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Me I have never been party to demanding daughters in law pack up and go take care of sick mothers. The woman doesn't have daughters? If you as a daughter cannot go and take care of your own mother, count me out. Even if she has no daughters, let her son pay for a nurse to take care of her.

A female colleague dated her now-husband for only five months before he proposed. When he informed his mother, she rejected the idea outright. She claimed she didn’t like the village the woman came from and had heard many negative stories about people from that place. The man stood his ground and told his mother he would marry her with or without her approval. On the day of the introduction ceremony, his mother refused to attend. She sent her sister instead and vowed never to accept the woman as her daughter-in-law. She even accused her of using juju to tie her son down. For five years now, the two women have not spoken a single word to each other, despite my colleague’s efforts to win her over. Interestingly, the mother-in-law adores their children and welcomes them warmly whenever they visit. Yet when asked why she can love the kids but not their mother, she offers no explanation. Now the mother-in-law is seriously ill. The husband wants his wife to pack the children and travel to the village to take care of her. He had earlier begged his mother to come to the city for better treatment, but she refused. This demand has created serious tension in their marriage, as his wife has made it clear she will never go. She's asking me for advice. What do you think she should do at this point please? Above all, love God.

@blockofbuilder If Oyo statse people cannot learn from what Ada Owerri used the eye of Ondo state people to see, then OYO for them.

Where is his contract that he will not open Oyo State to his Mothers folks? It is time for self preservation. You can see he struggle to even speak Yoruba. We love his father, but he is not his father. Governing Yoruba States should be for bonafide truly committed daughters and sons. What record does he have to show that? Speaker of the house that is promoting merging of SE clans and hiding under one Nigeria to allow invaders occupy Oyo state do not show true commitment. He is his mothers son, if he truly will rep Yoruba 100% he needs to show his manifesto. What is omituntun 3.0? That itself reeks godfatherism and Yes Man to Gov Seyi. Are we talking about continuing selling of Oyo State land to the highest bidders or the destruction of ancient traditions for personal leverage? Governing should be about competency not Godfatherism. I know he has some bottom feeders who are myopics and those attack dogs of his are welcome. When Ezekwesiele tells them to move to Ibadan, this is what she meant. Show us record of him standing up for Yoruba course and opposition to those invading us? Adeleke was elected in Osun based on record of his brother yet we saw what the second brother is doing with some appointments, what and where is his record of Yoruba First?

@AkanbiBodunde @OgunmolaBolaji Its an older movie sha. It was in vogue that time to insult Yoruba women. Na wetin dey reign that time.

It feels like movie ideas have finished for @OgunmolaBolaji . The latest gig now is producing, while acting and portraying Yoruba women and wives as dirty and unkempt. Worst part is, she believes it, and her script here says it. Since she is a bit cleaner than some Igbo girls, it’s fine to act and produce it. You’ve started moving mad. Our eyes are on you.

@odunthemua @AkanbiBodunde @OgunmolaBolaji True.

@b2bgr @AkanbiBodunde @OgunmolaBolaji I get you but even Yoruba will do the same with another tribe,let’s not lie to ourselves.

@JaneMakanjuola @PhoneYourFrien1 Whenever I am in America I make sure to specify that I am African. Would never want to be mistaken for a Black American to be honest.

@PhoneYourFrien1 Seems everyone should leave the word “Black” for black Americans. Cus these days it seems you all have an issue with everyone else being black except yourselves lol Everyone’s so sick of you all BS. Can’t you BA kindly grow up? Like grow tf up and stop tryna force feed identify!

You are not Black. You should be selling your art as a Ghanaian artist or a melanated artist, not a Black artist. The Black classification does not exist in your homeland.

@odunthemua @AkanbiBodunde @OgunmolaBolaji TBH its not the inter ethnic stuff, it's the unnecessary stereotype. Many people are tired of the endless 'yoruba girls are..........'

@AkanbiBodunde @OgunmolaBolaji You guys are acting like producing a movie about inter ethnic relationship is a new thing or it doesn’t happen in real life, showcasing your ignorance loudly, I’m embarrassed.

@Jd_Alibi @LookingForMide Or she is being asked too frequently for 'dutiful sex'

@LookingForMide Morayo is been dutifully denied sex and it’s obvious..

Morayo : My argument is , dutiful sex is good however it can also be painful , cause sometimes it come as tough as selfish , because a woman usually needs to be prep and ready , when she’s asked to have a dutiful sex posture , it means all she need to do is just lay down and that can be painful too Afolabi Brown : Countered It👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾 Me : what do you think? Drop your opinions wanna learn

@bigyboy @LookingForMide 'Dutiful' in the sense that one partner doesn't want it, but gives in because the other wants.

@LookingForMide Calling sex “dutiful”is weird honestly, when sex starts to feel like a chore, obligation or dutiful in her words in a marriage, it often reflects a deeper issue in the relationship. Once love/attraction is present, it can never be dutiful

@Stepharny1 @LookingForMide Maybe it's just me but there are times no amount of foreplay works. If I am worried or preoccupied, if I am angry about something and we have not resolved it, no matter how much 'foreplay' it won't move me. My mind has to be there first before my body.

@LookingForMide Anyways foreplay it’s important for women. So maybe that’s what she’s saying

@makanjuolaangel @LookingForMide Of course dutiful sex can be painful. She is not aroused, she is not in the mood, she is not lubricated, and you don't know it will hurt?

