“But women sexualise themselves”… no, men sexualise our existence. There’s a fetish for the schoolgirl, the teacher, the secretary, the nurse, the nun, the “innocent” girl, the “experienced” woman, the boss, the assistant, the submissive, the dominant, the “barely legal,” the mother, the babysitter, the neighbour, the coworker every version of us gets turned into something sexual. Covered? There’s a fetish. Modest? There’s a fetish. Uncovered? There’s a fetish. Even discomfort, even vulnerability is sexualised. The same woman will be sexualised and then shamed for it in the next breath. That contradiction isn’t ours to carry. Saying women sexualise themselves is just a way to dodge accountability because no matter what we do, you were already going to sexualise us anyway.
