SlashTechSamurai (Commission's open)@slashtechsam
If you are a Christian man and your wife is
- going against God's word
- not doing any of her wifey duties or domestic labor
- arguing/ back talking
- disrespecting or fighting against your authority
- lying
- turning the kids against you
- ruining your relationship with others
- preventing you from doing your husbandly duties
- publicly trying to humility you
- stealing money/ irresponsibly spending money to the detriment of the household
-ect
How can men correct this type of behavior? If there is no punishment, because there are legal and massive economic ramifications to it, how do you as a Christian man rectify these issues?
When people say this, they're talking about the fact that there is no punishment for these bad behaviors, and there is all the encouragement in the world thanks to media and the legal system. Biblical marriage is a covenant that you make with God and it can only be broken under very specific circumstances.
-Abuse
-Adultery
-Abandonment
These are known as "at fault" reasons for divorce. The list I gave you above does not constitute any of the at fault reasons. Which means, she can get away with doing them and stay within the confines of the covenant. She's intentionally using the aspects of Grace that are built within the covenant to navigate within the covenant and quarrel with her husband. She's actively trying to make him miserable and lose control within the marriage so she can get her way. In order to correct this behavior, men used to administrate certain punishments onto the wife, they are the disciplinarian in the household, whether this was physical or verbal or some other form of punishment it wasn't abuse. And just like the military, just like with children, it instilled discipline and obedience toward the husband's authority. If you do that now, it's considered spousal abuse, if you yell at her, she can call that emotional abuse, and many many other situations. She can contort marital disputes into a abusive scenario to her advantage. This is literally what Hillary Crowder did to Steven Crowder by doctoring their own ring cam footage. So that she could ruin his reputation and get more money out of him in the divorce.
So what is your specific suggestion? How do Christian men retain authority in dominion over their household without any force behind it? Moreover, how does any person maintain authority without any force behind it? If you talk to your boss in a disrespectful way, they can fire you, if you talk to your parents any disrespectful way you can get spanked, if you talk to your teacher in a disrespectful way you can get expelled, and of course if you talk to your local law enforcement in a disrespectful way you could potentially get arrested. All of these examples have authority plus force that backs up the authority. So what do husbands have in their marriages in order to maintain the biblical standard?