Tom Dunn
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Tom Dunn
@tomdunn
Noticing the ordinary parts of family life. There’s meaning in slower things.
South Carolina เข้าร่วม Nisan 2008
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@chicagobulls He should have been made your team’s moral center, but then we are talking about the NBA.
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@WholeLottaCelts He doesn’t “care” about other people’s “sexual preferences.” What he cares about is objective truth.
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I’ll never understand why a grown adult cares about the sexual preference of another grown adult.
Stop letting religion be an excuse you for you being a piece of shit
Letting a book tell you how you should feel & think is much weirder than being gay btw lmao
Kalshi Sports@KalshiSports
NEW: Patriots RB TreVeyon Henderson has come out in support of Jaden Ivey’s comments regarding NBA “pride nights.”
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@DanBurmawy The beard is magnificent and wise, but you look a lot younger without it.
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@BobLonsberry Not necessarily. The "intent of the framers" comes into play, does it not?
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"A pathological narcissist sacrificing your own children to the glorification of your compassion."
Brilliantly brutal.
Red Pill Dispenser@redpilldispensr
Who knew Jordan Peterson could be this BRUTAL? 🔥
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Hundreds of people in the Rochester area are expected to march in the nationwide No Kings Day of Action rally at Genesee Gateway Park. #roc rochesterfirst.com/news/local-new…
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@XStrangeHistory @Gentleman_Ways Lesbian kissing is in episode 6. Same episode the f-word pops in. Very disappointed, because we were watching with my young teen granddaughter and it took us completely by surprise.
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@Gentleman_Ways Is it loyal to the source material? If not, what episode does a trans character appear? Is the gay kissing scene in episode 2 or 3?
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@TheCinesthetic This is true. Not much stuns me or leaves me speechless. That scene did.
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The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring (2001) clicks into something special as the Fellowship drifts past the Argonath, that sudden rush of scale and history makes it hit that this isn’t just epic, it’s something that’s going to last forever.
cinesthetic.@TheCinesthetic
when did you realise you may be watching the greatest film of all time?
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“Buffalo may see a 25% property tax increase. Albany has frozen all hiring to cut costs. Rochester faces a record $131 million budget deficit.It’s a grim picture for many of upstate NY’s big cities” syracuse.com/news/2026/03/u…
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Last night
Laid out my clothes for tomorrow
Cargo shorts
I stared at all seven pairs in the closet
They're identical
I picked the third one
Gut feeling
Also laid out a mask
My wife has COVID
Can't be too careful
My analyst texted at 10:14pm
I said "tomorrow is important"
He said "trust me I know. Get some rest boss man"
First time he's ever told me to do anything
Something about the way he said it felt off
But I was tired
So I let it go
Friday
3:47pm
Therapy
Cargo shorts
All six pockets loaded
Pocket one had my talking points
Pocket two had the clean version of my wife's list that my analyst reformatted this morning because I can't read anything with inconsistent punctuation
Pocket three had a printed copy of the home warranty redline for reference
Pocket five had a granola bar
You never know how long these things go
I was wearing the mask
My analyst drove separately
He was already in the parking lot when I pulled in
Engine off
Legal pad on the dash
Third iced coffee of the day
He looked at the mask
He didn't say anything
I said "you ready"
He said "I've been preparing since Tuesday boss man"
I didn't ask what that meant
My wife's car was already there
That was expected
There were two cars next to hers
That was not
We walked in
The therapist was seated
$250 an hour
I negotiated that
My wife was on the left couch
Stanley cup in hand
She saw the mask
Her face changed
I assumed she was nervous about the session
She was not alone
Karen from HR was sitting next to her
Arms folded
Lanyard still on
I stopped walking
My analyst stopped behind me
He whispered "boss man that's Karen from HR"
I said "I know"
Then I saw the chair in the corner
My son's teacher
Folder in her lap
Color-coded tabs
Same ones from both parent-teacher conferences
I looked at my wife
She said "you brought your analyst"
I said "you assembled a panel"
She said "I made some calls"
