Nelly🌸

I’ve been in Jos for like 5 days now and I have a lot to say. Firstly, I never knew a people could be this nice and kind and respectful. I almost felt sick because I never knew people could still be like that. Lagos has fried my brain. People call you Sir while offering every service to you. From the suya guy to the super market attendant to the local restaurant to every single person. I’ve never seen this before in my life. In Lagos, the way I know the food in a restaurant would be good is if the woman is rude. I never trust the food of a polite food seller in Lagos. But I’m here where everyone treats you with respect. Then things are cheaper. The uber that will normally cost 10 million naira here in Lagos is 2,500 here. I’ve never seen life lived like this before. I see clear road everywhere. I’m not scared of holding my phone carelessly. Hotel is cheap with free WiFi. Omo. Jos na place.

"PREGNANCY OPENED MY EYES TO HOW DEEPLY PATRIARCHY HAS FAILED NIGERIAN WOMEN. 😫💔 Four pregnancies. Four beautiful children. Three in Nigeria and one abroad. I was present throughout all four journeys. During the three pregnancies in Nigeria, I attended virtually every antenatal appointment with my wife. Every scan. Every test. Every check-up. I was there. I was also present at the hospital for the birth of all my children. In fact, all four babies were handed to me almost immediately after their mother carried them after delivery. But that is not even where I am going with this. During those antenatal visits in Nigeria, I would see countless pregnant women looking exhausted, hungry, stressed and worn out. Some would arrive with babies less than a year old strapped to their backs while carrying another pregnancy. And almost every single time, I would be the only man there supporting his wife. The only man. Every time we got home, I would ask my wife the same question "Where are the husbands of these women? Is this really how women are treated in the hands of this God-forsaken men?" 😫 I was born and bred in Nigeria, nobody teaches all this things. I read and learnt it myself and I understand the fact that a woman should never go through pregnancy alone. Then I moved abroad. And my eyes opened even wider. During my wife's last pregnancy, despite working full-time, I never missed a single hospital appointment. Not one. And whenever we arrived, the waiting rooms were full of husbands supporting their wives. Men taking notes. Men asking questions. Men carrying bags. Men holding hands. Men showing up. That was when I realized something. Maybe I was not the normal one in Nigeria. Maybe that was why I always looked odd. Because what I was doing abroad was normal. What I was doing in Nigeria was treated like I was doing something extraordinary. That was when I truly understood how deeply patriarchy has damaged Nigerian men and, by extension, their wives. Nigerian men, stop this nonsense. Pregnancy was created by both of you. You may never fully understand what these women are going through physically, emotionally and mentally, but the least you can do is support them with your presence. And please, don't ever compare pregnancy to you going to work. Look at the picture of my wife during our last pregnancy. Look at her tummy. Look at what her body had to go through just to bring another human being into this world. And you dare compare that to any work in the world? Are you mad or something? 😫 After everything pregnancy does to a woman's body, some of you still call women fat. Some of you still call women lazy. Some of you still call women cranky. Some of you still complain about stretch marks. Haaa. 😫 Every time I looked at my wife during those final months, I was genuinely afraid for her. The physical sacrifice alone was enormous. The discomfort. The sleepless nights. The body changes. The risks. Men, respect these women. Give them their flowers every single day. They deserve far more than a simple thank you. And as for me, I still tell my wife thank you. Thank you for risking your life four different times for our family. Thank you for carrying our children. Thank you for enduring what I could never endure. Thank you for doing something that neither I, my father, my grandfather nor any man who will ever live can do. African men wake up from your slumber. Women deserve more than gratitude. They deserve respects"

@okoliprecious13 @hameemahhh 😂

@nenlap_ @hameemahhh Jesus Christ!!!! And you can’t vomit it

I wonder what pregnancy stomach feels like. Does it feel like normal stomach thats just big or does it feel like there’s something big and heavy inside the stomach?

I like this description… Apt for that stress

@penguinypeach Sorry

Apalagi gweh ttp susah makan. Makan dikit aja begahnya kaya abis ayce 😔

😭👍🏻

God abeg😂

@hameemahhh @violuettee 😂

@violuettee @nenlap_ 😂😂😂

@feb_finesse24 @hameemahhh 😂

@nenlap_ @hameemahhh Haaa!!

@hameemahhh 😂

@nenlap_ Ah😭😭😭

Yes, Babies pee in womb and even drink their pee along.

@joyale__ 😀

Jesus!

@violuettee @hameemahhh It’s mostly the last trimester that feels that bad tho😀

@nenlap_ @hameemahhh Omo I hate that feeling . Imagine feeling like that for nine months😭

@violuettee @hameemahhh 😂its not so bad😀

@nenlap_ @hameemahhh Jesus!

@omobolanle___ It can feel uncomfortable sometimes😂

Ah 😭 I was going to say this is what it looks like it’ll feel like in my head. And feeling overfed is so uncomfortable

@AIDIB_9JA @hameemahhh Yep😀

@nenlap_ @hameemahhh wow 😐

You can always count on me to never talk to you ever again. That’s my area of expertise.

THINGS I DONT DEBATE WITH MEN : 1. Abortion 2. Breastfeeding 3. Menstruation 4. Female body hair 5. Birth Control 6. Access to feminine hygiene products Why? Because NONE of those involve the male body & therefore don't create any valid MALE OPINIONS

Something that’s very simple Just marry your mothers

@AbikeDeRoyalty Happy belated birthday my baby girl

32 🎈