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@shagbark_hick Tracks, Americans do generally marry for the wrong reasons and modern culture has shaped attitudes going into marriage in a such a way that people are quick to abandon them when there is friction. The classic vows are more straightforward than they seem and are a practical guide.

I'm not actually sure if I buy this line of thinking. Years ago, my mother used to spend a lot of time with Nepalese and Karen Thai refugees, who practiced arranged marriage. My mom asked them: "isn't that awful? Don't you want to marry for love?" They said that marrying for love seemed stupid to them, because the particular feeling of love you get at the beginning dissipates quickly. They said they suspected that's why Americans were always getting divorced; because they had expected an endless fairy tale. And they explained that in an arranged marriage, both parties just make the best of it at first, they may or may not be "compatible" or "in love," but that over time, the kind of commitment this type of marriage requires leads them to fall into a deeper, quieter, more enduring kind of love that sustains them across all of their life. So my mother used to tell me that who you marry shouldn't matter so much; it is about how you both approach the idea of marriage more than anything. And I think this is probably right. Refuse divorce at all costs; insist on deepening the connection, shape each other over time, and you will develop a symbiosis so deep it is unbreakable and un-changed by the vicissitudes of sentiment or "compatibility."

@minordissent @dtrogers_2 It's all just Jung and the under developed psyche not wanting to address the shadow. People are afraid to accept themselves for what they truly are and ascend beyond it with the humility of that acceptance.

@dtrogers_2 you’re actually doing the thing right now funny enough

The greatest discovery of Adler is the realization that the life problems we don’t solve, we don’t solve on purpose because they serve some deeper utility to our psyche. So much so that someone could provide you step by step instructions for how to solve your problem in a way that is far easier than dozens of other things youve done before without complaint, and your immediate reaction will be to invent every possible roadblock for why it will never work. And that if they keep providing you solutions to those roadblocks, you will get increasingly upset. This is the opposite of what you’d do if you wanted it solved. But exactly what you’d do if you didn’t want it solved. The truth is you LIKE having this problem. It is a part of your IDENTITY. And you wouldn’t even know what to do with yourself or who you would be if it wasn’t a problem anymore.

That identity part is key, and likely the most fundamental reason for the block. To change one's identity is extremely destabilizing, the fear of the unknown attached to it is likely unconsciously man's biggest fear. You may not love the problem, you may hate it, but its part of you.

It was fascinating to read where it sourced its basis for the answer it gave you, and how it made assumptions based on others moralizing vanity. “The “blue or die together” romanticism only feels virtuous in safe, wealthy, low-stakes environments where the worst realistic outcome is “society gets a bit more distrustful.””

@runequantum @IterIntellectus Here I got your grok to flip hard by removing the modern moralizing and grounding it in the real world experiment… grok.com/share/c2hhcmQt…

my only argument is that without blue button pressers we wouldn’t have communism or suicidal empathy or mass immigration or most of the problems afflicting humanity nowadays really

@ivishaltejwani I feel bad every time someone asks for a PC at work. How do they live in such a shallow world where they've never experienced a good/functional computer?

I had to use windows today When I finally got to use my mac almost felt emo, how are people even thinking of windows

@minordissent They are taking victory laps on a poll with less than 100k votes assuming it is representative of reality.

If I thought there was a very high chance blue could get over 50% IRL, I would vote blue and save the bluecels (bless their hearts). Perhaps this could happen in a high trust ethnostate. But in America I guarantee you you're never getting close to 50% blue, in which case i'm not needlessly committing suicide and thus voting red.

@JuliJules_ @waitbutwhy It’s funny to watch you paint such a vivid picture of me in your mind. It really does illustrate my point perfectly

@MoranRespecter @waitbutwhy Ew

Everyone survived!

@JuliJules_ @waitbutwhy Truly you’d find me charming. I’m not sure I’d find you that though.

@MoranRespecter @waitbutwhy I didn't know any of the nazis personally but i do call them evil and i do so with you too

@MrHydeRager @waitbutwhy Yes/no - do selfish people exist in the world?

@MoranRespecter @waitbutwhy If you vote red, you're selfish. Bare minimum. Scales all the way up to complex pathological sociopathy, but at the very least, it's a selfish choice.

@MrHydeRager @waitbutwhy It’s grounded in reality and not delusion. Still out here projecting things about the red though…

@JuliJules_ @waitbutwhy You are proving my projection point. You know nothing about me and you’re calling me the worst?

@MoranRespecter @waitbutwhy It's always the people with a cross in their username who are literally the worst people alive i tell ya

@ramzax @IterIntellectus 🎯

@IterIntellectus It’s simple math. Every one in Africa, China, and India will press the red button. Your average westerner may want to press the blue button, but there’s not enough of us to sway the total. Only the suicidally empathetic will press blue button.

@waitbutwhy x.com/i/grok/share/7…

Everyone in the world has to take a private vote by pressing a red or blue button. If more than 50% of people press the blue button, everyone survives. If less than 50% of people press the blue button, only people who pressed the red button survive. Which button would you press?

Stanford paid 35,000 people to quit Facebook and Instagram for 6 weeks Depression dropped. Anxiety dropped. Happiness went up. Women under 25 on Instagram saw the biggest gains That was 6 weeks. I'm going a full year.

@megha_lilly AI is an amplifier to those who use it to seek knowledge on engaging with the world. It’s not trying to sell you things just to get a barely complete answer, nor does it waste your time.

AI has been a net positive in my life. I've used it to help me fix appliances, figure out how to set up a fireplace, learn about plants, look up obscure research papers and books, do a mountain of bureaucracy in a new language, fix a car. Thanks Grok!!

@shagbark_hick Started rowdy, came back to Catholicism. We can bring balance back

It's true: the men I meet at most Catholic Churches do seem to be fairly timid, measured, even nervously pious. Trad or not, it's very often the case. Nothing wrong with that at all -- but we're sorely lacking in Catholic rowdies and ruffians. We need some medieval-type mannerbund energy going on at our Churches. Bring back the post-Mass cask of ale; unbutton the top button for once and speak candidly, say your piece, linger long at the tavern, make the boys all raise their glasses when you walk in. I don't mind temperately sipping coffee and nerding out about theology in the Parish basement for thirty minutes after Mass, but at some point, we've all gotta break out of that and really let loose in the way that men ought to.