Wilmer Herranz

If any man think ill of you, do not be angry, for you are worse than he thinks you to be. Spurgeon

For years, I expected my family to leave me alone for a period of “decompression” when I got home from work. I’ve always worked in highly relational, conversation-based roles. I’d often arrive home overstimulated and disappear into my office. My wife would want me to address a discipline issue with one of the kids or take interest in how her day went. My kids would want to tell me about their day or hit me with a thousand requests needing dad’s permission. But I just wanted space. I was fried. “Give me a minute, guys.” Looking back, I see that for what it was: a missed opportunity. A failure of leadership. How a man walks into his home after work says a lot about the culture he’s building. A man doesn’t just bring home a paycheck. He brings direction and masculine leadership. So I changed. I started treating “re-entry” as a moment to lead, and I built three habits to help me do it. Habit #1: I stopped listening to anything on the drive home. I use the silence to pray, collect my thoughts, and gear up to do more work, the kind that matters most. If you work from home, you might need to take a few minutes alone in your office before stepping out. Habits two and three flow from this one. They start the moment I walk through the door. Habit #2: I ask my wife if there are any discipline or pastoral issues that need a father’s touch. There are plenty of situations where a mother needs the father to step in. Handle those. Once I’ve dealt with the kids, I move to habit three. Habit #3: I tell my wife something about my day. She’s been with the kids all day with no adult conversation. More than that, she’s my main support in the mission I’m called to. I want her to see what she’s helping make possible by being a helpmate to me. Of course, I ask about her day too, but I’ve found that priming the pump helps get a good back-and-forth going. I hear a lot of pastors scolding men for not doing dishes or folding laundry. I rarely do either. Not because I think I’m too good for it. It’s just already done. My wife oversees our home well. Besides, me fathering my kids and encouraging my wife does ten times more for the health of our home. My household doesn’t need a second mother. It needs a father. These habits help me get to that work the moment I walk through the door. They’re not rules I slavishly follow. Some days, I do need a moment. Sometimes the drive home just isn’t long enough. This is more about building a culture of action. There are other ways to do this. Find what works for you. The point is to seize every opportunity to lead your home. And a word to the wives: reciprocate. Don’t be the sort of wife who immediately dumps all, and only, the day’s difficulties on her husband. Be ready to share the wins too. And metaphorically speaking, give him a moment to put on his house slippers. If he moves toward you, and you move toward him, you’ll create a more peaceful home. Let this be the attitude of both husband and wife: “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others” (Philippians 2:4). That means the husband sets aside his fatigue to engage. And it means the wife doesn’t greet him with a flood of complaints. He moves toward her, and she moves toward him. That’s how you build peace. That’s how you build a home.

Tonight I read the story of Rachel and Leah to my four year old daughter. She felt sad that people thought Leah wasn’t pretty and said… “Dad, I think God made Leah pretty in her own way. And no matter what other people think, God loves her, and thinks she’s beautiful, right?” 🥹 Her tenderhearted comment was both convicting and encouraging. I pray she’ll always see people with those kind of eyes…and she’ll know God loves her and thinks she’s beautiful too.

“E indiscutiblemente, grande es el misterio de la piedad: Él fue manifestado en la carne, Vindicado en el Espíritu, Contemplado por ángeles, Proclamado entre las naciones, Creído en el mundo, Recibido arriba en gloria.” 1 Timoteo 3:16 NBLA bible.com/bible/103/1ti.…

Paz con Dios, paz en la conciencia y paz en la iglesia son una joya preciosa que no cambiaría por muchos mundos. — Hercules Collins

Yo sé que el Señor sostendrá la causa del afligido, Y el derecho de los pobres.” Salmo 140:12 NBLA bible.com/bible/103/psa.…

Moses spent 40 years thinking he was somebody; 40 learning he was nobody; and 40 discovering what God can do with a nobody. — D. L. Moody

In Remembrance of A. N. Martin | Sam Waldron content.cbtseminary.org/in-remembrance… vía @CBTSeminary

Una vida fragmentada es una vida de desintegración. RC Sproul

“Todo pecado está fundado en un ateísmo secreto.” Stephen Charnock

Es un hecho lamentable que los matrimonios infelices son una de las grandes causas de la miseria y el dolor que hay en el mundo. Las personas descubren demasiado tarde que han cometido un error, y van con amargura todos sus días. (J.C. Ryle)

It brings no shame to praise God's grace in publicly noting past sins. It brings great shame to diminish God's grace by using past sins to accuse.

“Demos, a la edad presente, así como a las futuras, un ejemplo de verdadero amor cristiano que perdura, a pesar de las diferencias de criterio”. -George Whitefield Tomado del libro: Wesley y los Hombres que Siguieron, 71.

Puede sonar extraño, pero es solo a través de una perspectiva apropiada de la muerte que podemos adquirir una perspectiva apropiada de la vida. La vida debajo del sol. Sugel Michelén.

“Es verdad que ninguna disciplina al presente parece ser causa de gozo, sino de tristeza; pero después da fruto apacible de justicia a los que en ella han sido ejercitados.” bible.com/bible/149/heb.…

The question for conscience to answer is not ‘Are we perfect?’, but ‘Do we really repent and believe?’ —JC Ryle, on Mark 4:35-41

De pie podemos construir argumento tras argumento, pero de rodillas todos estamos de acuerdo. – J. I. Packer

«¿Pero de qué les aprovechará tener Biblias en sus casas, si no las usan?» Matthew Henry

¿Deseamos, con todo nuestro corazón, ser librados del poder y de la práctica del pecado, así como de la ira de Dios y de los dolores del infierno? —Puritano Walter Marshall

Enoc: un hombre que anduvo con Dios youtu.be/qyX3qWo11ac?si… a través de @YouTube