the smart teacher

As a teacher, I can tell you this: The students who succeed the most are not the smartest. They are the most consistent.🤏🤏

@jon_d_doee A man who can work on his ego, adapt, and keep showing up (even in small ways) is still leading. At the end of the day, strong marriages survive tough seasons through teamwork.

Last night, I posted a DM from a married man who was assisted by this community in June of last year. In his update, he said something: "My wife is now more loving." Yesterday morning, at the end of the thread I wrote, I had said something: "When money is lacking, your marriage will never be the same, even if you are married to a good wife." It was indeed a soul-lifting testimony coming from the man, and I bless God for using us as a vessel to restore his shield. Provision is a man's shield, and his ego is his weapon. When a man loses his shield, he loses the ability to enjoy his manly "privileges". And so, he would resort to using his weapon (ego) to fight his inadequacies. That is why he would lowkey resent his wife for doing what he knows he is supposed to be doing, but he doesn't have the money (shield) to do it. Whether he's lazy or not, and even if he lost his shield through unfortunate circumstances. Some weeks ago, on the main page, I wrote a thread discussing how a couple (who are followers) got divorced. Although I was disappointed and unhappy about the situation, I understood their circumstances. The man was struggling to provide for his ex-wife and two kids, so she started a small business to feed the children. Untop of that, the man was cheating carelessly and rubbing it on her face. He was also resenting his wife. I know this because I had the privilege to get to know much about their marriage. Each time she would come to my DM, I would plead with her not to leave her marriage. But her ex husband's ego wouldn't let him see how he was destroying their marriage, until it crashed. I had once chatted with him to plead that he should be careful, but his ego would not let him. And so, he used it until her bride price was returned and all traditional rites were done. When a man loses his shield, and his wife starts to act differently, it is not always because she is a bad wife. It's mostly because she is afraid of what might become of them should the situation not improve. A wife is supposed to be worried about what to cook, not where the money to buy the food will come from. A wife is supposed to be worried about how the children are doing in school and their academics. Not where the money to pay their fees would come from. A wife should be worried about keeping their house clean and homely. Not where the money to pay the rent would come from. If the wife is saddled with all these burden, and then saddled with how to make the money, she'll definitely Crack. If you're not careful as a man, you'd think that you married a bad wife. If you married a bad wife, why would she still be with you? In most cases, your ego would be what would destroy the marriage. And your lackadaisical attitude. Stop wallowing in self-pity as a man. Swallow your pride and ask for help, and roll up to sleeves to do whatever legitimate you can to be able to patch the Crack in your home. Do not say that any job is too dirty or embarrassing for you to do. What is important is that you're moving forward and getting money to fulfill your responsibilities as much as possible. And even if your wife is making millions, please keep giving her your thousands. She would appreciate you, and return to the loving wife that you married. AJD.

@jon_d_doee Good news. Your joy shall be permanent. Thank you agba and to all who contributed to the success story.

In June 2025, this married man was in my DM with his financial challenges. I took pity on his situation and raised funds for him to fix his car. Then I connected him to some persons as well. Even Seyi (Ẹkùn) was helpful to him. Seyi wanted to give me $100 but I asked him to give the man $200 Please read his update 👇

@Dr_Benjr True, exceptional students exist. But even they rely on consistency to sustain their success over time.

@sinmiola20 There are smart and exceptional ones too

As a teacher, I can tell you this: The students who succeed the most are not the smartest. They are the most consistent.🤏🤏

@jon_d_doe Small yansh dey shake 😆😆😆😆

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@excesslola @jon_d_doe You get bad mouth 😆😆😆

@jon_d_doe Mgbeke🤣 Miss Dudu Osun😂

And I was correcting one mgbeke that posted porn. Someone that I helped build her page. And she felt that she has "arrived". Posting what she learned from me for impressions. But she never see man wey go marry am. Banger girl. 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂

@jon_d_doe They tend to blame others for their setbacks, often attributing their misfortune to "Ogun idile" , a belief in inherited family misfortune.”

Poverty of the mind.

@jon_d_doe And if her brothers decide not to, they will become the bad ones.

If your sister is unfortunately married to a man who is backward thinking & entitled. And you her brothers are doing well. Observe something. That your sister would most likely have more children than you people. And her husband is banking on you people to raise them. End.

@jon_d_doe It shows how irresponsible he is. The wife should use her number six.

