Muslim Dad Diary

This is why public education is going down the toilet.

You might get tired of hearing the solution for many problems to be going back to the Qur'an and Sunnah, but it's true and will never change. The same way when your doctor tells you to eat well, sleep right, and exercise is always going to be the best health advice. Stop listening to it and just start.

@zaidchakir That deep breathing after a sprint is 🤌🏼💋. Really expands your chest and gives you that energy. Good pain.

Don’t read this if you’re not married: If you want to shred fat Build muscle and an amazing body Fix 90% of your marital problems Have superhuman hormones And grow a handsome beard Do sprints All it takes is 1-2 times a week 20 minutes 4-5 reps of 100m It literally feels like steroids

@MBitcoiner @OsmanUmarji Same here. Homeschool or else your kids are going to become Big Pharma’s test subjects.

@OsmanUmarji One of the main reasons I homeschool. No way my 6 year old is gonna sit still for that long. He can't learn like that.

Modern schooling is NOT designed for healthy, normal boys. Expecting a typical 5 year old to sit for hours doing worksheets, art, and listening to stories is just not gonna happen without resistance. Boys need more movement, rough play, and hands on activities.

How to inflate your sense of being a good Muslim: Go to public schools and assimilate like most people do. Get exposed to so much filth in public schools, that you feel like such a heavenly person because you did one or two good deeds and now you think you're doing Allah a favor. Subhan Allah. May Allah protect us and our families from such arrogance and deception, and never allow us to be comfortable in our deeds that we neglect doing good till our last breath for His sake, Ameen.

The preponderance of the evidence gets ever more preponderant: here's a meta-analysis of longitudinal studies, in JAMA. Important finding for setting 16 as the age minimum:

@flabbytofit99 The wife stays home and homeschools, making us raise our kids on our time table. It’s the best decision we’ve made.

My wife walked away from six figures when our first was born without hesitation. We cut back our expenses and I set out to replace her income. Took me 3-4 years but I got it done. Now we have 4 kids that have never set foot in a daycare. Happy we did it. What sacrifices did you make for your family?

@zaidchakir And then you throw Santa Clause into the mix, and then you find out he isn't real.

Confusing children like this with something Jesus never even preached is criminal You have to feel bad for children raised into Christianity, pretty sure Christianity was designed to be so confusing that u stop using your brain and they end up thinking God is meant to be a confusing mystery

Fitrah is a beautiful thing

Things homeschoolers already knew.

Avoid daycare at all costs. It already psychologically destroys children, but this compounds it.

My boss's boss is like 42, never married, no kids. Earns $275-300K per year. Goes on a minimum of two international vacations a year w/ his girlfriend. 10+ days, all out. Eats the best food, stays in top notch accomodations. Excursions, tours, nicest beaches, etc. Great guy, I'm happy for him. But what I've realized is that without kids, you end up chasing a lifestyle that has to continually be topped in order for you to be satisfied and find happiness. What he and others like him don't understand is that when you have children, seeing THEM experience life's most basic things and watching their eyes light up at all the "firsts", brings greater pleasure and joy than any vacation or travel experience ever could. Seeing THEM try blueberries for the first time is greater than dining at the best 5 star restaurant in Europe. Seeing THEM learn how to walk is greater than walking the Great Wall of China or strolling along the most picturesque beach. Watching THEM giggle uncontrollably at "peek-a-boo" tops any A-list comedian act. Seeing THEIR excitement when building a fort out of cardboard boxes and making a door big enough for daddy is superior to staying at 5-star resorts. Flying kites with THEM far outweighs excursions like parasailing or helicopter rides. Seeing THEM perform a recital on stage for the first time is more rewarding than watching a Broadway show or top notch symphony orchestra. ----------------- When you have children, all of a sudden you realize that life's greatest joys are not in the pursuit of things or pleasure or travel, but rather in the LOVE and bond you share with your very own image bearers. Seeing the beauty and magnificence and wonder of life all over again for the first time through THEIR eyes and expressions gives you something the world simply cannot offer, nor even come close.

@AbuHafsah1 Oof 😮‍💨 harsh but true.

Some of you sleep with your dogs whilst putting your 5 month old in a separate room in a cot. That’s why your kids hate you.

Imagine being a Palestinian running a small bakery in the West Bank. Then the Israeli IDF appears. They storm in, trash everything, drag you out, and disappear you. Your life erased in minutes.

Do Hajj when you’re young before you have kids - the effect can last generations. Many people make the mistake of doing Hajj when their marriages have seasoned and they have older kids, even though they were financially able to do it before having kids. The Hajj has a profound impact on their religiosity, and they take their Islam more seriously from this point forward. Before Hajj, Islam was passive, but now, after Hajj, they have fully committed to following it as best as they can Alhumdulilah. It changes their life. This is expected and what we should want out of Hajj, but the problem is there is now a divide between your religious standards and expectations, versus your kids’ standards. You became religious after Hajj, but now it’s near impossible to retroactively try to make your kids take the Deen more seriously because they are still living Islam the way you “taught” them: as a bystander who just proclaims Islam by mouth with no real action. That is how your kids saw Islam for years - a passive experience that involves going to Eid prayer twice a year and maybe fasting some days in Ramadan. For the most part your kids assimilated and drank the secular kool-aid. You’re praying five times a day and growing your beard, or wearing the hijab, but your kids are smoking weed and going to clubs, scantily clad and you have no control. It eats you up inside, and you realize you screwed up. Now let’s say you went to Hajj before having kids. Your life will still change for the better, and arguably you will be even more religious than when you go as an older man because you will do the Hajj with more energy, zeal, and passion: 1. You will run between Safa and Marwa instead of taking the wheelchair. 2. You will do tawaf with your own two feet instead of a scooter. 3. You will be able to stay in Muzdalifah and follow the Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ sleeping out in the open. 4. You can stone the shaytan without having to hire someone to do it on your behalf. Every act of worship will feel better when you’re younger, and the connection to Allah will be stronger. Now when you go back home after Hajj with a renewed sense of purpose and passion for Islam, you will start to study and learn more about Islam, and now you’re on a path to be an effective teacher for your children. You’re a young couple on a mission now, and your children’s faith is going to have a solid bedrock in sha Allah due to your dedication to Allah’s cause. You now realize that Hajj wasn’t just about changing your life, but the life of your future generations.

