Mr Sergio@samson_samsen
You want to know something society never told you about women?
You are either her ex' upgrade or a placeholder for her next upgrade.
It is not necessarily out of love that a woman stays with you - if she stays. It is often because:
(i) you are her best available option in that moment,
(ii) she either lacks or has lost the pull for your possible upgrades, or
(iii) she is simply not exposed to enough alternatives that outperform you.
In other words, a woman is with you because, within the environment available to her, you are the most favourable option she can access.
And for many men, what they call “loyalty” is often just limited exposure.
Also she's with you because You are "lucky" enough that, by environment, circumstance, or even her lack of interest in social media, she is unable to consistently encounter men who significantly outperform you in the areas she values. Such men exist and she's open to the idea of betraying your love for them.
Because as long as you exist merely as an option to a woman, you are dispensable. And as long as your woman is constantly exposed to alternatives, departure becomes more possible than you imagine.
This is why the signs should already concern you if your girlfriend is constantly performing on social media through curated pictures and endless public display. That is a larger market she is presenting herself to. A wider world of comparison, and possible upgrades. And realistically, you cannot outperform every option in an infinite marketplace.
Exposure changes perception.
This is why the sweet, loving girlfriend suddenly changes after gaining admission into university. Affection drops. Calls reduce. Because her environment expanded and with it came new comparisons, new standards.
It is why attitudes change after a new job, a relocation, sudden fame, social ascension, or increased visibility.
Options alter attachment.
It is also why celebrity marriages rarely last. Both parties exist in environments saturated with alternatives, where hundreds of people constantly present the possibility of a “better” partner - more attractive, richer, more influential, more exciting, more useful, more admired.
Excess exposure to options is the enemy of sacred things like commitment, contentment, and relational permanence.
Because human beings are naturally greedy creatures. Most people are not truly content; they are merely limited by access. And once access expands, desire expands with it.
And women, being naturally hypergamous, often exhibit an even stronger responsiveness to perceived upgrades in status, lifestyle, competence, influence, or provision.
So Many relationships are not held together by love as much as they are held together by limitation.
Your girlfriend’s longevity with you may not necessarily be proof of deep devotion. Sometimes it is simply proof that she has not yet encountered what she perceives to be a reasonable replacement of you.
If... Scratch that.. When she does, she will leave you without batting an eyelid.
I have said enough.
