Collins Azuike

The more we build in life the more self control we need.

I have friends who are older and very fit because of their lifestyle. They don't drink or smoke and exercise daily. They also have the most unfit kids who don't follow their example. This has always worried me as I am raising young children. I have also seen families with hard-working and wealthy parents who raise the laziest and most entitled children. We always want our children to do better than us, but when and where does this go wrong for most people? I think it comes from the time and attention we personally give our kids and the lapses we allow. My wife and I are early risers. I have a particular sleep problem I am still trying to solve, but my kids can sleep all day on vacation if you let them. A friend with an older son who had just graduated and was back home, jobless, used to tell me how alarmed he was that the son would go out all night, come back early in the morning, and sleep all day. I told him then that if he didn't force him to change that habit, he would remain jobless and stay with his parents longer. They eventually forced him to change, and he moved out. He has a job now and struggles a lot. His parents are concerned that he isn't thriving. He is now almost 30, and I think about this all the time. At 25, I was a beast and had started many businesses. While we want our kids and young adults to experience life on their own terms in a world vastly different from the one we grew up in, we can't help but notice that others whose children were more disciplined are thriving better. One indicator I have seen that correlates with success in younger people is fitness. A friend’s son started going to the gym regularly, and he even inspired his cousins to do so. I checked on LinkedIn recently, and he is doing exceptionally well as a lawyer and investment banker without any family connections or assistance. His younger cousins, who are looking up to him, are following in his footsteps. I decided to get my kids to spend more time with him. The role models our children need may be closer to their age than ours. It is why we need to amplify the lifestyles of young, disciplined, and successful people more. Not every person will make it through creative pursuits. I stress this to my kids all the time. There are billions of YouTube channels, but there is only one MrBeast or IShowSpeed. Social media is highlighting more unrealistic role models than the most useful ones. My daughter is likely one of the most intelligent young children that I know, but because she doesn't want to be seen as a nerd, she is adapting to popular culture to blend in, in a way that scares me. This sometimes affects the way she learns. While I don't want to restrict her now from experiencing the world, I have realized that she needs different role models. My son’s role models are nerds, and he nerds out in ways that surprise me and it is also worrying. We can be watching a movie, and he goes online to research it and summarise the plot so he can leave to code. He is not experiencing life enough outside the internet. They will either eventually be ok in a world very different from ours or struggle in a world that becomes worse than ours, without the skills to build personal resilience and strong social skills. I recently had a personal experience that made me realize I was fortunate to have left home early and to have different role models from my parents. Having a broken home led to different outcomes for my siblings and me, but the fact that I had strong personalities like my mother’s uncle and the uncles I grew up around helped me learn a lot more about life and priorities. The world is a very complex place, and life is not a bed of roses. While we want the best outcomes for our kids, we have to finally admit that they will learn far more from others than they will ever learn from us. The best thing we can do for them is expose them to the right kind of people early enough, then hope and pray that we didn't misread those people.

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“Et tu, Brute?” The wounds that hurt the most are usually inflicted by those closest to us. Know your place in people’s lives. Not everyone values you the way you value them. Understanding that brings peace, reduces worry, and protects your happiness.

@MTNNG and @Sterling_Bankng what is happening? Why can’t I find the data i was debited for?

Trying to do the right thing in Nigeria is actually tougher, economically demanding, time consuming and more stressful than doing the wrong things. It's sad

This is life changing. The numbers are staggering. This is what happens when you read your Bible four days a week.

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I am tired. We are tired. Tired of fear. Tired of silence. Tired of paying to be treated like humans. I demand accountability. I demand justice. cc: @AishaYesufu @ruffydfire @Chude #EndExtortion #JusticeForAll #DeltaState #Nigeria #PoliceReform #StopTheAbuse

@InibeheEffiong @RtHonSheriff This is how trust dies. Not in one big moment but in daily, quiet injustice. Today it’s me. Tomorrow, it’s someone else who may not have a voice. cc: @Princemoye1 @DeltaPoliceNG @ICPC_PE @officialEFCC

@InibeheEffiong Dear @RtHonSheriff, There is already a court ruling that DESTMA has no right to impound vehicles. Yet they continue, unchecked. If those meant to uphold the law ignore it… What hope does the average Nigerian have?

Dear @RtHonSheriff, Must an ordinary Nigerian suffer humiliation before being heard? cc: @ARISEtv @channelstv @MobilePunch @PremiumTimesng @thecableng

Actions create clarity. What we do speaks louder than what we say. In action, decisions are made and direction is revealed.

Do it or don’t. Time will pass either way.