The therapist looked at Karen
Karen looked at the teacher
The teacher looked at me
I sat down
My analyst sat behind me
On the floor against the wall
There were no more chairs
Legal pad in his lap
Pen ready
Four against two
I counted the therapist on her side
The numbers were not in my favor
But I've closed deals with worse odds
The therapist said "I think we should establish some ground rules"
Karen said "I brought some"
She pulled out a folder
Also color-coded
Two folders in the room with color-coded tabs
Neither of them mine
I respected the organization
I did not respect the ambush
The therapist said "this is a safe space"
I said "it was until HR showed up with a lanyard"
The therapist said "can you remove the mask so we can have an open conversation"
I said "my wife has COVID"
The room went quiet
My wife said "I don't have COVID"
I said "you left a positive test in my lunchbox yesterday"
She closed her eyes
Karen looked at the teacher
The teacher looked at the therapist
The therapist looked at my wife
My wife said "we'll come back to that"
I took the mask off
I didn't understand why everyone was acting strange
But I noted it
Karen said "I'm here as a friend"
I said "you scheduled mandatory fun at 5pm on a Friday and trapped yourself in an escape room for 14 hours"
She said "that's not relevant"
I said "the door was open the entire time"
The teacher said "I'm here because your wife asked me to come"
I said "last time we spoke you requested I not come to meetings"
She said "this is different"
I said "how"
She said "because this time I was invited"
The therapist said "let's focus on the relationship"
My wife pulled out the list
Two pages
Single spaced
Still no consistent punctuation
I pulled the reformatted version from pocket two
She looked at it
I said "my analyst cleaned it up this morning. Same content. Better structure."
She didn't take it
She started reading from hers
"Line one. He negotiated the therapy rate during our first session"
The therapist looked at me
I said "I saved us $25 an hour. Over a six-session commitment that's $150. You're welcome."
My wife continued
"Line four. He visited a divorce lawyer without telling me"
The therapist said "is that true"
I said "it was diligence. I needed to understand the downside exposure to properly value the upside."
My wife said "the upside of what"
I said "you"
She didn't respond to that
Karen made a note
I don't know what she wrote
But her pen was the same one she uses for incident reports
I recognized it
"Line seven. He calculated the cost per sip of my wine at my own birthday dinner"
I said "it was a 147% markup. That's not opinion. That's math."
The therapist said "do you hear how that might feel to your wife on her birthday"
I said "she ordered the bottle anyway. The ROI on that dinner was negative before the entrees arrived."
My wife looked at the ceiling
Some things never change
"Line twelve. He crashed our son's parent-teacher conference. Twice. The second time with his analyst."
The teacher sat up
She said "can I add something"
The therapist said "go ahead"
She opened her folder
Pulled out the test
The multiple-choice question
Fifteen gender options
My son selected none of them
Wrote "Not applicable"
Below that: "Identified: Chromosome XY"
Below that: "Source: Biology textbook, page 217"
With a footnote
The teacher said "he cited a source. On a multiple-choice test. In second grade."
I said "I'm not seeing the issue"
My wife said "he's becoming you"
I said "thank you"
She said "that wasn't a compliment"
The therapist said "I think I'm beginning to understand the pattern"
Karen said "now you see what I deal with"
I said "you write policies nobody reads and enforce rules that don't make common sense. Even my five-year-old knows the door was unlocked."
Karen looked at the therapist
The therapist did not intervene
I respected that
"Line nineteen. He asked our financial advisor why he'd pay a 1% fee when he could buy VOO and do the same thing from his phone"
I said "the therapist provides more value at $250 an hour. I stand by that."
The therapist looked at me differently
I think I just gained a vote
Three against three now
My analyst nodded
I told him not to do that
The therapist paused
She said "I want to ask about communication between you two. Outside of this room. How do you express things to each other"
My wife was quiet
I said "she's been expressing herself through alternative channels recently"
The therapist said "what does that mean"
I declined to elaborate
My wife looked at me
I looked straight ahead
We moved on
The therapist asked my wife what she needs from me
My wife was quiet
Karen started to answer for her
My wife put her hand up
Karen stopped
The teacher put her folder down
My wife said "I need you to stop treating every part of our life like a deal that needs to close"
I said nothing
She said "I need you to sit in a room with me without an agenda"
I said nothing
She said "I need you to be in this marriage like a person. Not a CFO."
