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A narcissist’s behaviour can only continue for so long because someone, somewhere, keeps protecting them from consequences.

One of the hardest parts of parental alienation is that most people simply don’t understand it. It’s often mistaken for normal distance, estrangement, or children growing up, but it’s not. Parental alienation happens when a child is influenced to reject a loving parent through manipulation, creating a very different kind of pain. If this resonates with you, know you’re not alone. To learn more, DM me or visit my website in my bio. #charliemccready #parentalalienationcoach #parentalalienation #Custody #FathersMatter #mothersmatter #FamilyCourt

A narcissist’s mindset often follows a pattern like this: “That didn’t happen. And if it did, it wasn’t that bad. And if it was, it’s not a big deal. And if it is, I don’t believe it’s my fault. And if it was, I didn’t mean it. And if I did, you made me do it.”

Alienating behaviours by one parent can create deep confusion for a child, increasing the risk of enmeshment and rejection of the other parent. The child’s internal dialogue reflects their confusion and pain, highlighting the sense of unfairness and longing they feel, and amplifying their emotional distress. From the child's perspective: Mom/Dad tells me I can't see my other parent because they're bad and they've done all these bad things, but I don't understand why they'd do that. I always felt happy to be with them, and I miss them. It hurts when I'm not allowed to see them. Why can't I have both of them like before? Why can't I see both my parents like my mom/dad does? They're angry with my mom/dad, but I'm not ... although the things I hear are really upsetting. I remember when we did things together – like picnics and playing games. Now it's just me and Mom/Dad. They say the other parent doesn't care about me, but I can't believe that's true. Surely that's not right! They used to laugh with me and hug me. It's confusing because the stories I hear are so different from what I remember. It's like my Mom/Dad I miss so much has always been a monster, and I didn't know it. All the time, I had no idea how bad they really were, and I can't get my head around it. I've kind of lost all the good memories too because I didn't know the truth of what they have been all this time. It's so sad. I try to understand it all, but it's hard. I want to ask questions, but I'm scared it'll make Mom/Dad angry or sad. Sometimes I hear them talking about court or lawyers, and I don't know why. I wish I could tell them that I love both of them and want to see Mom/Dad too. It feels like a secret I'm not supposed to say out loud. I don't know why everything changed. I don't want to think that one of my parents is bad. It's like my heart is split in two, and I want things to go back to how they used to be. I wish I could understand why this is happening. I don't think I can cope with thinking about it anymore. I'm just going to have to cut off because it's too hard and upsetting. I do believe what my Mom/Dad says. Why would they lie to me? They are doing all they can to protect me… Ultimately, this internal conflict and resulting enmeshment underscore the profound emotional impact alienating dynamics can have on children. Understanding it from a child’s perspective helps us make more sense of behaviours that might otherwise feel shocking or deeply personal. What we are witnessing is not a child’s true rejection, but an adaptive response to pressure, loyalty conflict and fear. These patterns are rooted in manipulation and psychological control. Recognising this allows us to respond without escalating the enmeshment, and instead with clear boundaries and informed support that prioritises the child’s emotional wellbeing. #parentalalienation #FamilyCourt

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Narcissists are often described as “crybullies.” A crybully is someone who creates or escalates a situation—through manipulation, disrespect, or conflict—and then turns around and presents themselves as the victim.

This is a classic "avoidance" tactic. Statutory Duty: A social worker has a legal obligation to be "fully informed." If a judge has gone to the trouble of ordering a 120-page report that highlights narcissistic traits and coercive control, ignoring it is professional negligence.

Narcissists believe they can author your identity—who you are, what you feel, what you said, what your intentions are, what your worth is. They don’t just want control over your emotions; they want control over your character and public image. That’s why they: -Tell you who you “really are” -Rewrite your character -Redefine your emotions for you -Assign you roles (villain, burden, unstable, selfish, etc.) -Act like their interpretation is more real than your lived experience It’s psychological colonization. If they can define you, they own you. And when you refuse that—when you think for yourself and ignore their twisted fantasy—it destabilizes them. That’s why they escalate, smear, gaslight, or rage. You’re removing their perceived authority over reality.

Narcissists won’t just lie about you, they will say the complete opposite of the truth. You might be one of the hardest workers and they will accuse you of being lazy to everyone they speak to. You might be one of the nicest people and they will accuse you of being mean or being a bully. They’re trying to erase the person they feel threatened by

Narcissists struggle with accountability, so instead of handling things maturely, they deflect, blame, or create chaos to shift focus away from themselves. One small disagreement can turn into a full-blown conflict because, to them, being wrong feels unbearable.

When a narcissist begins abusing someone, to outside observers it often looks like both people are just caught in a messy conflict, pointing fingers and trading blame. But that’s an illusion. One of them is a manipulator, and the other is reacting to abuse. The narcissist will often accuse their target of the very things they themselves are doing — lying, being manipulative, playing the victim, being toxic — and they'll do it with such conviction and calmness that it disorients everyone, including the target. Meanwhile, the real victim is often emotionally overwhelmed, hurt, or desperately trying to explain themselves — and this imbalance gets used against them. The narcissist didn't attack because their target did anything wrong or offensive — they attacked because that person threatened their ego, exposed their insecurity, or was simply too happy for the narcissist to stomach. One person is the abuser. The other is innocent — and being retraumatized not just by the abuse, but by the world’s failure to see it.

A narcissist will abandon anyone the moment their illusion of perfection is threatened. It doesn’t matter how loyal you were, how much you gave, or how deeply you cared — accountability is their breaking point.

Narcissism isn't just arrogance. It's "I am more important than you, and your needs don't matter." Dr. Ramani Durvasula on what NPD actually looks like:

A narcissist wants the freedom of an adult, the entitlement of a toddler, and the sympathy of a victim all at once.

Why on earth should ANY action be taken against him? Everything he said was true. This is really concerning on many levels. If Dr Proudman wants to commit herself to being publicly wrong about the CJS then she has to expect that others may wish to comment. This is a ridiculous attempt to harass and bully a man who has done nothing wrong. It is a matter of public interest that she is corrected. She will harm the trust of the general public in the CJS if she is not. It is not 'misogyny' just because she is female. It is perfectly possible to be female and stupid and wrong. This is all quite astonishing, and not in the good way.

A narcissist provokes you on purpose so you lose control.

There aren’t “two sides to a story“. There’s the truth, and there’s the abuser’s attempt to distort the truth.

You'll never be hated more than by a narcissist who loves you.

Once the narcissist knows you know who they truly are, watch how the smear campaign about you starts.