Damon Culbertson

@CabManWaz @ok6ixx Did you not read the story?

@ok6ixx How do you know he wasn’t being defensive because he can’t actually read? Maybe part blind? Maybe legally blind with glaucoma?

Customer: "I'd like to buy a dozen donuts." Me: "Sure! What kind would you like?" Customer: "What kind do you have?" Me: "Sir, all of our donuts are on display behind me, with labels in front of them. You can have a look, and tell me what you would like" Customer: "I can read! I want you to tell me what kind of donuts you sell! That's your job!" ( turn around, and proceed to read each label oloud. My coworker at the ice cream counter watches and snickers. The man waits until) have read every label, and then makes his selections.) Me: "Will that be all?" Customer: "Do you have muffins?" (I gesture to the shelves full of muffins.) Me: "Yes, we have a variety of muffins." Customer: "What kind?" (My coworker chokes with laughter. I turn around again, and read the muffin labels. When I finish, the man selects two muffins.) Me: "Will that be all?" Customer: think I'll have some ice cream, too." Me: "Okay! I'll ring up your items here, and then you can go and make your selections at the ice cream counter" (The man completes his order, then goes over to the ice cream section. My coworker is still giggling with his back to the counter, and hasn't seen the customer yet.) Customer: "What kind of ice cream do you have?" Coworker: "stops giggling

@35Dabba @Movies_analyst Having a blanket draped over her would have been even further from reality. I’ve never understood that trope in movies. Why would a woman go out of her way to cover herself up after sex as if their partner didn’t just see everything? That shit never happens lol

@Movies_analyst Really bc within like 10 minutes of the first scene, she was laying in bed topless like there was no reason for it It was fine bc they had just slept together, but if she had had a blanket draped over her (which is more close to reality tbh) it wouldn’t have changed anything

Elle Fanning said the nudity in her new series Margo’s Got Money Troubles was “essential..not oversexualized.” "A lot of the time it has to do with the utility of motherhood..'Well, my baby's hungry — I've got to whip my b00b out and feed him!'" “It’s important to the story.”

@newsom_maryann @cherpers For sure. There are several other factors to consider. My main point is that men want their partners to flirt with them too. How that looks just depends on the relationship

@dexterkills64 @cherpers I think it’s not that simple. Yes, if you are sexually attracted to someone, the way they treat you can amplify or diminish that attraction. But people also become sexually attracted to people they’ve never even met, like actors or actresses.

So many men are in denial about female sexuality. Men: complain about not enough sex Me: okay so learn to seduce your wife Men: no way she should just give it to me more Me: so you want duty sex? Men: no way I want her to like it Me: 🤨

@newsom_maryann @cherpers For sure, but for a lot of people, their love language ties in to their arousal. If you aren’t showing affection in your partners love language, than chances are sexual desire is low

Love languages are about how someone tends to give and receive affection (for example: words, time, gifts, acts, physical touch). Sexual desire is about erotic interest, arousal, and wanting sexual connection. A guy or girl can give all of those things to someone, and there may still not be sexual desire.

@newsom_maryann @cherpers In this instance yes, but this is just one small way that a woman could show that she wants her man. It doesn’t necessarily have to be this flirty or physical

@dexterkills64 @cherpers So being flirty?

@cherpers @newsom_maryann All I’m saying is that men want to feel wanted by their partners too, and you’re somehow acting like I’m delusional lol. If anything, your stance is incredibly sexist and transactional and you’re literally projecting it on to me lmao. A relationship goes two ways

@dexterkills64 @newsom_maryann Okay bro hope that perspective works out for you.

@newsom_maryann @cherpers I would define effort as intentionally showing your partner that you are attracted to them. The method choosen depends on the partner, love language, etc.

@dexterkills64 @cherpers How would you define effort, though? I always think it’s important to focus on measurable behaviors.

@cherpers @newsom_maryann It literally is the same thing. Men are human beings too and want their partners to flirt with them too. What you just said sounds incredibly transactional. Maybe a man doesn’t want to put in that effort either, unless he knows it’s going to be good for him too?

But that’s not the same thing. The level of effort is wildly different and a woman won’t want to do that at all unless that man shows her that it’s going to be good for her. He’s going to put in the effort to make sure she has a good experience. She’s not going to invite in bad sex.

@cherpers @newsom_maryann If a man wants his woman to seduce him, it doesn’t make him any less of a man. That’s just sexist lol When I say a man requires the same thing, a flash of a thigh and a wink covers it. We just want our partners to show us that they want us too, even if it’s bare minimum effort

@dexterkills64 @newsom_maryann If a man requires the same thing he’s not a man, he’s a woman. I can seduce my husband by flashing a thigh and giving a wink. Honestly the wink alone would do it. He’s ready to go. That’s simply not how women work. We need much much more and that makes it fun and enjoyable.

@cherpers @newsom_maryann I never said that was my motivation? All I’m saying is that men want their partners to want them too. I’m not saying anything transactional at all.

@dexterkills64 @newsom_maryann Yeah I think you’ve got to find a different motivation. Transactional motivation leads to a downward spiral. I’m glad you’re saying it’s not all transactional but really none of it should be.

@cherpers @newsom_maryann I don’t understand how you’re missing the point because you literally said the same thing in your original post. It’s okay if a woman requires seduction to be interested in sex, but if a man requires the same thing, it’s transactional? I don’t understand.

@dexterkills64 @newsom_maryann That “if she does it then I’ll do more” statement is transactional and not based in love.

@cherpers @newsom_maryann I often go out of my way to seduce my partner, surprise her with things she enjoys, and pay attention to her wants/needs, but I do it because I want to and we both enjoy it. I don’t do it because I feel like I have to or to conform some gender role

@dexterkills64 @newsom_maryann I think we’re a lot more different than you think. The data on what it takes for men and women to achieve orgasm is very very different.

@cherpers @newsom_maryann I’m not speaking from data. I’m just speaking from the mindset that I am a man and I know from experience that sex is exponentially more enjoyable when my partner seduces me or initiates. You could ask any man and I’m certain they would say the same

@newsom_maryann @cherpers I believe that depends on the relationship because everyone is different. That’s why I wouldn’t hold any woman to any sort of standard because I know that no one is the same. I always think the best route to go is to just be open and communicate with your partner

@dexterkills64 @cherpers But what does that look like? How would you know she is attracted to you?

@cherpers @newsom_maryann Why can’t two individuals have sex only because they are attracted to each other and love each other?

@dexterkills64 @newsom_maryann That’s a very transactional mindset. Why not put the effort in just because you love her?

@cherpers @newsom_maryann A lot of men do have to be seduced in order to enjoy it. We aren’t as different as you might think. It is exponentially more enjoyable for a man if they are also seduced, flirted with, etc.

@dexterkills64 @newsom_maryann Naw not unless the man can seduce them. We don’t have that ready to go sex drive. We have to be seduced in order to enjoy it. Men don’t have to be.

@newsom_maryann @cherpers I don’t necessarily expect my partner to do any of those things. I would just want her to show me, in whatever way that is comfortable for her, that she is attracted to me or wants me. That’s all I would personally want, but I can’t speak for other men

@dexterkills64 @cherpers Maybe defining what you mean by women seducing men would help. I’m thinking you mean looking sexy, being playful and flirty, and showing him that you find him alluring?