bad day or needed to cancel!

@aforestlife For sure it’s a balance but my take on this wasn’t oversharing or trauma dumping but more or less not faking a smile on the internet. All of these influences make it seem they are perfect with no struggles in life. Sharing a little shows you’re relatable and human.

Why is it considered “unprofessional” to be vulnerable/honest with your audience about mental health, IRL problems, etc? I am here to entertain and foster a positive space but I’m a human-being. I can’t be “on” all the time and it’s toxic for me to hold that expectation.