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Lake Superior is 1,333 ft deep, but 25 miles offshore lies a reef that kisses the surface of the water. It’s the home of Stannard Rock Lighthouse, the furthest offshore lighthouse in the US and most boring place in North America
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“All of the agents who had been to Minnesota told me they never wanted to go back for any reason.”
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Hasan Piker responds to heckler asking if he called for Charlie Kirk's death
"I was supposed to debate Charlie. He respected that.
It's sad to see the the conservative movement refuse to carry the flame.
I on the other hand, do carry that flame. Because we are Charlie Kirk."
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we were not meant to be compartmentalized and diagnosed like this lmao there’s no way all of u on here have Never people pleased or been avoidant or anxious or jealous or a little Messy ever like you are a Human and Humans famously have Ugly Feelings that’s what it’s all about
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guys sometimes ppl just do shit and it isnt a permanent category. you cannot find the perfect abuser or avoid them. you have avoided conflict, you have people pleased, you have been confrontational, you have been wrong, right, and neither. this society isn’t kind like
anj@bye_anj
non-confrontational people are dangerous esp when they tell everyone *but* you their problem with *you* because you go around them thinking everything’s okay but everyone is being weird towards you and sometimes even hateful
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me: how was school today
6yo niece: i already told everyone. i'm tired of these conversations. how was school how was school
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Banner above Pineda Tacos on Lake St in Minneapolis:
THANK YOU MINNESOTA
Our Gratitude and affection go out to each and every one of you. Thank you for all the support received. Because in moments of darkness, you were the light on our paths
MINNESOTA: Loves - Feels - Resists
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My take on the whole cat sitter discourse on TikTok is that the owner should be allowed to shoot the cat sitter.
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Something most people don't understand is that you can't heal a trauma response by trying to shame it out of the person displaying it. In fact, that's a really good way to reinforce it and make it worse.
🩸Kit@KitsuneKismet
I think calling people-pleasers and avoidants manipulative when it’s a trauma response makes you a super bad person, actually
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@shestryingxjd im not arguing that people pleasers dont need therapy lol. thats quite obvious. just like people who physically or verbally assault others when their nervous system is activated. i also didnt call for “endless emphathy” ….. i literally said “a little goes a long way” …. :)
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@caragresh the harm of people pleasing (avoidance) in interpersonal relationships is unfortunately one that is not conducive to endless ‘empathy’ in the way you define it.
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people pleasers are some of the least vulnerable people i’ve ever met lol. the defining trait of people pleasing is dishonesty, how can you be dishonest and vulnerable at the same time? you’re prioritising immediate reputation over morals, it’s cowardly lol
lonely lonely@lonelyholdme
they hate it because observable vulnerability invokes a disgust response in a lot of people. it may be unconscious, but the tone with which people talk about people-pleasing on here makes it clear to me that the problem is with the pleaser being pitiable, & therefore disgusting.
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@xozmbie @elizabethbelsky yeah i know, no one is arguing against that lol. her point is shaming ppl for their nervous system response isnt helpful. it can make it worse.
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@shestryingxjd interpersonal relationships because they are unable to show people who they really are bc they were punished for it at some point. having a *little* empathy towards all people with different nervous system reactions can go a long way.
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@shestryingxjd to who they are. saying people pleasing is to save their reputation is a very simple way of putting it. in reality, people pleasers nervous system are hardwired to perceive negative emotions as unsafe due to childhood trauma. going unchecked, it creates a mountain of issues in
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