The Gremlin

Bitterness is anger at ourselves. The subconscious mind knows things could be different. How To Handle Bitter People:

@Pandaruuyo This is so sad. I love your comics. Sorry to hear this

People tell disabled people to get a job. But never how to stay in one. How or when to explain your disabilities without losing the ability to work. For example, this is what happened when I worked In DC for an international agency.

Anyone can say they want to be with you. But commitment is an action. Commitment to someone means learning about their past, their triggers, and what they value in partnership. Commitment to someone means having self awareness so you don't make promises you cannot keep. Commitment to someone means getting out of our comfort zone to show love in ways that might not come naturally to us. Commitment to someone means telling the truth even when it causes discomfort and it's easier to tell a white lie. Commitment to someone means doing small things to show your gratitude that the person lives life along side of you. Commitment to someone means taking care of your mind, body, and soul so that you can be the best version of yourself. Commitment to someone means you don't run when feelings fade because you have the maturity to understand relationships aren't a fairy tale. Commitment to someone means practicing emotional regulation so that you can have difficult conversations. Commitment to someone means learning how to cope with being disappointed at times so that you can give your partner the grace. My next book comes out in just 2 weeks. It guides you on how to build healthy relationships with yourself and other people. Pre-order here: howtobetheloveyouseek.com

Feelings are fleeting. They’re not facts. They’re not always right. Don’t take feelings as the truth. Let them come and go. Don’t let them make decisions for you.

Good girl conditioning teaches girls they have to everything to everyone. Why Women Are Exhausted And Sick:

@openrelating 2/2 …maybe partially an intrinsic leaning ? Especially on the sexually non monogamous side but perhaps more ambiamorous on the love side? Hard to say.

@openrelating I’ve been poly for 2 1/2 years but ENM for 5 1/2 years. I can’t really tell for myself which it is. I think for me it is more a practical lifestyle choice based on my beliefs on the progression of love & attraction & needs over time & what love & commitment mean. But also… 1/2

For me, It's an identity, an orientation first and a life choice second. Last year I surveyed 854 people from all over the world and the results are pretty clear, over 96% feel polyamory is part of their core identity.

Cultural cop outs sound like: “We’re Italian, this is just how we talk!” “I can’t help it, I’m (insert culture).” “We’re (insert culture) so it’s not going to change.” Culture is not an excuse for abuse or dysfunction. Culture should add value, belonging, and meaning to someone’s life. Not fear, rejection, or shaming.

@Theholisticpsyc Thank you for this I needed to absorb that

Mature love isn't a feeling. It's a choice to communicate and grow with a person. Here's Why:

@hammerisloyal @deejdart @SpargyP @jh_swanson vice.com/en/article/pka…

READ IT AND LET IT SINK IN Every relationship will get " boring" after you've been together for years. Love isn't a feeling it's a commitment to love every day, physically and emotionally. It's difficult, it's not always laughs, smiles, and fun.

I need someone to explain to me why it’s always “if you can’t pay rent, buy fewer lattes and avocado toasts” and not “if you can’t pay your employees a living wage, buy fewer yachts and real estate”. Explain it to me like I’m in kindergarten.

how can you not love fantasy it’s a genre where authors design entire universes so their kinks will happen. they’re always on some shit like “well, it’s just the culture of twinkland for nubile young he/him maidens to lose their virginity in a public festival what can i say”

@SharpSweetBella Agree. I don’t find I can/want to get that close in friendships. I only feel that level of trust/connection with a partner. just the way I’m built. I like my friends but I don’t enjoy being that vulnerable with them. Friendships aren’t as important to me as they are to some

And for the folks who find their best support through platonic friendships I’m happy for you 😄 but don’t pretend like your heart didn’t have to make room for all of those platonic friendships who support you. Even you have to juggle multiple intimate connections & needs

Married & #polyamorous since 2004. It works great because: 1. Love is not a finite resource 2. Not everyone needs (or wants) the same amt of time, attention or presence. 3. No one person is responsible for meeting 100% of my needs. 4. Each dynamic adds to what we give others 💖

@openrelating I mean she’s clearly asking in bad faith judging by her first sentence and her first comment has air quotes around “ethical” as we claim so she’s clearly just being prejudiced and laughing at poly people

Polyamorous people figure it out because it's part of their identity. If you are not polyam, there's no reason for you to understand. Acceptance that people are different might be enough?

By 25 you should practice out of making fun of people’s appearance. It only reveals your own insecurities.

Younger generations value freedom. They don’t want their life to revolve around work, especially when they’re in jobs that are under-paid and under-appreciated. Autopilot survival mode isn’t being accepted like it was in the past. This is positive evolution towards a more conscious society.

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