How to make your kids follow Islam organically and without forcing them. My daughter loves henna. She applies it on her hands all the time. It’s not the simple unattractive blobs of henna like in the past, but attractive patterns that beautify the hands and arms. When she leaves home though, she wears gloves to conceal her beauty. I didn’t force her to do that, but it did come through organic teaching at home through family discussions. Of course she wears hijab Alhumdulilah, and this also isn’t forced against her will. How does all this happen? Through organic family home discussions over the course of years. We talked about beautification, what is allowed and not allowed from an Islamic perspective, and how Allah is so merciful in how He lets us enjoy life with proper limits. We talk constantly about the importance of limits, and how people can really endanger themselves if limits are crossed, be it with dress, food, screen time, and yes, even with religion. Most of today’s problems are because we go into excess. From these lessons, the kids are inspired and do their best to follow the rules. Not just when I’m there, but on their own. To be honest, it’s not hard with Allah’s grace to achieve these type of results. Parenting and raising homeschooled children is a give and take relationship and there are sacrifices that are made when you make these decisions. You will make mistakes, but who doesn’t? That’s how every successful business becomes a successful business, by making choices, seeing what works, and adjusting as needed. Your family is an institution, and needs the same structure and reinforcement. The first major decision of any family? Who will educate my children??? There are some beneficial qualities of public schools, but one of the biggest sacrifices you will make is the ultimate sacrifice - your religion. You can’t argue with that when you look at today’s global culture. When you homeschool, you control the narrative. You guide the children to the right path and keep them there, while public schools will misguide them and you will spend your whole day trying to undo everything the schools are doing. There’s no time for productive conversations that build upon each other day by day, week by week, year after year. It’s just a constant back and forth of trying to get them to listen to you because they constantly and systematically see the opposite of Islam everyday and want to do that instead: “Mom, Dad, I don’t want to wear hijab.” “Mom, Dad, why can’t I have a boyfriend?” “Mom, Dad, why can’t I go to that party?” “Mom, Dad, why can’t I go to my friends’ sleepover?” I really don’t know why parents are surprised when these questions come up. And when they do, they’re dumbfounded and don’t know how to answer except by saying some variety of “because I said so.” Where were the discussions about putting your trust in Allah? Where were the discussions about knowing Allah’s path is tough, but rewarding in this world and the next? Where were your personal examples as inspiration along with examples from the Seerah of the Prophet ﷺ, acknowledging how doing the right thing always leads to good? Don’t think you’re off the hook when your kids are off to school. You actually made your situation worse, and you’re on the hook more than ever.

@AsimKhan21c So true. It might even be the opposite where people who do post their wives online have problematic marriages.

Just because people don’t post pics of their wife on social media it doesn’t mean they’re not happily married.

Unfortunately now we send our women out willingly to get conquered by western values. There’s a reason why the Prophet ﷺ said: “The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife.” Sahih Muslim A righteous wife is the gateway to Jannah for her whole family since she is the one most intimately involved with the children, who are the future leaders of society. Leaders of homes. Leaders of communities. Leaders of the Ummah.

How the French wanted to conquer Algerian Muslims women: —- If we wish to strike at Algerian society in its structure, in its capacity for resistance, we must first of all conquer the women; we must go and seek them out hidden behind the veil and in the houses where the men conceal them” . . . To convert women, to win them over to foreign values and to tear them away from their personal status, is to gain a real power over the men and, at the same time, to possess the practical and effective means to dismantle Algerian culture’. For Ferhat Abbas also, ‘The Muslim woman loves children. As the guardian of moral values, she raises them in the ancestral traditions, the legends and myths. She constitutes the bedrock of the family cell, the dynamic element of tribal life . . . And as she was particularly hostile to European penetration, she concentrated in herself the patriotism and unity of the people’. —- “She raises them in the ancestral traditions, the legends and myths.” This of course refers to the Quran, as Allah subhana wata’aalah says the disbelievers will call the Quran ancient tales (asateerul awwaleen). [Al-Mutaffifin:13]: إِذَا تُتْلَىٰ عَلَيْهِ آيَاتُنَا قَالَ أَسَاطِيرُ الْأَوَّلِينَ [and so,] whenever Our messages are conveyed to them, they but say, "Fables of ancient times!"

Why modern women are unhappy - from a Christian:

This is no accident. A purposeful, systematic, moral decline from the way Allah wants you to live will lead to a miserable life that breaks societies apart, starting with infidelity. “If you want to destroy any nation without war, make adultery or nudity common in the young generation.” Salahuddin