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April D Gregory
@aprildgregory
Here for TTPD board meetings, Purdue 🏀 and as much politics as I can tolerate. Liverpool N2/Indy N3 🫶
Indianapolis, IN Katılım Nisan 2009
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@MegKeene @JillFilipovic Yeah, you’re exactly right. Of course that’s how you find the right one. I’m not disputing that. My problem was the implication of staying in relationships with people *you know you’re not going to marry* just because you’re young. That is problematic.
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I dated guys I didn’t marry. Most people do. Thats how you find the one you do marry? After college I didn’t invest vast amounts of time in men who I realized I didn’t want to marry (bc I was clear I wanted to be married by 30 with kids shortly after). But dating was the process of figuring out what and who I did want.
But to echo @JillFilipovic women haven more education than they did four decades ago. Also dating is falling apart for 20 somethings but that’s a broader issue.
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This whole conversation is just so weird to me. Truly how many people do you know who are like “wow I really wish I would have married the you I dated at 21, when I was in my prime family-forming years!” Of course work is a big consideration but that’s also tied up in becoming oneself and finding a partner, not just a warm body.
Ross Douthat@DouthatNYT
I think a strong message to both sexes is that relationships are less important than education/career choices until you hit a level of success at which you're "ready" for marriage/kids - and the unready period takes up a lot of prime family-forming years. x.com/olgakhazan/sta…
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@Ruesavatar All these women saying they don’t need men in these modern times then they let men do this. 🤔
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I skipped this entire thing the first time- met my ex at 24, married by 26, then two beautiful children, built a house, and then… well y’all know what happened.
So here I am closing in on 40 looking at this modern world of dating with immense dread and horror. I would rather continue being alone forever than to put myself through anything like the scenario below. 😳
Mac 🍃@ihymacc
Your modern love story sir
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@lizisamused Yeah, that’s the normal process. However, she’s referencing 21 year olds who have already figured out they’re not with a partner who suits them and they’re staying with them anyway.
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@aprildgregory @JillFilipovic @MegKeene That's like asking why people start a job & realize they hate it & make better choices later.
I learned from my failed relationships. I now have a partner who suits me.
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@Aksinia00447 @JillFilipovic @MegKeene Definitely don’t settle! We’ve done *enough* of that. I would think one relationship would end first before you go on to meet the next so that’s part of why it doesn’t make sense to me that you’d prevent yourself from meeting someone better by staying (settling) with the first.
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@aprildgregory @JillFilipovic @MegKeene If a woman meets a man she loves more than the one she’s with, she’ll normally break up with the first guy. The man you love ultimately is generally not your bf at 21 - that doesn’t mean that early love is a waste. It’s not “girlbossy” to not settle out of necessity
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@JillFilipovic @MegKeene Both of those things can be true at the same time. And both are true. But so is what Ross is saying in that it’s detrimentally taking up prime family forming years.
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@aprildgregory @MegKeene Ross is saying that women are told relationships are less important than career success, and so women prioritize career over relationships. I am saying women can have jobs now, and so we don't have to depend on men for money, so we don't have to marry the first one we find.
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Sure, you can do that. It seems completely illogical though when you could instead have a fantastic time, love, pleasure, companionship with someone forever. However, the premise of the conversation was “missing out on babies” because of “messages.” I think your pointing out that women *don’t need* to marry… because of presumably educational/career opportunities, which sounds kinda girlbossy and now we’ve come full circle.
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@aprildgregory @JillFilipovic @MegKeene Because we can fall in love with, and have a fantastic time with, men we don’t want to be with forever? This isn’t wasted time or effort, it’s love and pleasure and companionship.
The shift is that women don’t *need* to marry so they don’t rush it
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I can appreciate higher standards being recognized now particularly as it pertains to emotional wellbeing, respect, etc so then why spend time dating a guy that doesn’t meet those standards? However, I don’t find your use of “opportunities” any different than Ross pointing to “educational/career choices, success.”
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@aprildgregory @MegKeene I think the shift is that women now have more opportunities and higher standards.
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Why are they dating that guy then? Why don’t they want to marry him? Investing that much time and effort for what? And surely we can recognize a cultural shift in the last 2, 3, 4 decades from when we did traditionally see women settling down in their 20s. So what was that shift then?
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That's great! But it sounds like you found the person you actually wanted to be with at 24 and then settled down with him. I am responding to Ross's suggestion that the barrier to women settling down in their 20s is "girlboss" culture. And my point was that most women *don't* want to marry the guy they're dating at 21 -- and those who do... do. Just like you did.
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Calendar blocked, busy, out of office.
