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@libriscent That was me

Nothing is more attractive than someone who loves themselves enough to walk away from what doesn’t align with the life (and relationship) they want to build.

@nathanwontmiss @Peterisrandom Sooooo true , I was told that also (haven’t heard from in one month as I had to walk away for Peace and no anxiety..). I don’t get it? I said you had me, but you didn’t want me?? Makes my mind spin… sad

avoidants be like "i don't want to lose you" but won't do a single thing to keep you

@_SuccessMinded_ True story

Always remember..

@Kings1627796 100%

• Hyper-focusing on others while ignoring your own needs. • Fear of intimacy or disappearing when things get close. • Shame when you set boundaries or show imperfection. •Obsessing over being "too much" or "not enough."

HOW ABANDONMENT SHOWS UP LATER. IN CHILDHOOD, IT LOOKS LIKE: • Becoming "the good one" to earn love. • Hiding feelings to avoid rejection. •Walking on eggshells to prevent loss. • IN ADULTHOOD, IT LOOKS LIKE:⤵️

@nathanwontmiss @kairoblu Leave, I did having an anxious trait. I couldn’t handle the “feeling”. Was one of the hardest things I did (top 4). I had to walk away for peace, sanity, and my well being (because I really, really cared for her). She would not or did not seek therapy to heal her avoidant traits.

@kairoblu I honestly scared of pulling a way

Question for avoidant people. I want to understand your POV. When you pull away from someone you genuinely care about because you feel overwhelmed or pressured, do you still think about them while you're distant? And when they stop reaching out and give you space, what do you usually feel? Relief, missing them, or thinking they're moving on too? If you've ever reached out again after pulling away, how long did it take?

@detachdaily True story

it hurts in a quiet way when you realize you spent so much time trying to save the connection that you never noticed how much of yourself you were losing along the way

@Kings1627796 @nuel_szy Needed this and the “closure”, it’s me not her (she’s probably moved on… Yes, I am anxious and I am ok with this… She’s a dismissive avoidant to the “T”!

AS AN ANXIOUS PERSON, IF AN AVOIDANT REJECTS YOU, THIS IS WHAT YOU SHOULD DO 

@realdanieltitus That was my Alaina

Do you believe heaven is real? Yes or No.

@MikeTSinger Ha! Yeah, haven’t actually slept well in almost 3 years (just can’t since Alaina passed! It sucks… quit drinking again. Enjoy your vacation…

@jeffrey_evans70 Go to bed

Strong first recruiting win for Brian Jean-Mary as Notre Dame’s new linebackers coach. Roman Igwebuike is big time. 🫡☘️ As of now, I expect the Irish to take a second LB in the 2027 class. Flip watch? 👀

@KLeeeyah Amen

Dating is wild. You can talk to somebody for months thinking y’all really building something… then outta nowhere the vibe shifts. First it gets a little weird, then a little more distant, and before you know it… whatever y’all had don’t even exist anymore. No closure, no explanation, no conversation, just silence from a person you talked to every day and actually caught feelings for. Now you’re grieving somebody who’s still alive. Be careful out here. Guard your heart everybody ain’t built to love you back.💔

@Cath0licP0dcast Please pray for me, “ to let go in my head - space”… Very hard for me, right now 🙏❤️✝️

I will be at Adoration . I will pray for every comment on this post. I promise to pray for each one of you!

I just finished watching every snap of Notre Dame’s offensive line from the 2025 season and the Spring Game. My biggest takeaway? This is the deepest OL in the country. The two-deep is legit. Full film breakdown of the 2026 Notre Dame OL dropping this week

@Bloke_Baz @delonperc Happened to me

A lot of people go through personal issues and their first instinct is to ghost their partner or leave the relationship and that’s not fair. It shows poor communication and it’s something many people still need to improve.

@Cath0licP0dcast Pray me and my self - worth, value , and next steps in my life (to soul search and ask God, what is next)

How can i pray for you? I will pray for every reaction on this post. Send me your intentions!

@Peterisrandom I lost all value, self esteem, self worth, and was “anxiety” ridden (when I realized what the heck was happening, I had no idea what I was going through until after the fact, and I researched “me”, thinking this was me, not her! Sad, yes hard to recover from!

Avoidants do not set out to hurt you. But the impact is the same: confusion, self-doubt, exhaustion, and a long recovery period. You deserve someone who chooses you even when it is uncomfortable for them, not someone who makes you earn basic effort. If you have dated an avoidant what was the biggest realization you had? Share below. 
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AVOIDANTS DON’T LEAVE YOU BROKEN. THEY LEAVE YOU QUESTIONING IF YOU WERE EVER ENOUGH.

@Marve_xxx @nuel_szy Same

@nuel_szy This thread just read my last relationship like a script. Phase 4 (push-pull) had me convinced I was ‘too much’ for simply wanting consistency. The slow fade is cruel because it makes you question your own sanity first.

When Perfect Love Turns to Pain: 10 Phases of an Avoidant Relationship It starts like a dream—then slowly leaves you questioning everything. If you've been there, you'll recognize this pattern. 1. The Spark of Perfection 👇

@girlinthemaskke @Peterisrandom Me, I had nooooo idea idea, I was anxious, until….

@Peterisrandom Now imagine pairing an avoidant with someone who's anxiously attached. That's a recipe for emotional exhaustion💔

IF AN AVOIDANT IS PULLING AWAY BUT STILL KEEPING YOU AROUND IT USUALLY MEANS THIS:

@deloise_luxe @Peterisrandom Messed me up for a couple of months? Low value - questioned everything - mood swings - MASSIVE anxiety - I had nooooo idea what was going on until “after the fact”?!

@Peterisrandom Avoid that avoidant before you lose your mind. Cause the amount of confusion you'll experience by staying will ruin you

@Peterisrandom All of the above, I didn’t realize what I was going through or she was a submissive avoidant until 2 months after the red flags of (#1-7). I had no idea (I lost my self worth, knots, anxiety, self doubt, and brain fog!). I walked away, and now self healing - learning-reflection!

I wish someone had told me that love is not supposed to feel like constant anxiety, walking on eggshells, and questioning your own sanity. It is supposed to feel safe. The moment you stop trying to earn basic effort from someone wired to fear it is the moment you start getting yourself back. If you have dated an avoidant what is the one thing you wish someone had told you? Or which part hit you the hardest? Share below. 
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I WISH SOMEONE HAD TOLD ME THIS BEFORE I DATED AN AVOIDANT…