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Attack on Wemby Part 4

Attack on Wemby Part 4

海外华人真的普遍非常文化自卑。。。。 来美国生活了几年，我发现海外华人是所有族裔当中文化最自卑的一个群体。举几个例子： 1: 和一群外国人吃饭时，国人普遍都在吐槽中国的各种缺点。如果外国人描述关于中国不真实事情，几乎国人不会去纠正错误反而跟着一起指责国内。 2: 日裔、韩裔、墨西哥裔、南美裔等等都非常乐意宣扬自己的文化，华裔却几乎没有这样的活动。 3: 海外华人普遍更喜欢在一起过圣诞、万圣节，但是对于华夏传统节日比如端午、中秋都无感，甚至不知道日期。 4: 对于明显比国内差的行业比如航空、酒店，海外华人更喜欢找美国行业的优点，却用放大镜挑刺国内行业。 经过我一番思考后，大概有以下几点原因可以解释： 1: 内心偏见。很多出国的人本身就是对着国外的向往和对国内厌弃的原因，所以这在一定程度上会有内心偏见。 2: 社会环境压抑。由于美国等西方国家把中国视为敌对势力，整个社会对于中国不友好，大家也不敢宣传中国文化，否则就给人融不入当地社会的印象。 3: 缺少传统文化审美。俗话说想宣传审美就要先理解，海外华人移民要么是非常底层的群众，要么是理工科Nerd，这些人可能本身就对国内文化无感，更在乎钱和地位。 4: 文化差异太大。中国讲究内敛主义，这导致很多华人不擅长表达，也就无法宣传。

A concerning trend with Asian guys from my generation is them choosing partners who strongly resemble their mothers in arguably the wrong-er aspects. Overt bossiness being the most common one. These guys generally do not have a strong sense of agency and had mostly outsourced that to their parents growing up because of the comfort stemming from upper-class upbringings. Hard times create strong men, leading to good times, kind of cycle: Ex: If they chose to become a doctor/dentist, there's a strong chance that they'll be able to inherit the practice once school and training are completed. So for much of their lives, the parents tend to arrange the chess pieces so that this can be the outcome for their children and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. It's just that the children tend to not develop any assertiveness throughout their life cycles. Then when it comes time to channel those leadership characteristics as the head of the family, guys just tend to default to how they were raised and their lack of internal growth gets exposed. I tend to hear from the Auntie gossip that the Ladies have to pick up the slack and wear the pants in the relationship because the guys are just that passive about everything. So whether these guys even realize it or not, they seek out that super-authority presence in a partner as a compensation for what they can't channel and it just so happens that they resonate strongly with someone who is like their mother because that's what they are most familiar with. There has to be a psychological phenomenon that describes this. These problems go beyond biology, it's socio-environmental. These Asian guys just need a real-ass authority figure in their life who can lead by example.

First generation asian-americans love to pretend like they lived through the hardships and struggles that their parents actually did

路上遇到两个外国人搭顺风车，看他们这么穷，能帮就帮一下吧。