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There's an unfortunate event I've been ffg on Facebook. A 40 year old man lured a 20 year old lady, under the guise of account monetization. He raped her violently. She couldn't bear the shame and committed suicide. He's currently begging her parents for settlement.🤦‍♂

His face is here! Please share everywhere. I’m pained in my soul! 😭😭😭😭. He slapped her! See her eyes😭😭😭

Stop mocking other women for sticking it out with their struggling men👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

“2023 I went to see a yahoo boy in ekiti I met on IG after he sent me 500k, we were just eating & having s3x, 2024 I went to Edo state to stay with my situation-ship but we are no longer together cus I’ve overgrown him cuz of the way he thinks, I was just 18 in 2024 I went out on a date with a married man & found out he was married after we already had s3x he was in his 40’s, I almost had a 3some but the other guy left cuz he was scared & ate me for 30mins but didn’t get an er3ct!on” —-Nigerian Lady Rhennie speaks on her adventures 🗣️

You are an adult, you go dey talk “ I can’t be caught defending men” at your big age. The concept of being sensible has eluded you.

You know, I was recently thinking about our coming-of-age years. Many of the games girls played on us were completely unwarranted. With guys, you could at least tell what many of them were after. Maybe they wanted sex. Or maybe they simply didn't want to be used for their money. So they became players. Some could afford to juggle several women at once. But with girls, a lot of what they did just seemed random. They'd screenshot a guy's DM and send it to people or post it on the Internet. They'd make plans for a date with you. You'd follow up, get dressed, sometimes even arrive at the venue, and then they'd stop answering their phones. “Oh sorry for the other day, my elder sister’s child had a cough.”  They'd mess guys around for no real reason. Walk past a guy with a group, tell a funny secret about him, and laugh at him with their friends. There need not be quarrel. You hadn't done anything. It was often just about making themselves feel desirable. Over time, I think many guys simply concluded, "So this is what pursuing women looks like. You just get screwed over until you find one who’d still dictate terms for you." Many men acknowledged it as part of the experience. While some eradicated any chance for emotional investment, others developed what I'd call a defeatist mindset. They accepted women as they are and believed nothing could be done for them to improve. Most guys fell into that mindset because their egos were tied to their success with women. The more they saw other guys with girlfriends, the more they felt that being single meant they were losing as young men. So they tolerated all kinds of rubbish just to avoid being alone and to appear successful in the eyes of other people. The women benefited from that dynamic too. Many would mock single guys. If you've ever been a guy at university or in a neighbourhood who's simply focused on his own life—not constantly chasing women—you'll know what I mean. Girls would literally call you gay or make fun of you for being a loner. It was almost as if everyone was reinforcing the same message. Women implied that if you were alone, something was wrong with you. Men implied that if you were alone, you weren't a top guy. So a lot of young men did everything they could to avoid being single, simply because of how it looked to other people. That was the reality. Then, over time, something changed. Some of the women who had spent years overplaying their hand with men started going online to complain that there were no decent men left. At the same time, there were still men who believed that having a woman was central to their masculinity. Since they already thought something was wrong with a man who couldn't get a woman, they naturally became allies of these women. But they weren’t really desired by these women—at least, not without an enormous expense. I watched this dynamic unfold and thought about everything else that came with it: the humiliation culture I've spoken about before, the money men were expected to spend, and the fact that no matter how much you invested, she could leave without any considerable investment—and people would generally support her. At some point, you simply realise, "This isn't for me." You can still talk to women. You can still enjoy their company. You can still flirt or have a good time. But you also realise that you don't have to participate in that whole system. Let them convince themselves of whatever and however, and try to gaslight you—it’s all good. Life is a trade off: you can choose your sufferings. Commit your life to what is good, beautiful and truthful, and hold firmly against the world around you.

Nigerian men are so "love starved" and "care starved" that a lot of basic things freak them, and that's why they're easily manipulated. Cos tell me, what do you mean "I know I've found my wife when she wasn't asking for money, phone or wigs like other women." Is the bar that low?

He is paying your bills but you can’t cook for him. Oya nau

The core to good UX is always great engineering. It’s about solving simple problems with complex engineering and making the output simple enough for a user to understand. I can’t wait to experience the launch of this car.

You rejecting him is not punishment. It's a win win for both of you.

There was this friend of mine that loves girls with big bunda. We’d be walking together and whenever he sees a girl with big bunda he’d say “Amenya see noooow, see ass. This is the kind of ass I want to have” I jokingly asked him “me nko?” This guy looked at a wholeeeee meeee and said “You, I go just manage you” Few months later, he asked me out and I declined. I reminded him what he said to me that day and he pleaded that it was a joke. I still didn’t accept. And now, he’s getting married to his SPEC.