Lori A. Strayer

Traits of being "Solid Inside" 1) peaceful 2) grounded 3) compassionate

A beautiful healing tradition for trauma. To acknowledge and validate pain, then release it. Then to save a piece to remember. ❤️ instagram.com/reel/Dan4X4Du5…

Exactly. Not every ending needs a villain, and not every boundary needs a courtroom argument. Sometimes two people can both mean well and still be unhealthy for each other. “This no longer works for me” is not cruelty. It is clarity, and clarity is often the kindest way to stop abandoning yourself.

Truth! There are not really many short cuts in life!

Stop comparing yourself to others. Their success doesn't diminish yours. Their timeline isn't your deadline. Their highlight reel isn't your reality. The energy you waste measuring your life against theirs is energy you could be using to build the life you actually want. Stay in your lane. Run your race. Protect your peace. Your only competition is who you were yesterday.

@Eziahatoka True rebellion is finding your own path, not just walking the opposite way on a highway of bad advice.

@NoFilterSkin Quality steps to a great mindset and way of life!

Dumb Ways To Get Everything You Want 1. Write the ridiculous version first. Journal the most unhinged ideal outcome. Then write the realistic next step. Your standards rise automatically. 2. Turn jealousy into a to-do list. Every time you feel it: "what exactly do they have that I want?" turn it into one concrete skill / habit. 3. Say thank you before it happens. Thank the universe for things you haven't even received yet. That’s how you tell your reality "it's done" and you start believing it yourself. 4. Romanticise everything. Even a morning coffee can feel like abundance if you let it. When life feels rich, it becomes rich. 5. Do it badly on purpose (once). Post the imperfect draft. Send the messy pitch. The fear dies when you stop negotiating with it. 6. Fall in love with yourself. People will mirror this energy and perceive you completely differently. Things will come to you more easily. 7. Make a “proof folder” on your phone. Screenshots of wins, compliments, receipts, before/afters. Your brain believes what you repeatedly show it.

@nhoru_app Absolutely! 💯

@lori_strayer Absolutely. A healthy relationship with yourself starts with spending time with yourself.

i just breathe differently when i'm alone #breathe

@ZoyaBloomz Also, another person does not need to be "wrong" for you to decide to protect your peace and health. No justification is needed except "this doesn't work for me." It's ok to just take good care of yourself.

A boundary can disappoint someone without controlling them. “I won’t continue a conversation when I’m being insulted” names what you will do. “You’re not allowed to be upset with me” dictates what they are permitted to feel. That difference matters. Healthy boundaries protect participation. Control tries to manage another person’s choices, emotions, or access to support. Someone may dislike your limit and still respect it. You may dislike theirs and still decide whether the relationship works for you. A boundary does not guarantee agreement. It creates honest consequences, so both people can choose with clearer eyes.

@ZoyaBloomz A true boundary is about your actions and limits not dictating theirs. Disappointment is normal; control isn’t. Respect goes both ways.

@HermannHessed Live fully in the season you're in! ❤️

“Live in each season as it passes; breathe the air, drink the drink, taste the fruit, and resign yourself to the influences of each.” — Henry David Thoreau

@ZoyaBloomz @softpinkgiggles It takes internal strength for folks to stay true to how they want to be in these situations. This is why being Solid in yourself is so important for good relationships with others! ❤️

@softpinkgiggles Exactly. A quiet relationship is not necessarily a safe one. True peace is being able to bring discomfort into the room without warmth disappearing. When honesty is welcomed, not punished, silence becomes a choice rather than a survival strategy.

Over lunch, my friend said, “Things are calm now.” A few minutes later, she admitted she had stopped telling her partner when something hurt. “They get cold whenever I bring anything up,” she said. “So I just leave it.” I asked, “Did the conflict end, or did you become quieter?” She looked down at her plate. That was the part that changed the meaning of the conversation. The relationship had not necessarily become more peaceful. She had simply learned that honesty came with a cost. First, she softened her words. Then she delayed difficult conversations. Eventually, she began questioning whether her feelings were worth mentioning at all. Silence can look like harmony from the outside. But sometimes, it is only one person doing all the emotional adjusting. A useful question is not: “Do we argue less now?” It is: “Can I speak honestly without losing warmth, connection or respect?” Peace that depends on one person staying quiet is not peace. It is pressure with good manners.

@ZoyaBloomz The healthiest relationships don't make honesty feel expensive.

@Cozyreads_ Be the change you want to see in the world! 🌎❤️

@JillianTurecki So important to become the person you want. You are going to spend your life with yourself.

Everyone has a vision of the partner they want. Fewer people develop a vision of the partner they aspire to be.

It's not too late To dream another dream To wish And make it happen The sun is the beginning Your smile sets wonder In your time and space Keep believing. Good morning 💜

@thought_harbor We all need to restock and restore. That is how to win the long game.

You don't need every day to feel productive. Some days are rebuilding days. They restore your patience. Your focus. Your energy. Recovery isn't a pause from growth. It's part of the process.

@NeuhartTho37965 @GK61546 Yes, "How can I be a blessing to myself and others today?" Great question!

@GK61546 The best question I have ever read here. I don't even know, and i think almost nobody does. We should ask ourselves every single day.

If everyone acted like you, would the world survive?

@JonnySparrow @GK61546 Now that's funny!

@GK61546 It would be full of beer cans but it would be ok.

Plant kindness, harvest love might be the most profound sentence ever.

@brianmaierhofer Change is hard and it is the most constant thing we must face. It's hard to let go of the old before the new shows up. We humans are not fond of uncertainty. This is why it's so important to trust yourself and know you are on your own side through it all.❤️

Your nervous system knows when a chapter of your life has ended before your mind has fully accepted it. That's why you feel disconnected from certain people people, old passions no longer light you up, and there's a growing gap between who you feel yourself to be and what your life looks like on the outside.