@LookingForMide Wahala no too much How is dutiful sex painful again

@LookingForMide These ones will still divorce. When una carry una sef out like 8 day old children no how no how, dirty linen go spread laslas

She resents it because she is feeling stuck. You have both worked countless shifts during the week. On Saturday she knows there's so much to be done to get prepared for the next week. Cleaning, laundry, cooking or prepping lunches, the children are under foot. Then you wake up and head to play football and she feels like the only adult in the relationship. If you play football for 2 hours and come home to run your 'shift' while she goes out for a coffee or whatever she wants to do, that helps. But most of you come home, ask 'what's for lunch?' Eat and start to watch 'your match' In Nigeria she could function without your physical help - Labour is cheap, even without washing machine, there was washerman, most people can afford a househelp, and there was always extended family for support. As immigrants, there's less support. Your wife should not feel like she is the only adult in your family.

A lot of women are the reason why their husbands are unhappy here in the UK. I’m not writing this to denigrate women, but to call attention to things that may seem small, yet are very important to the mental health of your husbands. In Nigeria, many men have ways they unwind. Those who drink go to a local bar, gist with friends and even strangers, take a bottle or two, then return home with the energy needed to keep the family moving forward. Those who play football do it on weekends. That’s when they meet other men, shout at each other over rough tackles, argue a bit, and settle it quickly. By the time they get home, shower, and rest, they feel refreshed again. For those who lift weights in local gyms, they go there, vibe to music, push themselves, challenge each other, and feel good about who they are. For the older ones, they play draft or simply sit under a tree, catching fresh air with other elderly men. They return home calmer, lighter, and ready to continue supporting their families. Then they come to the UK, and all of that stops. It’s understandable because of the work-life structure here. These men understand their responsibilities. They know they need to be present and support their families. But whenever they get the chance to step out and unwind, some wives refuse. It’s either an excuse about being left alone, or a sudden reminder that they should be spending more time at home, or unnecessary chores, or even arguments—just to stop them from leaving the house. At some point, my woman wanted me to stop going out to play football. But I made her understand that it’s the only hobby I have. I enjoy seeing other Nigerian men, shouting at each other, cracking jokes, bantering, and even organising yearly get-togethers from our weekly contributions. That is how I unwind. She eventually realised it wasn’t a battle worth fighting and let it go. I met a guy yesterday in Liverpool, and he said the same thing. Every time he wants to go and play football, it turns into an issue at home. It’s not that we are neglecting our responsibilities. We do our share of the chores. Sometimes, we even help with yours. But we also need to be around other men. Men need to be in the midst of men to feel like men. All that energy, call it testosterone if you like…..needs somewhere to go. Sports, jokes, banter, physical challenge… these things matter. It is only when we unwind that we can give you the best version of ourselves. You don’t have to keep your man indoors like a pet before you can feel secure or happy. Let him breathe. He will come back better. ~FinestDove

@oladejo_fatimah @_Nursepreneur I was so irritated lol

@_Nursepreneur And the way the mother was crying sef..as in pikin fall na new thing😏

One of the scenes I saw #BTS was when Aderonke was panicking because her son was trying to climb up to get snacks (or something) for his sister. That boy looked about 8–10 years old, why can’t he safely reach heights in his own house without fear of falling? This is one of the parenting flaws I notice in many rich or average Nigerian homes. Their children are almost useless because there is always domestic help available to do everything for them. It’s sickening.

No actually. We had maids growing up. My mom made sure to let us know her maid was not our maid. We did stuff ourselves- washed plates, washed our bathrooms, our underwear etc. The maid was even more like an older sibling who would make us do our chores when mum was busy. These days 4 and 5 year olds are comfortable ordering domestic staff around.

@_Nursepreneur It’s not on purpose, you say it like they make sure the kids don’t know. If I have a maid and I am busy with work, well my kids might not learn those basic skills. Does not make them useless. When they are adults, they will learn with time, does not make them useless.

@agborshalomm @_Nursepreneur @favouryuwa If he was used to getting things for himself, common sense would have told him to get a chair.

@_Nursepreneur @favouryuwa No, become his cousin purposely put it there to be out of his reach It's usually within his reach

@AfroVII Yeah, I agree. It was too much.

Yeah, now I understand the problem. The direction, just like the story, was thick. Nothing about the lead actor's delivery was natural, it was over laden. The actor should have been trusted better, perhaps?

I have siblings and other family friends and acquaintances who moved from Nigeria in their teens. They all found it ridiculously easy. The only people who may find High school challenging are those who were raised here in Canada because they have never been exposed to any rigour.

So you are comparing course overload to work standards? Courses have weight and it’s not by numbers of course you do. Your sentence shows 2 gaps, you don’t understand what you’re criticizing and you have not even taken time to do that. I used to have your sentiments, but I lived it, so I know better. Ask from people that did both. They will tell you.

A Nigerian parent in Canada seeks advice #nigeriansindiaspora #nigeriansincanada🇨🇦

@CiraNzube Lol. As you no chop emblem, you suppose chop pizza.

Memorial ‘26 🤍 ✅

@TheInnerShiftHQ @msmocrown Only about 4 subjects a term. Why should a child from Nigeria who has been writing 1 to 200 from nursery 2 get to such a system and fail?

@TheInnerShiftHQ @msmocrown It is actually. Very little stress academically. Few assignments, no homework, no tests, no exams. Almost endless opportunities to postpone and extend assignment/project deadlines. A child has to be very determined not to learn to fail.