Charles Bauer

I get the point you're making, but I think you're oversimplifying relationships. Wanting your partner to be generous, supportive or invest in your life doesn't automatically mean you're charging for sex. The problem isn't gifts or money, it's when the relationship becomes purely transactional. Healthy relationships can have financial support, emotional support, and intimacy all existing together without reducing either person to a buyer or a seller.

You’re free to feed your Ego in my post. It only shows y’all be dating girlies who vacations, wigs, hotels tickles. If you’ve dated a high value woman then you’d understand my post better. High value women don’t care about “Paparazzi” lifestyles. They think long term that’s the difference. And you men know when you see a woman with such cos she can stand as a backbone to you.

This rubbish you people do when you know someone online and think you’re friends irl Let’s stop it please

A high-value woman is like a moving train. She has her stuff together. She isn’t moved by fancy trips etc. When you come into her life, you either add value to it or bounce out. Y’all keep pushing the narrative that it’s all about money, but you’re missing the whole point. Making cute memories is cool, but we are not shallow-minded. For example, she runs a hair business and you, as a man, notice she doesn’t have a website for it. So you decide to create one for her. The issue is that most of y’all date mid girls, and it shows that’s why there’s so much drag. It’s not one-sided. A woman can bring valuable connections that link her man to big customers. As a female civil engineer whose partner owns a block industry, don’t you know most of my colleagues are contractors? I connect him to them. Men, bye ✌️ We don big pass yeye enjoyments. I am a woman of value. You can start counting from me.

I've said it many times that the biggest problem we are having with relationship is that we dont know where to draw the line between commitment and paid sex. It is either we have been involved too much in paying for sex/being paid for sex or we are looking at the lives of people getting paid for sex and using relationship to try to live that life because we do not have the mind to live it openly. "Mr Emeka is only sleeping with Chichi, and look at all the things she gets to buy and the money she has." But Emeka is paying for her services and they both know the arrangement. Sex is the fastest selling commodity, there is no need pretending about it. It is okay to offer someone sex in exchange for monetary reward or monetary reward in exchange for sex. If the other person consents, fine. If not, keep it moving. What many of you are doing is entering relationship and demanding the stuff Chichi is getting from Emeka - that is, demanding to be paid for sexual relations. Relationship has an entirely different dynamics. You're doing life together. Your goal should always be to give and share memories, not looking for investment and making useless demands because he sleeps with you. Are you not sleeping with him? Lovers make love because it is good for their heart. You're not having sex to fill your pocket. The men too are also lost because they are in relationship and paying for sexual relations and respect, when they could just actually pay for sexual relations from a willing participant. Everything in hazy in Nigeria. I hate to always say this but you'll only come close to experiencing love and the distinctions between different forms of sexual relations when you leave Nigeria. In Nigeria, everything is the same, no difference between relationship and other forms of sexual relations. We just name them different things for aesthetics.

As a man, when you find a good woman, please be a good man to her too.

I would sign a contract with my husband before marriage: if he cheats, I get 80% of his properties and I leave the marriage. Period. 👌

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