The room was very quiet
My analyst stopped writing
First time all session
Karen put her pen down
The teacher closed her folder
The therapist looked at me
I sat there for a while
I said "I don't know how to do that"
The therapist said "that's the first honest thing you've said today"
I said "I'm honest every day. I told a car dealership I had comps on every Tahoe sold within 50 miles. I told a home warranty company their own contract contradicts itself on page 91 and page 104. I told a realtor her brochure had three different fonts and no financials."
The therapist said "those are transactions. I'm asking about your wife."
I looked at her
She was looking at me
Not at the ceiling
Not at the therapist
Not at Karen
Not at the teacher
At me
I said "I went to a divorce lawyer three weeks ago"
Karen's eyebrows went up
The teacher looked at my wife
My wife said "I know. You told me. Asset protection."
I said "I went because I needed to know what it would cost to lose you. So I could understand what it means to keep you. The retainer was $15,000. I didn't sign. Because the model couldn't capture what I'd actually be losing."
The therapist was quiet
My wife was quiet
Karen was writing something
I said "I don't know how to be in a room without an agenda. But I know I want to be in every room you're in. Even the ones I'm not invited to. That's why I keep showing up."
My wife looked at me
Then she said "that's why I keep letting you in"
The therapist teared up
Karen teared up
The teacher teared up
My analyst did not tear up
He was taking notes
I did not tear up either
But I made a note
The therapist said "I think that's a good place to stop"
My wife said "there's one more thing"
The room was still
She reached into her purse
Not the list
Something else
She placed it on the table
I looked at it
Two lines
Positive
I said "I already saw this. You put it in my lunchbox yesterday."
She said "I know"
I said "we should talk about quarantine. I can't afford to be sick before the board deck is due."
Nobody spoke
Karen covered her mouth
The teacher looked away
The therapist took her glasses off
My analyst stood up
He said "boss man"
I said "not now"
He said "boss man that's not a COVID test"
I looked at it again
Two lines
Positive
I looked at the fine print I missed yesterday
I looked at my wife
She wasn't looking at the ceiling
She was looking at me
And she was smiling
I have never seen her smile in a therapist's office before
The therapist said "do you understand what she's telling you"
I said "yes"
I did not say anything else for approximately forty-five seconds
My analyst said that's the longest he's ever seen me go without speaking
Including board meetings
I looked at the test
Then at my wife
I said "unbudgeted headcount"
The therapist said "excuse me?"
I said "she's adding a resource to the org chart without a requisition"
My wife laughed
First time she's laughed in therapy
I said "I'll need to update the sensitivity analysis"
She said "why"
I said "the model at the divorce lawyer's office only accounted for two dependents and a golden retriever. The downside just got significantly worse."
She said "is that your way of saying you're happy"
I didn't answer right away
I said "I'm saying I didn't budget for this. But some of the best investments I've ever made were ones I didn't see coming."
She looked at me
I looked at her
Karen was crying
The teacher was crying
The therapist was crying
My analyst was not crying
He was on page four of his notes
I was not crying either
But the room was blurry
Must have been the mask
The therapist said "now that's a good place to stop"
I said "we still have seventeen minutes. I paid for the full hour."
My wife stood up
Grabbed her purse
Grabbed the test
Looked at me
Said "let's go home"
First time she's said that after one of these and meant it
Karen stayed behind
I think she's booking her own session
The teacher left without saying goodbye
Third time she's done that
I got in the car
My wife was already in the passenger seat
She didn't say anything
I didn't say anything
I put my hand on hers
I don't do that
But I did
Some meetings could have been an email
This one couldn't
$250
One hour
No redline
No debrief
One new line item I didn't see coming
Plz don't fix. Thx.
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Ethan Brooks@alt_w_v_g
Important context heading into this afternoon's couples therapy session My analyst compiled the relevant files below In order Formatted With consistent punctuation You're welcome Plz fix. Thx. Sent from my iPhone
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