diandra

imagine dating someone and it works out and you two are together for the rest of your lives

Words : 0% 😭 Understanding : 100% 🥹❤️

Me and who??

Girl … I hope your next man chooses you loudly, so you never have to wonder.

@van_ilafingers @NuJhayhne Lmaooo 😭😭

@NuJhayhne yess love her, love her the way she's over weight, until she's paralyzed from neck down because of diabetes, 🥰

agree??

Gue tipikal org yg foreplay HARUS lebih lama dari penetrasi. Sorry gue gasegan2 dorong pasangan gue yg ngotot pene sedangkan gue masih pengen sayang2an di foreplay. Dah mending gausa ngewe aja kl maunya enak di lo doang. Trus gue ke toilet bersih2. Mampus kentang

DYSPAREUNIA (PAINFUL SEX) LETS TALK ABOUT PAINFUL SEX WITHOUT SHAME BECAUSE SEX IS NOT MEANT TO HURT IT IS MORE COMMON THAN YOU THINK. READ. SHARE. REPOST When Pleasure Hurts: A Woman’s Body Is Speaking, and We Must Listen There is a story many women carry quietly, and it begins in a bedroom and ends in silence. It is the story of pain where pleasure is expected, and of endurance where joy should live. Dyspareunia is the name medicine gives to painful sex, and yet the experience itself has existed long before we learned to label it. As a gynaecologist, I say this without apology and without whispering: sex is not meant to hurt, and when it does, the body is not being dramatic, it is being honest. According to the guidance of the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists(RCOG), painful sex should never be dismissed, because pain is often a message, and messages deserve interpreters, and interpreters deserve time. Sometimes the pain waits at the doorway of the vagina, like a guard refusing entry, and sometimes it hides deep inside the pelvis, like a secret with sharp edges. Superficial pain may come from dryness, from infections, from conditions of the vulva, and from the quiet hormonal changes of menopause or breastfeeding, when oestrogen slips away like a lover who forgot to say goodbye. Deep pain, however, may whisper the names of heavier things: endometriosis, pelvic infections, fibroids, ovarian cysts, or adhesions, and these are not small matters, even when they are spoken of in small voices. But the body does not live alone, it shares space with memory and fear and culture. And so pain is not always only physical. Anxiety tightens muscles. Past trauma writes itself into tissue. Relationship stress creeps into nerves. Cultural shame sits heavily on the pelvis. The muscles clench not because they are stubborn, but because they are afraid. This is why silence is dangerous, and why secrecy delays healing. Many women think, This is normal, and so they endure. And endurance becomes habit. And habit becomes harm. Painful sex erodes self-esteem, strains love, dulls desire, and leaves emotional bruises that cannot be seen on a scan, yet they are real, and they are heavy. It is also important to name things properly, because language shapes understanding. Dyspareunia means intercourse is possible, but painful, often because something medical can be found and treated. Vaginismus, on the other hand, is when the vaginal muscles tighten without permission, when the body says no even if the mind says yes. Dyspareunia says, 'Something hurts.' Vaginismus says, 'I am protecting you.' And sometimes, they walk together, hand in hand, pain and fear, feeding each other. Care, when it is done well, begins with listening, and continues with gentle examination, and then with tests when needed, and imaging when the pain lives deep. Treatment may look like lubricants or vaginal oestrogen for dryness, antibiotics for infections, hormonal therapy for endometriosis, physiotherapy for tense pelvic muscles, and counselling when fear or trauma is part of the story. This is not indulgence; it is medicine. This is not weakness; it is wisdom. So let us say it clearly, and say it loudly, and say it without embarrassment: painful sex is common, and medical, and treatable. You are not broken. You are not abnormal. You are not overreacting. Your body is speaking, and it is speaking in the language of pain, and pain is a language we must learn to understand. Because pleasure should not require suffering, and love should not demand endurance, and silence should never be the price a woman pays for intimacy.

Just remember that this human experience is temporary. You arrive with nothing, you spend your whole life chasing everything, but still leave with nothing. So make sure that your soul gains more than your hands.

In your 30s, there will come a moment when you have to choose between the life you’re living and the life you truly want. It’s essential that you choose the path that challenges you, the one that scares you the most, because that’s where growth and fulfillment live.

Can we have a conversation about how some of us may NOT get a spouse? Some of our fates are to be in a forever single season. I appreciate folks optimism, but there has to be a realistic viewpoint as well.

BEING BROKE IS ONE THING, BUT WATCHING YOURSELF GET OLDER WITHOUT ANY PROGRESS IN LIFE. THAT IS STRAIGHT UP DEPRESSION.

Not to sound delusional, but please pray for grace. Life isn’t really about hard work. It’s more about alignment, meeting the right people, grace, mercy, and favour.

@lovecouplx Kinda sad seeing someone out there living my dream 🥲

love language

Life changes. You lose love. You lose friends. You lose pieces of yourself that you never imagined would be gone. And then, without you even realizing it, these pieces come back. New love enters. Better friends come along. And a stronger, wiser you is staring back in the mirror.

As you’re praying for a good job, be praying for good people to work with as well. More than anything, pray for a kind team lead cos they can make or mar you.

Any single female reading this, I pray you find love. The love that's sweet and pure. The one you've always wanted and desired to have. I pray when it comes, it stays.

If you're single, a useful habit to build is that whenever you see someone that makes you curious, you go talk them. I mean in the supermarket and stuff. Not in a pickup artist way, but just being open to the world. If you're an introvert, like me, talking to strangers in public is super awkward at first, but as with anything, exposure training makes it feel normal in a month or two. It is like free money on the ground when it comes to meeting friends and finding love. You're in that bookstore anyway, you're noticing they are looking at your favorite book anyway, it costs almost nothing to say that to them. And the upside can be huge. I met my wife in a bookstore like that. My brother met his wife because she walked up to him in a nature reserve where he likes to hike and asked him if she could walk with him.