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If husband & father is struggling around to cater for the home and wife & mother is likewise struggling for same, children will then struggle.

@flavoured_ben @jon_d_doe A girl that has thoughtfulness and is willing to give to a man will not date for money.

There is something I noticed that my wife is teaching our daughter. Every Sunday, when they return from church, my daughter brings 'puff puff' to me, which she bought for me. It's her mother's money, but she would always say: "Daddy, I bought you this." Then do you know what I always tell her? "Thank you for my daughter, you're beginning to learn how you'd treat your man when you come of age. This is what your mother was always doing whenever she visited me. One of the reasons I married her". End.

@jon_d_doe Me sef must find a way to inculcate this in my daughter.

@jon_d_doe Agba, please always give her more than enough pocket money. She will need it.

@nobertosemeke @jon_d_doe 🥹

Be very careful when a woman tries to bill you. It is more likely that she does not have your best interests at heart. She could be a student looking for someone to sponsor her education. In other words, searching for a “sugar daddy” to pay her school fees. She may also be exploiting you financially, constantly asking for money. When a woman tries to bill you, be very, very careful. She may simply be looking for someone to sponsor her lifestyle. A woman who genuinely cares about you will not constantly bill you. A woman who has contentment will not want to put you under financial pressure. Instead, she will be willing to work and earn her own money rather than relying on you to cover all the expenses.

During our marriage class, the teacher was talking about billings method. My wife and I just looked at ourselves and laughed. 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂

@jon_d_doe “My friends have all gone, I want to travel too” Women and peer pressure.

Her husband is 39, and doing very well in Nigeria. He even bought her a Benz SUV recently ooo. 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂

@jon_d_doe At 38, I’m not interested.

Dear Nigerian men above 40, Is it only me? Anything "japa" doesn't cross my mind anymore. I believe I'm too old for that. I don't know about you. End.

@jon_d_doe Agba do high capacity solar system.

I left the hotel last weekend. I don come back home ooo. Back to reality. No more fake life for me. I no fit on AC anyhow. Heat one finish me. When I got home, my wife said: Shey na for inside this heat we go fuck? Abeg on AC ooo. 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂

@Shibwif_to_1B @renoomokri You feel attacked yeah

@renoomokri A man without integrity has no moral right to educate anyone.

If people can take loans from banks and not pay back, why do you think they will lend money from you and repay? Don't ever do it. If you can afford it, gift them the money they ask for as a loan from you, or a part of it. But do not lend money to people. Only lend money to people you want to stop seeing, and consider the money as the price of getting rid of them. But if you love anybody, don't lend them money, or you will turn them into your enemy. #RenosNuggets

@ElemSunny @jon_d_doe I believe if you have parents you respect, there are certain things you will never attempt. The nudity they show is not within a circle, it’s for “to whom it comes across” Parents should raise their children first before government can further help.

It’s a valid concern, honestly. Your worry is in order. A lot of people are worried, but don’t say it out loud. But in many cases, it’s not that parents don’t care — these kids are simply ahead of them. They use private accounts, different names, hidden circles… some parents don’t even use these apps, so they don’t know what’s going on. No right-thinking parent will sit and approve that kind of exposure. The issue is bigger than just “where are the parents?” It’s also about weak regulation, poor enforcement, and a system that rewards attention at any cost. Add a bit of societal pressure, money incentives, and yes… even greed across different levels. So it becomes a shared responsibility — parents, platforms, government, and society. Instead of only blaming, we should also push for: better digital awareness, stronger guidance at home, and real enforcement where it matters. Because at the end of the day, most of these kids are not just “doing wrong”… they’re navigating a system that isn’t protecting them properly.

@jon_d_doe I’m worried too. Some will take time to raise their kids but will be undone by those that refuse to raise theirs. It’s disheartening and it gets me very worried.

Genuine questions. Where are the parents & relatives of all these girls that are on tik tok & IG, exposing their nudity. If their parents or relatives have failed, can't the govt ban or regulate these apps to save & protect other people's kids from them? I'm worried. End.

@Medisenz @jon_d_doe You seem to think cohabiting benefits the man only. When done with open mind, it is a win-win situation.

@Medisenz @jon_d_doe In marriage nko? If a woman or man loses value to their partner due to “excessive presence”, marriage is a No-No.

Cohabition is a win-win or lose-win process. I'll strongly advice that it should be practiced before going into marriage. It would give both of you ample time to understand yourselves and make a conscious decision. As long as you're dating with sincerity.

@jon_d_doe Yes! I get the vibe that she has gotten the license to be careless.

I have a question for men. If you meet a new girl and you start a relationship with her. Then she later tells you that she's on contraceptive. Will it make you uncomfortable? Yes or No, state your reasons 👇.

@alpha_the_dev @jon_d_doe Some say: “who knows which one will become Governor or President tomorrow?”

People don’t like saying this out loud, but in many Nigerian homes children are still treated as a kind of insurance policy. Not in a cold evil way. In a survival way. If you grow up in an environment where there is no pension, no reliable healthcare, no safety net when you are old, the mind starts doing a simple calculation: the more children you have, the higher the chance that one of them “makes it” and carries the family later. You hear it in everyday conversations. “One of them will succeed.” That sentence alone explains a lot. So when someone who is already struggling pushes for a fifth child, it doesn’t always come from irresponsibility alone. Sometimes it comes from a very old logic that says numbers increase your chances. But here is the uncomfortable twist. In modern Nigeria, children are no longer economic assets the way they were two or three generations ago. School fees, rent, transport, healthcare… one child today can drain the resources that used to raise three or four. So the real shift happening quietly is this: the poor are still playing the probability game, while the middle class is slowly moving to the concentration game. Fewer children, more investment in each. Let me ask a direct question people rarely ask themselves: are you having children because you truly have the capacity to raise them well… or because you are hoping one of them will rescue the family later? Because the answer to that question quietly shapes the future of the whole household.

There is a married woman in this community. She has been the breadwinner for God knows how long. What her husband does, is to be going to the village looking for lands to sell & playing village politics. They have 4 children already. And he's still demanding that he wants another child. I have discovered that physical poverty is not a crime. But poverty of the mind is. And people with poverty of the mind have a special kind of warped thinking. They always think left left. End.

@jon_d_doe She needs to stop saving with her sister immediately. She should try a few means to get some of the money from her sister and prepare for anything at any moment. I have doubts the money is still with her sister ATM.

She won't get that money from her sister easily. Questions would be asked. And it may even lead to another issue entirely.

@jon_d_doe Agra can relate abi

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@jon_d_doe Simple!

Still on the topic of childbearing: Please read from a 33 year old married man, & what his 69 year old father is putting him through. 👇

@jon_d_doe @ghaybriel_clint …..and if you don’t, even your sister will make you an enemy

If your sister is unfortunately married to a man who is backward thinking & entitled. And you her brothers are doing well. Observe something. That your sister would most likely have more children than you people. And her husband is banking on you people to raise them. End.

@jon_d_doe I first thought of possible reasons for this, still struggling for one. Na bad person be that abeg.

If your grandchild is older than your child, you're most likely not a responsible or considerate parent. End.

@jon_d_doe It’s shallow thinking. When one’s older children should be planning their own life in marriage and parenting, they should not be raising their siblings. This sounds more to me like deliberate attempt to hold your older children’s progress.

If I decide to have another child right now with my lovely wife, I will be over 60 when that child is in secondary school. At 60, I am supposed to be enjoying my retirement benefits with my lovely wife. Would I be fair or kind to my older children by doing so? End.