There is a married woman in this community. She has been the breadwinner for God knows how long. What her husband does, is to be going to the village looking for lands to sell & playing village politics. They have 4 children already. And he's still demanding that he wants another child. I have discovered that physical poverty is not a crime. But poverty of the mind is. And people with poverty of the mind have a special kind of warped thinking. They always think left left. End.

@jon_d_doe Collect your money from your sis and leave the place. You can rent a small apartment and hunt for another job. Don't be the reason for your sister's heartbreak.

I have been having a difficult conversation with this 24 year old young lady. At this point, I really do not know how to help her out of her situation. Please ensure that you read to the last screenshot 👇.

@jon_d_doe 😆😆😆 he should not use his reggae spoil your blues

None. But my younger brother followed me one time. I blocked him. 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂

@jon_d_doe After the naming ceremony, they vanished. Yet they’re the same people telling you how many children you should have. Some will even say your child needs a younger sibling.

I have some relatives who told me this. "Your papa born 6. Why would you just stop at 2?" People wey never buy common biscuit give my children before.

@jon_d_doe The saddest part is that the child was wise enough to say no, but she shouldn’t have been in that situation in the first place if her parents had done their part.

I take this issue of indiscriminate or unplanned childbearing very personally because it really affects our society. And it also causes feud, envy, and resentment within a family unit. I just stumbled on a video. A man noticed a young girl who hawks pear. She's not more than 10 years old. He observed that an old man was talking to her on the road, and he decided to confront both of them. Upon interrogation, the young girl said that the man offered her N1,000 so that she could go with him to a corner for them to indulge in sexual activities. Visibly annoyed, the man who confronted them physically attacked the old man, and it drew a crowd. The young girl looked malnourished but was smart enough to reject the man's offer. This is what poverty can do to you and your children, & lack of discernment in bringing forth innocent children to this world. A young girl that should be in school, is on the streets hawking pears to feed her parents. If the government is failing us, should we also be failing ourselves? The insecurity that we have in the northern part of Nigeria is another example. All those Almajiris we see on the streets, most of them are now the terrorists and bandits that are terrorizing the country today. It cuts across our society. When parents fail to live up to their responsibilities, the entire society will bear the brunt of it. End.

@jon_d_doe The red flags were so obvious, and you still got involved.

Please read the conversation that I had with a 30 year old man 👇.

@jon_d_doe I believe the new generation should only have the number of children they can care for in order to reduce d sense of entitlement often placed on others. I know someone who couldn’t further her education because her parents relied on elder sister to support the family.

Another pointer to family fued, entitlement, hatred, resentment or envy: "Wait behind, let me train your elder brother or sister in school. Then they can train you when I am done with them" What if the elder brother or sister refuses or are unable to do that? End.

The questions we should all ask ourselves are this: That uncle or aunty that your father or mother is not on good terms with, did they not all grow up in the same home? Were they not playing with each other as kids? Why are they no longer united now? Why are your cousins distant, and why can't you freely interact with them? End.

@jon_d_doe Same house. Same parents. Same childhood memories. Yet somewhere between ego, inheritance, pride, and “who said what,” love got replaced with distance. Families rarely break in one big moment they crack slowly, silence after silence, grudge after grudge.

@jon_d_doe Having children is a choice. If you cannot nurture them properly, it may be better to live your life alone. A student in my class told me she has a boyfriend just to reduce her mother’s stress. Imagine a 14-year-old girl carrying such a burden.

You're not borrowing your biological children money by raising them. Stop seeing it as a debt that they have to pay you back. It's your duty and obligation as their parents. If you are not willing to see it this way, please enjoy your money alone and forget giving birth. End.

@ligan_112 @jon_d_doe Had he known things would turn out this way, he wouldn’t have done it

@jon_d_doe My dad marry 3 wives….I’m 28 going to 29 I just want to start my HND I don’t have anything Life is somehow hard I don’t pray to have 2 wife Things aren’t easy Sometimes I just look at my dad I can never say anything bad to him But i just pray things should be good.

There is mostly always an unhealthy rivalry, silent competition, envy and even hatred in a family where there are plenty children. It doesn't matter if their parents did their best for all of them. It becomes more pronounced when the children start to get married. End.

Dear Parents Getting a home lesson teacher for your kids is good but not every time Mathematics and English, look into other areas like Music, Fashion Designing, Programming, Animation, Culinary. This won't stop them from still becoming Doctors.