Mark S Greenberg

@playgolfcollege @stallingsgolf 💯 agree

I ran a poll asking what the most important factor in a junior golfer’s development is. I was shocked that everybody didn’t pick Parenting. Because after 25 years in competitive golf, having 3 kids of my own play D1 golf, coaching at Duke and Ohio State, and working with hundreds of junior golf families, here’s what I’ve observed, researched and learned: How you parent is the single biggest factor in your child’s junior golf success. Almost nobody shows parents how to do this well. I’m on a mission to change that. So, here are the 10 most important factors in elite golf parenting. From my chapter on Parenting in Becoming Elite: 1.Create a Safe Environment. Your home must be a safe harbor, not a pressure cooker. Your love is unconditional and separate from their golf score. Same affection after an 85 as after a 65. If your mood changes with their scorecard, you are creating a toxic environment that destroys their love for the game. And eventually your relationship. 2.The Car Ride Home. This is where most parents blow it. The car ride home is a sanctuary. A no golf talk zone. Enforce the 48 Hour Rule. Let them decompress, listen to music, stare out the window. The post round autopsy is one of the most damaging things a parent can do. 3.Body Language. Your kids are reading you on every single shot. Every. Single. Shot. A fist pump after a birdie tells them birdies are what matter. Slumped shoulders after a bogey tells them you’re disappointed. Your expression must be the same after a birdie as after a double bogey. Calm, positive, steady. You are the emotional thermostat. 4.Communication. The most important words when they come off the 18th green: I love to watch you play. Not “what did you shoot.” Not “what happened on 12.” After 48 hours, ask open ended questions. How do you feel about your round? What were you most proud of? What do you want to work on? You are a facilitator, not a judge. 5.Creating Ownership. A player led journey is sustainable. A parent led journey leads to burnout. If you are more invested than they are, that is a red flag. Motivation must come from within. Great parents ask questions instead of giving answers. The player who owns their development keeps improving long after the lessons end. 6. Giving them Freedom. Be a lighthouse, not a tugboat. At tournaments, stay at least 50 yards away. Do not walk the fairway with them or stand behind every green. Give them space to breathe and compete. Do not talk to them during the round unless they initiate. They are in their performance bubble. Do not burst it. 7.Allowing Them to Fail. Failure is not the enemy. It is a prerequisite to growth. Your child is more resilient than you think. They can handle failure and disappointment. They need you to believe in them and let them learn, not protect them from every setback. Removing the opportunity to fail is the real enemy. 8.Staying in Your Lane. You are the parent. Not the coach. Not the caddy. Not the swing analyst. These roles do not mix. Constantly offering swing advice creates a toxic triangle of confusion. Hire a professional. Trust them. Stay out of the way. Your job is love and support. Period. 9.Building an Identity Beyond Golf. If your child’s entire sense of self worth is tied to their golf score, you are setting them up for misery. They are a person who plays golf, not the other way around. Encourage other interests. Protect their social life. Let them go to school dances. Family vacations and time with siblings are sacred. A one dimensional identity is one of the three ingredients that causes burnout. 10.Playing the Long Game. This is a 10 year journey, not a 10 tournament sprint. You are not in a race to be the best 12 year old golfer. You are on a patient journey to see how good they can be at 18, at 22, and beyond. Slow down. The car rides, the early morning tee times, the post round ice cream. These are the moments you will remember. Savor them.

@coachrdodge Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family!! We are thankful for you too coach!!

So grateful & thankful to be a part of this program that has given my family and I so much! Thankful for our amazing players & the village that supports us! So much to be thankful for! Happy Thanksgiving! #ProtectTheTradition

Arch gonna b ok. Had us in the game with traffic cones blocking for him. Never mind traffic cones don’t false start or hold. My bad to all the traffic cones out there!

@acaseofthegolf1 People on the right would definitely have their lives in jeopardy

I’d kill seven people if I had to hit this shot.

@coachmwilliams1 And Sports Medicine Docs will tell you playing multiple sports decreases injuries

Huh…watching the Arnold Palmer Invitational on the Golf Channel and the commentator just quoted Scottie Scheffler, “playing multiple sports is important. Playing basketball made me a better golfer. Being a better athlete makes you better for every sport.” #quitspecializing

I’m incredibly proud to have facilitated Baylor Surgicare Southlake’s effort to give back to the community this holiday season by adopting two NISD Angels from the Angel Christmas Tree. Together, we can all find meaningful ways to make a difference & bring joy to those in need.

@cbwcbw @AshtonTwilliams @pwilliams4884 First of many

First start as a true freshman today at Lincoln Financial Field. Proud of my guy 💙.

@SydneyLWatson Tomato doesn’t work Use hydrogen peroxide, baking soda and dish soap with a little water. It’s money

Both my idiot dogs got sprayed by a skunk. In all seriousness, what do I do here? 😭😂

@KornFerryTour @matthew_riedel7 @AscendantGolf Anchor Down ⚓️

7 birdies and an eagle to move to the top of the leaderboard 📈 After his best finish as a pro a week ago, @matthew_riedel7 finds himself atop of the leader board after his third round @AscendantGolf.

@Avidgolfer98 This wouldn’t have happened in HP

Are we sure it’s not April 1?

@blake_buckley @SportsSturm 🤣🤣🤣

@ChaseDaniel @chasedaniel You did

I may or may not have flashed a 🤘during this segment

Happy National Athletic Training Month! #NATM2024

@coachrdodge Merry Christmas to all you Dodge’s!!

Merry Christmas from the Dodges!

@40AcresLandLord What do you think? Should we go after him? Sounds like a handful.

Lol, well, it happened …. Do y’all want us to pursue or nah ???

@HornSports I would love for someone to review the K-State film and look at the spotting of the ball after UT offensive plays. The refs seemed to cheat us out of 1-2 yards on every spot. But maybe I’m just imagining this

Week 10 update: Holding calls on opponent: Rice-0 Bama- 1 *SEC crew Wyoming-0 Baylor- 1 (declined) Kansas- 1 Oklahoma- 0 Houston- 1 (declined) BYU- 0 KSU- 1 (Texas was called for a late hit on the play) Pass interference calls on opponent: Rice-0 Bama- 2 *SEC crew Wyoming-0 Baylor- 1 Kansas- 0 Oklahoma- 0 Houston- 0 BYU- 0 KSU-0

I hate to break this to you SportsCenter but Coco Gauff was not “soaking it all in” at this moment. She was praying. She has been very open about her Christian faith in the past. It seems pretty obvious what she is doing here.

It’s been an emotional week. I am so proud of our coaches for expressing the compassion and leadership for all of our Dragons and the Dragon Families. God Bless the beautiful family. 🙏🏼

@owenallen_slc ALWAYS crushing it!