Ms Daum

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While white people are acting like life can’t go on after reading the #EpsteinFiles they’ve apparently never read a slave ship manifest. Look at the infants & children America trafficked. Locked down in slavers’ ships so they could later be raped by savages like Thomas Jefferson.

For a narcissistic abuser, your empowerment is an existential threat. Anything that increases your independence, confidence, clarity, or sense of self directly undermines their control. So It is fiercely opposed.

“Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.” Abiding wisdom from Simone Weil, born on this day in 1909: themarginalian.org/2015/08/19/sim…

Narcissists seem to intuitively grasp that prolonged stress wears down a person’s health, clarity, and resilience. They’ll engineer situations that keep you in a constant state of tension — endless small disruptions, subtle invalidations, shifting expectations, manufactured urgency — all while acting like they’re just “trying to help”. It’s a form of covert attrition warfare. They don’t need to blow up your world in one dramatic event; instead, they can drip-feed anxiety until your body and mind are too depleted to think clearly or fight back. And because they’re careful to make the stress look circumstantial or self-inflicted, if you call it out, you risk sounding paranoid or “overreactive” — which is exactly the trap they want.

This speed reading training starts at 300 words per minute and end at 900 wpm. Can you read them all?

I study authoritarianism for a living, so I do not say this lightly: America isn't facing an authoritarian future. America is living an authoritarian present. (A long 🧵) /1

The reason why covert and malignant narcissist get away with their manipulation so easily, is not because they are particularly smart. It’s not because their lies and manipulation tactics are “skilled.” It’s because their behavior is so detached from humanity that most people can’t believe they’re doing what they’re actually doing. It’s simply too revolting.

Narcissists won’t just be abusive. They’ll do tiny, petty things relentlessly that are designed to get under your skin. They know exactly what they’re doing. And they know you can’t say anything because what they’re doing isn’t technically abuse. It’s not “bad enough” to call out. It’s not illegal. It’s not obvious. So if you speak up, you risk looking irrational, dramatic, or “overly sensitive.” “Wow, calm down — it’s not a big deal.” “You’re overreacting.” “I didn’t even do anything.” But they know exactly what they’re doing. It’s psychological warfare. These little “nothings” add up — and what they’re really saying is: “I’m in control. I live in your head. You can’t prove it.” And the truth is… anyone who behaves like this is deeply emotionally depraved. That’s a soul so disconnected, it has to feed off someone else’s peace just to feel alive. They’re trying to aggravate you…So laugh it off. Find their desperation to affect you amusing instead. And remember: You can heal. You can grow. They can’t. They’re stuck in a cycle of petty cruelty and spiritual decay. You get to walk away and build peace. They’ll still be trying to make someone flinch to feel big.

Narcissists systematically dehumanize their victims. Not only do they manipulate the victim's self-perception, convincing them that they are “less than” or unworthy of basic human rights, but they manipulate how others see their victims, portraying them as the notable or problematic individuals. This tactic isolates the victim, making it harder for others to recognize the abuse or feel sympathy, thereby allowing the narcissist to maintain control and continue their abusive behavior unquestioned.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again, residential school denialism is a loser movement: its anti-Indigenous content created by losers for losers who want to denigrate dead Indigenous children on the internet rather than learn the truth and build a more honourable future.

Gender-based violence is created and sustained by systems that continue to fail Indigenous women, girls, and gender-diverse people. Ending this crisis requires deep structural change, not symbolic gestures. #16DaysOfActivism #EndGBV

If you'd like to be a better communicator, these 6 rules of listening from the visionary humanistic philosopher and psychologist Erich Fromm are a great aid: themarginalian.org/2017/04/05/eri…

Being a morally conscious and morally responsible person actually infuriates a narcissists. They’ll accuse you of “thinking you’re better than everyone”. This is really just a projection of their own mindset. They believe morality is performative, so they assume your ethical values must be an act of superiority rather than a reflection of personal values. In reality, it’s they who constantly measure themselves against others, obsessed with status and dominance. The best response? Keep being who you are. Their frustration is proof that your authenticity disrupts their illusion of control.

There’s a cruel paradox that scapegoats of narcissistic abuse often face. If you handle the abuse stoically — staying composed, functioning, keeping up appearances—people assume nothing was ever wrong. Your pain is invisible, and so is the abuse. But if the trauma catches up with you… if you break down, develop anxiety, depression, or PTSD—suddenly you look like the unstable one. And to outside observers, that just seems to confirm the narcissist’s narrative that you were the problem all along. This is how scapegoats are retraumatized by a world that misunderstands trauma—and how narcissists get away with it.

People don’t betray you out of malice, they betray you out of self-preservation. When survival collides with loyalty, loyalty dies first. Understand this and you’ll stop being shocked by human behavior.

I noticed that genuine people often prefer spending time at home to avoid unnecessary chaos. They choose peace and honesty over shallow relationships and draining environments. This does not mean they are antisocial, it means they are aware of what exhausts their energy and disturbs their calm. Choosing solitude over noise is not an escape but a sign of maturity, because inner peace is worth more than being present in places or with people who do not reflect who you truly are.

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Recovering from narcissistic abuse is a deeply personal and non-linear process, but survivors tend to go through several common stages as they heal. These stages are not always experienced in order, and survivors often revisit earlier stages as they process new realizations or encounter emotional triggers. Here are the typical stages of recovery from narcissistic abuse: 1. Realization / awakening 2. Acknowledgment and education 3. Emotional flood / grieving 4. Detachment / going no contact or low contact 5. Identity reconstruction 6. Trauma healing and inner child work 7. Empowerment and integration 8. Advocacy, purpose, Or creative expression (optional but common) Read on for an in depth look at each phase 👇

Brandi Morin (Cree/Iroquois) and land defenders from Bolivia will discuss how environmental destruction caused by mining waste and extraction is driving cultural and territorial loss, forced displacement, and growing threats to their communities. Join us: tinyurl.com/bolivia1022