Mary Kingston Roche

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@JoshChambers @DukeWBB Love these leadership lessons that apply to us all. "Don't stop the urgency of growth for yourself." If we're not growing, we're dying. Stay hungry, stay curious 💪

I'm convinced @DukeWBB Coach Kara Lawson is one of the best leaders in sports. This clip on urgency, growth not being linear, and the idea that there is no finish line is superb: 🥱 Need It > Want It. The people who win aren’t always the most gifted, they’re the ones who refuse to look away from what’s required RIGHT NOW. They stay present with the hard, the boring, and the uncomfortable, and they attack anyway. Wanting shows up when it’s convenient; needing shows up when it costs you something. 📈📉 Growth isn’t a straight line. There will be peaks that tempt your ego and valleys that test your belief. Real leadership is keeping your urgency and sharpness intact through all of it. Trusting that consistency is what will carry you through. Don't let your own impatience with stagnancy take your spirit. 🏁 There is no finish line where you finally get to coast, only new levels that ask more of you. Better is a direction, not a destination. The “ceiling” you feel is often just an imaginary story you’ve told yourself about what’s possible. Growth asks for the endurance to keep going and the humility to treat every day, every season, every year as another chance to get better. Bring urgency to the way you show up every day. Don't ever give up on your own growth. 🌱

As the deputy sup said at the end of this article, let's have more "good loud" in schools through students socializing in the cafeteria and through learning out loud in classrooms too Did School Cellphone Bans Work? New Study Finds Mixed Results. nytimes.com/2026/05/04/us/…

You're under no obligation to remain the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or even a day ago. You are here to create yourself, continuously.

@elonmusk I couldn't agree more! youtu.be/bTojPc7uJmw?si…

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Conversation Starters That Aren’t ‘How’s It Going?’ nytimes.com/2026/04/17/wel…

This Is a Hard Time to Start a Career. These Two Words Can Help. nytimes.com/2026/04/19/bus…

How would you approach your career differently if you pictured it as a playground of opportunity, vs. a ladder of expectations? Then go try those things in the playground that a rigid ladder hasn't allowed you to do & see how you feel. If you feel more free, you're doing it right

A Surprising (and Easy) Way to Boost Your Attention Span nytimes.com/2025/08/14/wel…

The 90/10 Gap: Research Shows Struggling Students Falling Behind Since 2005 @The74 the74million.org/article/the-90…

Major life hack: Be grateful. Harvard researchers found that gratitude was linked to significantly lower risk of all-cause mortality. The way you choose to perceive the world impacts every single area of your life. Choose wisely.

2/2 Use that space to try, test, tinker. Then use that momentum to gradually try higher-stakes things: an actual game of pickleball, a speaking event with a small audience. We learn to enjoy the activity & get into a flow state vs. being in our head.

1/2 Find & pursue an opportunity where the stakes are low or non-existent. Where you can show up, try something, and there is no pressure to do it well. Maybe it's a pick-up game of pickleball with your friends who won't judge you. Or a Toastmasters session to practice speaking.

Warren Buffett: The career advice 'I told my own kids' from an 1841 Ralph Waldo Emerson essay msn.com/en-us/money/ma…

Warren Buffett: "Don't sleepwalk through life. Find something that you really enjoy doing — if you can do it. Not everybody is lucky enough to be able to find that, but it ought to be your goal."

@JonHaidt @JonHaidt thanks for sharing this insight. Have you seen/done any research on the correlation b/w technology use and students' level/practice of curiosity? I'm a former teacher who writes, speaks, & coaches on the power of our curiosity & I wonder about its effects on it

Many college professors are discovering that students learn less when they have laptops open. Many of us are banning their use in class. Putting computers and tablets on students desks in K-12 may turn out to be among the costliest mistakes in the history of education

How to Reach a Superior Level of #Curiosity: "The most curious people stand out in one signature way: They're curious about what they don't know they don't know." psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-pra… @DrAliceBoyes

Thank you @markcuban for lifting up the power of #curiosity! Putting you on my list for a podcast guest! ☺️inc.com/jessica-stillm…

Alysa Liu just won Olympic gold. She retired at 16. Was traumatized by the sport. Wouldn't go near an ice rink. And just delivered a career-best on the biggest stage on earth. It's the most compelling comeback story in sports right now. At 13, Liu was the youngest US national champion ever. At 16, she finished 6th at the Olympics. She was a prodigy being told what to eat, what to wear, what music to skate to, and when to train. She lived in a dorm alone at the Olympic Training Center. And she was miserable. "The rink was my home for far too long... And I didn't have a choice," So she quit. She'd lost something essential: the feeling that any of it was hers. She had no autonomy. So she went the other direction. She went to Nepal. Trekked to Everest Base Camp. Got her driver's license. Dyed her hair. Attended college. She lived life. As Liu put it: “Quitting was definitely, and still to this day, one of my best decisions ever.” She built an identity that wasn't tied solely to the ice. She figured out who she was as a human being. Then in early 2024, she went skiing and felt something she hadn't felt in two years: an adrenaline rush. If skiing feels like this, what would skating feel like? She went to a public session. Landed a double axel and triple salchow on the spot. Two weeks later, she was back, but this time on her own terms. She came back because she wanted to. "I choose to be here. I loved that I was able to come back and choose my own destiny." That shift from external obligation to internal choice is the point. A mountain of research tells us autonomy is one of the most powerful driver of sustained motivation. Self-Determination Theory is one of the most established theories in psychology. When people feel ownership over their pursuits, performance goes up, burnout goes down, and creativity skyrockets. Her coach, Phillip DiGuglielmo, nailed it: "For many years she was dropped off at the rink. She was told what to do. Now she comes in, and it is all collaborative." She picks her own music. Designs her own costumes. Controls her training load. "No one's gonna starve me or tell me what I can and can't eat." We often get performance wrong. We think the path to greatness is more control, more structure, more sacrifice. We push young phenoms to "grind", to be disciplined... Not realizing we're often extinguishing the flame that makes them great. It's what psychologist Ellen Winner found when studying prodigies. They have the "rage to master," but over controlling environments suck the passion and joy out of them, snugging out that rage. Those who make it to adult staff have support, but their drive is more intrinsic than extrinsic. Liu's career-best came AFTER she walked away, lived her life, and came back with agency. Tonight she skated to Donna Summer's MacArthur Park with platinum blonde streaks, a lip piercing, and the biggest smile in the building. Career-best 226.79. First American woman to win Olympic gold in figure skating in 24 years. It was pure joy. Her message to the camera: "That's what I'm f---ing talking about." Everyone wants to know the secret to elite performance. It's not complicated. Give people ownership. Let them bring themselves to the performance, instead of squashing the joy and authenticity out of them. Alysa Liu retired at 16 because skating wasn't hers anymore. She won Olympic gold at 20 because it finally was. Be yourself. Go all the way.

Check out the latest article in my newsletter: How to Make 2026 Your Most Curiosity-Filled Year Yet linkedin.com/pulse/how-make… via @LinkedIn #curiosity