Sionna Dehr
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Sionna Dehr
@writersdawn
wife, mother, fantasy romance writer, artist, and singer. my pronouns are: monarchy/rules ☦️
Katılım Kasım 2022
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@Megamom1985 Anyway, this is what it looks like when man and woman have reasonable student loan debt with an actual plan to pay it off.
Do not marry someone who’s accrued over $100+ unless they’re a lawyer or a doctor.
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@Megamom1985 Look, $25,000 is reasonable. I had that and had paid it down to about $20,000 when my husband and I married. We had less than $50,000 accumulated between us. Hubby has his paid off and now we’re working on mine (he’s 5 yrs older, so he worked it down longer than me)
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This is the major millstone right here.
There is no shirking it. Best advice i can give is…
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Sterling West@SterlingWest
Meet a cute girl, get talking Kinda like her She casually mentions she has $250,000 in student debt and no career prospects I wonder how much of the “fertility crisis” is men not wanting to pay what I’ll call the Ms. University tax. We are all slaves.
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@Megamom1985 How someone who’s not at least an MD accrues $250K in student debt blows my mind. I can see 50-100… still horrendous
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@banterwithb “Babies in the faith.”
Protestants have absolutely no right to criticize
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I am curious as to what mechanism Protestantism has that prevents babies in faith become the face of the religion
Alton T. Johnson@AL_J82
Orthodoxy is on the ropes right now thanks to the OrthoBros, anons, inquirers, catechumens and recent converts. Say what you want about protestants, but we know better than to let babes in the faith become the faces of our church. Once these guys have finished consuming your churches like locusts, they'll just move on to something else.
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How to know someone that doesn’t have kids 101. How do you tell a 17 months old to go and play on their own?? Disaster 😂
𝕷𝖆𝖉𝖞 𝕬 🦇@Nyct0phil3_x
I'm going to be harsh - shocking I know - but this is a choice. You do not have to give up your hobbies, interests, passions or identity when having kids. This modern notion of needing to neurotically helicopter over your kids and sequester them away in "kid centric" activities is bizarre and stupid and boring. You can just take your kids to your events and activities. You can just do uour hobbies. You can tell your kids you're busy and to go and play independently. You'll be happier for it and your kids will be more resilient and capable.
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@Nyct0phil3_x Took me six years to get my older two not to touch my laptop. The 1yo can’t reach it, yet.
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"Alicia i cant read around my kids, they push the book out of my hands!"
Okay well you should probably teach them not to do that
"But they climb all over me!"
You can also teach them not to do that!
"But Alicia they scream and wake me up at 5am!"
You'll never guess what you can do
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@luinalaska Oh, and there’s steroids. MP was probably on them often as a kid. Those are “fun.” Also cause neuroticism
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@luinalaska And you feel like shit all the time. You’re constantly having to make sure you have x y and z near you whenever you go out.
Oh, and you’re cycling through medication after medication, getting poked and prodded, and having major surgery hanging over your head.
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This commentary isn’t specifically about JP, but I do wonder how much of a complicated medical profile stems from neuroticism and need for control? We all know people like this. It’s almost always someone who doesn’t have to work to eat. You never see this among blue collar people. J had to work to eat so he’ll go to work with a broken femur. He’ll have a bullet lodged in his arm and say he’s probably fine. My mom had a friend who has spent her entire life with complicated maladies that always surrounded her need to control her environment. Oh I can’t handle environmental mold. It’s a new diet fixing her. It’s the noise. It’s dust. It’s genetic. It’s autoimmune. She didn’t have to work a single day of her life and spent the entire time diagnosing herself with one thing after another. Now it’s blue light. She cannot tolerate screens. It’s absolutely neuroticism at its core.
Best_Day_Ever@mbkline
He has a neurological injury and a complicated medical profile that the meat only diet was helping. He and his family have been struggling to figure out what’s wrong and how to treat him for more than a year. Since his daughter shared the information, many many people have spoken out about their own similar issues.
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A vast majority of young women didn’t get married at 16. Most of the examples we have are from upper nobility. Everyone else married later. Courting age before the regency period was 16, but couples waited at least 6 mos to a year before engagement
Tradvocate@TradAdvocate
I think it's perfectly fine for a woman to get married at 16, especially if her parents have been involved in the process and helped her find a good husband. Is there any argument against this that you could give from a Christian perspective?
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@JayJay33737432 @AdamasNemesis @livvyivvyivvy *sigh*
10yo boys are filled with restless energy and require half the time in the classroom as girls. They are plenty capable of learning basic educational material if given the right environment
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@AdamasNemesis @livvyivvyivvy That’s not a flex on the maturity of the 10 year old boy, it’s a deep cut on those kids intelligence
You’re just admitting that them trying to learn is a waste of time and they should jump straight to manual labor 8 years early
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no one who argues this point actually knows a 16 year old. i challenge you to show me a 16 year old fit for the trials of adulthood and marriage.
Tradvocate@TradAdvocate
I think it's perfectly fine for a woman to get married at 16, especially if her parents have been involved in the process and helped her find a good husband. Is there any argument against this that you could give from a Christian perspective?
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@This_Guhy @livvyivvyivvy She shouldn’t be expected to do that. She’s is too young. Also, if your dad sucked at picking his partner do you really think parents should pick their kids partners?
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@TheEbonyMaw Some parents have kids with very little will. They tell their kids something once or twice and that's it. Those parents think their kids are obedient due to their superior parenting.
Not all kids are the same. Some of our kids are little shits who will continue to test.
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One of the saddest things I discovered as a parent is that the stick works better than the carrot 9 times out of 10.
I wish this wasn’t the case, but in my experience, threat of punishment is a SIGNIFICANTLY more effective motivator than offering a reward.
I still prefer offering rewards, so they’re often my first go-to, but I have to be honest. Despite what passes for modern wisdom, it’s just not as effective as negative consequences.
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@TheEbonyMaw I can't speak on this as a parent but with life experiences I can say that the threat of consequences while the existence of reward exists as well seems to work the best.
Only the stick builds resentment and hate, while only rewards can bring complacency and laziness.
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@JillFilipovic Jill won't miss an opportunity to fuel Islamophobia to distract from Israel's continued murder of innocent girls and civilians. Just days back a girl, her father were killed in a double tap strike targeting paramedics rescuing them.
This child bride story is naked propaganda.
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I realize this is all extremely complicated but it reminds me of that viral exchange where a guy was like “I would kill every man on earth to protect my family” and someone was like “would you suck off every man on earth?” There’s a reason men sell their daughters and not themselves.
Daily Mail@DailyMail
'Here is your bride... please don't beat her': As Taliban recognises child marriage, Afghans 'marry off' girls and BABIES - and can only hope they are not raped before they even hit puberty trib.al/Iv2VO71
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@luinalaska My grandmother met my granddad when she was sixteen. She was either eighteen or nineteen when they married
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Guys please I’m begging you to grasp any level of nuance that it can simultaneously be true that successful marriages have started young and flourished and it’s also normal and sane that getting married at 16 isn’t a preference I would ever have for my own daughter now.
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@Seraphima94 Ceasing this practice, in my opinion, was a mistake
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@Seraphima94 In the regency period, 16 was considered too young to be married responsibly. I
Young women weren’t typically “out” (courting age) until they were eighteen. Men - especially older men - were encouraged to wait to ask a young woman to court/marry him until then.
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