Tom Cruise@TomCruise
Two films. One big screen. Back in theaters, May 13th, for one week only.
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live your life with no regret because tomorrow is not promised
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@emilykmay Will there be a livestream so we can live vicariously 😭 Maybe if length is a concern for Daylight/Timeless, have Daylight start after the second verse at the prechorus or chorus.
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@a_eldstdaughter @witty_user_name I just needed confirmation that I was on the right track 😭 now I just need someone to clean up the audio for Mary's song x so high school x everything has changed for my first dance 😂
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swiftie followers: I'm going to walk down the aisle to the last verse of "timeless" beginning with "in a crowded room a few short years ago, and sometimes there's no proof, you just know"
but what other Taylor song could I play that would transition well into that final verse?
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I totally agree, but my parents gave me one of the oldest names in human history and I still have to spell it constantly bc SOME PEOPLE had to make spelling kids’ names stupidly a whole thing.
Carlos That Notices Things@QuetzalPhoenix
Normalize giving your kids a normal name that they dont have to explain or spell to every single person they meet for their entire life because their parents wanted to feel special.
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All of it is so much easier (&better!) than people like to make it. You literally level up your identity because there’s more versions of you now! (But if you do get the idea to let them pick out their own clothes then you can become coastal granddaughter mom of… toddler-rave-princess-chic and that’s kind of special too.)
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This. Young women should know that whatever your aesthetic is, you can just add “mom” to it when you have kids.
If your vibe is coastal granddaughter or whatever, congrats you are now a coastal granddaughter mom. Idk why people think they have to lose all sense of style and identity.
Andrea D. Huberwoman, Ph.D.@thegenesisbl0ck
We need to rebrand motherhood. The reason that parenting aesthetic tweet went viral is because most women don’t resonate with the tradwife, but want children. Tradwife was a necessary swing back from the anti-child narrative. But it’s not the only version of motherhood. Rich mom, butter mom, city mom, yoga mom whatever mom. It doesn’t matter. Motherhood is something you can make your OWN, to blend seamlessly into YOUR life. After all, it’s YOUR children you’re raising. And that’s the beauty of it.
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@DrJohnFrame Well, of course, Jesus can have meant "is" means "is."
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When Jesus said to his disciples, “This is my body,” he cannot have meant that the bread and wine on the table were his literal body, for his literal body was behind the table, not on it.
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What’s the over/under on the number of ‘28 prospective candidates who could pull off a McAffee hit?
Pat McAfee@PatMcAfeeShow
Joining us NOW @GovernorShapiro 👏 #PMSLive
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@CalebJHull This child didn’t perform how you wanted her to? Gross commentary.
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She didn’t run to him, she didn’t smile, and she ran away immediately after this pic.
ESPN@espn
Rory and his daughter Poppy after he won his second Masters 💚
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@BrandenL09 Well, you have to make enough money so she doesn’t have to work! That’s kind of the premise of this particular topic! Also, I’m not really participating in this conversation so much as I’m saying a lot the ones who are, are doing it poorly.
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@aprildgregory @BeverlyHallberg @Gabby_Hoffman No. That young is ridiculous. But maybe be willing to date men who (gasp) make slightly less money than you or slightly less educated. Women on the East coast would not do this when I was there 10 years ago in my 20s. I came home to the Midwest and most women didn’t care at all
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I know amazing men in DC, so I’m not here to paint them with a broad brush. Just as it’s neither helpful nor accurate to do the same with women.
But the idea that participating in purposeful work while waiting for marriage is the same as choosing a career over marriage simply isn’t true. Most conservative women are being good stewards of their time by being productive citizens, especially in areas that promote conservative policies.
Last, if we want conservative men in DC to get married to likeminded women we’re going to need conservative women in the nation’s capital.
Michael Knowles@michaeljknowles
It's not so much that Millennial and Gen X women consciously choose careers over marriage. It's that the choices they make (and are encouraged to make) make marriage less likely. Case in point: moving to D.C., where the men are sociopaths or homosexuals or both.
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@SchutteDustin On Sunday, straight to 18 to get the best spot possible. Hop around the other days.
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What’s your strategy if you’re at Augusta on Sunday?
Following the final group? Setting up camp at a specific hole? Watching your favorite golfer still in play?
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@BeverlyHallberg @Gabby_Hoffman Some of the men in this discourse come across as if a woman should just marry the first man who, charitably, of course, shows interest in her at age 18 , and live in utopia, as if there are zero compatibility factors & etc to be assessed.
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@aprildgregory @Gabby_Hoffman Definitely significant to highlight women need to pay bills too! Working women also are contributing taxes and not taking from welfare. These are good things.
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