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I was inducted into the Med Lab Science Profession with FIRST CLASS HONORS and awarded as second overall best graduating student nd best graduating student in Chemical Pathology Allow me re-introduce myself MLS Nkechi Okpala (B.MLS, AMLSCN) #MLSTwitterCommunity

Many nurses I met here in the uk were the one financing their home for the first few years of their relocation. These are people who did not pay rent while in Nigeria. These are people whose husbands were engineers, doctors, Lecturers in Nigeria but after relocation had to do menial jobs ti sustain the family. The idea of “50/50 in marriage” sounds fair, modern, and balanced, but in real life, it’s one of the biggest fallacies we keep spreading. Marriage has never worked on perfect arithmetic. It works on capacity, season, and sacrifice…not percentages. Some days one partner will give 80 while the other gives 20. Some seasons, one person will be strong, and the other will be fighting silent battles. Some moments, one will carry the emotional weight, financial burden, or household responsibilities because the other is simply drained. And that’s not failure. That is marriage. The truth is simple: no human being can wake up every day and contribute exactly “50.” People get tired. People get sick. People break down emotionally. People lose jobs. Life shifts. Energy fluctuates. A healthy marriage is not two people calculating what the other has done, it is two people who are committed to showing up fully in whatever capacity they have each day. Today you may carry your partner. Tomorrow they may carry you. Balance is achieved over time, not in one moment. And here’s another reality people avoid: Sometimes the person who is giving “30” is actually giving 100% of what they have in that season. And the partner giving “70” also gives because they can at that moment. That is partnership, not exploitation. The people who survive marriage long-term understand one thing clearly: Marriage is not 50/50. Marriage is 100/100. Two people committed to giving their best, not an equal fraction, but a full effort according to their ability, their health, their season, and their reality. When you insist on 50/50, you reduce marriage to a business contract. When you understand 100/100, you embrace marriage as a covenant, a daily decision to love, support, and show up. Some days you will be the one lifting. Some days you will be the one leaning. And that is perfectly fine. Anyone who wants a mathematical marriage will never experience a meaningful one. Love has never been about counting. It has always been about giving.

I always avoid these cos you might miss the point, but it took me myself a while to realize it. For you maybe I’ll cut the time by some years if you’re willing. If your measure of value of a woman is strictly tied to that (sex), you might miss out on a lot more in a person. Two people had sex. By your standard, you’re as “easy” as you consider her. Don’t let the world fool you on the whole “men are conquering” narrative. I can give you a list of more important things to conquer if you’re interested. If you look at it through biology, sex is just sex. Animals do it, so why exactly do you look at it as seriously as you do. Your value barometer needs work and you need to expand your view. She liked you enough to have sex with you, don’t be an asshole. From your screenshot, you seemed to have charmed her, then switched up after you “got what you wanted”. Loser move. Be consistent. I know all this might sound like “dust”, but I hope you find value in all or parts of it.

Men, we need to wake up ! We need to start talking to ourselves and educating ourselves. This thing starts with us unlearning the entitlement, the silence, and the ignorance that allows evil to keep happening. Because this time, it’s a child. An eight year old. A baby. There’s no justification, no situation, no excuse. Just wickedness and a broken sense of humanity. And we need to fix it from the roots. From our homes to our schools. Our educational system and curriculum must start teaching boys about empathy, consent, respect, and self-control. We can’t keep raising men who don’t understand boundaries. Until we start re-educating the male mind, we’ll keep saying #JusticeFor… And that cycle has to end. #JusticeForOchanya 🕊️

@diana_drips @Steadi_lady They won't. Most of them see nothing wrong in it. It's really sad.

@Steadi_lady The gender anchoring these are men and they are mostly in power. This is why it is difficult to end this. Men need to speak up more and call their gender to order. #endchildmarriage

I didn’t even know what VVF was until I served in northern Nigeria. That’s why I sometimes struggle with whether NYSC should be scrappd, bcos many of us live in delulu land, oblivious to half of what’s really happening in this country, especially those of us born & raised in Lagos. Girls in Nigeria are suffering. Over half of VVF patients were married off as children. Kids who should be in school (12, 13, 15 years old) are being forced into marriage & pregnancy before their bodies are ready. This is most common in areas with high rates of child marriage. Cases of VVF due to child marriage: Kano - 81.5% married by age 15 Borno - 52.3% married by age 15 Sokoto - over 90% married before 18, etc. In 2025, we are still allowing young girls to endure brutal pain/deaths under the control of men bcos “our religion says so.” Yet you’ve abandoned other outdated practices from that same religion bcos society has moved forward. Why can’t we end child marriage too? What is attractive in a child’s body?? #justiceforOchanya

Open to being corrected but didn’t edge control JUST become a thing a few years ago?? Why are braiders acting like they cannot live without it? It itches and it comes off immediately after WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS???

How can I escape Nigerian twitter and their constant low quality conversations.

may her stomach see flatness and her ass see fatness. Amen

I've always found it so impressive how iPhone users can always tell which one it is just by looking at it.

People don't realise just how broken Nigeria and Nigerians are. A criminal, a common thief, the person who tells old white women they love them just to steal their money is treated with much more regard than an educated person earning an honest living. Everything about this place disgusts me.

I miss when “banger boys” were the niggas that made us laugh everyday on the tl with funny tweets, now it’s just mental illness, harassment, body shaming, false accusations disguised as “agenda” and dumbass rage baits.

“are you seeing anyone” like hallucinating?

After all the investments wey my papa dun do for my head make I come marry “Chill let the client send the money before we eat?” 😂

No one talks about growing up a tom boy & learning how to be a girl

i miss the innocence of loving someone wholeheartedly without the constant fear of them hurting me

Women are opening businesses & buying lands while you are studying feminine ways to talk to a man, so he can marry you. Sis, are you ok?!!!

Temi dropping her surname to take Mr Eazi’s is her personal choice and deserves respect. That poor man pikin also has the right to make her own decisions. Being a billionaire’s daughter doesn’t set the standard for every woman.

EVENTUALLY KIDS GET OLD ENOUGH TO SEE WHICH PARENT WAS THE PROBLEM.