Hildegard of Bangin’
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Hildegard of Bangin’
@medieval_bops
Just an ordinary person doing ordinary things.
North America انضم Ekim 2021
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I am 51 and deeply regret not having kids.
I was stringently brainwashed into believing that I should never have children.
I’ve never even been pregnant as far as I know. I was on birth control from age 16 through age 49.
Larissa Phillips@larissaphillip
I feel so disgusted with the generational vibe that told us that having kids wasn’t a priority and that being a mom was kind of a lesser path. Dealing right now with someone close to me who completely missed the life she should have had, which would have made her very happy— as a mom of a bunch of kids. She believed the social justice messages and made other choices. Materialistic superficial choices btw. She’s traveled extensively and has fancy appliances and a nice (huge, empty) house — and a bunch of social justice bona fides. She was misled. This isn’t someone who was always a bit salty and never wanted kids. She wanted them, but it seemed lame and selfish and not as important as her SJW pursuits. (Which amounted to what? Nothing. The whole thing was a vibe.) I have the same life advice.
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@UltraMAGAriebar What was with our moms' generation? Completely heinous attitude toward their own offspring.
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@medieval_bops I’m 59. I remember the day my mom told me, in an effort to discourage me from marriage & children, that having kids ruins your life. My mom. To me, her kid. I’m still struggling to forgive her for that.
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@puert50160 Oh. My. God. Classic passive-aggressive Boomer gaslighting Exhibit A.
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@medieval_bops I don’t understand why you didn’t make your own choices .
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Hildegard of Bangin’ أُعيد تغريده
This is precisely why I think all the monetary incentives in the world keep failing to encourage people to have more kids. So much of our media, public culture, academia, etc. are just hostile to the very idea of kids and teach people that no one should even think about it til they're 30, but by then it's often kind of "too late".
By 30, you are in the upswing of your career, you probably have some money and maybe you're even a home owner, but you aren't meeting many new people outside of work and dating coworkers is rarely a good idea.
So you need to first find a good, stable partner, which is hard to do. Then you need to build a strong enough relationship that marriage and kids are viable. Most people will have lots of false starts, bad breakups, and failures before they find the right person.
If you only start that process in your 30s, it could take you a decade to find the right person, then you're 40, and starting to have kids then... Like me.
It's not actually too late, of course, but I really wish I'd been able to start sooner, cause now I'm going to be in my 50s trying to keep up with a 10 year old, because I spent my 20s and early 30s entirely focused on my education and career.
Dr Taylor Marshall™️@TaylorRMarshall
My wife was 22 and I was 23 when we married. We eventually had 8 children. Our 20s were marked by Boomer generation “advisors” at the grocery store, events, restaurants, and stores WARNING us not to have more children. They openly pitied us for having 3+ children. Boomer women thought my wife was being oppressed by her husband. At an Outback, a man openly told me “I feel sorry for you for having those kids.” Many Boomers were brainwashed to perceive having children “as a bad thing.” Worst of all, they felt empowered to insult a young couple in the presence of our children. Meanwhile, these people were in favor of importing the entire Third World into America for the sake of GDP. What a strange moment in American history.
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@medieval_bops 50 and childless also regret it. I realized at 43, but too late to find anyone. Same on the birth control.
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It *is* a big problem, especially for "smart"/compliant/conscientious kids, who innately want to be good and do good.
If you cared about "the planet", not having kids was definitely the "right" thing to do.
Heather@iamheatheralice
@pasturecraft @medieval_bops My husband and I go round- I say it is fine if someone doesn't want kids, but not if it is because of climate change, overpopulation, etc. that they are taught in school. He doesn't think it happens like that. I think it is a big problem.
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@iamheatheralice @pasturecraft It is especially a problem for "smart"/compliant/conscientious kids, who innately want to be good and do good.
If you cared about the planet, not having kids was definitely the "right" thing to do.
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@pasturecraft @medieval_bops My husband and I go round- I say it is fine if someone doesn't want kids, but not if it is because of climate change, overpopulation, etc. that they are taught in school. He doesn't think it happens like that. I think it is a big problem.
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@medieval_bops @snowst0rk Girl you have the temperament for these replies rn and I’m here to celebrate that. Seriously. We all have strengths to flex that hold
Spaces for so many lenses. I am loving seeing them finally get daylight
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@medieval_bops You are one of millions. I barely made it under the wire and had two children but bitterly regret the brainwashing that made me have them so late. Feminism is cancer.
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@mare_the16305 @TruthSeekingKay What a hurtful thing to have to hear from one's own parent. I am sorry. <3
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@TruthSeekingKay @medieval_bops I remember my dad said "How could you be so stupid?" when he found out about one of my pregnancies. Now at the age of 73 and in poor health, he says "family is the only important thing". I wish that memory didn't stand out so clear though
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@brucesmustard @SpringLake01 Thank you; I truly appreciate it. 🙏
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@medieval_bops @SpringLake01 I will remember you in our family rosary tonight. You are not alone and your voice can be a help to others. Heart speaks to heart. You should try a retreat with the Sisters of Life in NYC.
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I'm so sorry 😔 I almost fell into this trap myself, thanks to an overbearing mother who drilled into me and my sister never to get married or have children. It worked until I got married and something in my brain switched. After a few miscarriages, I had my daughter. I think feminist boomer mothers have really done a number on Gen X. I hope you can find an outlet for nurturing and feel at peace with your decision 🙏🏽
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Hildegard of Bangin’ أُعيد تغريده
We’ve had an openly mad culture for a while.
sullivan nolan@sull1vannolan
@TaylorRMarshall As a young girl my father would ask me “what do I always tell you” and I was trained to answer “never get married or have children”. He always did it in front of his friends. He thought it was hilarious.
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Hildegard of Bangin’ أُعيد تغريده
@medieval_bops I watched an entire generation of mothers brainwashing their daughters, my sisters included, to never get married or have kids. Looking back on it, it's horrifying.
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@medieval_bops @Magicmissy256 Can I ask where your husband is now?
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@MKAYalways Thank you.
Doing my best to respond sincerely to people’s questions, but boy has it dredged up some old emotions.
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@medieval_bops damnn.. that can't have been easy on you, not just then, but looking back on it.. i'm really sorry for how things turned out. you couldn't have known inherently how you would feel about it now.
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Hildegard of Bangin’ أُعيد تغريده
My wife was 22 and I was 23 when we married. We eventually had 8 children.
Our 20s were marked by Boomer generation “advisors” at the grocery store, events, restaurants, and stores WARNING us not to have more children. They openly pitied us for having 3+ children. Boomer women thought my wife was being oppressed by her husband. At an Outback, a man openly told me “I feel sorry for you for having those kids.”
Many Boomers were brainwashed to perceive having children “as a bad thing.” Worst of all, they felt empowered to insult a young couple in the presence of our children.
Meanwhile, these people were in favor of importing the entire Third World into America for the sake of GDP. What a strange moment in American history.
Hildegard of Bangin’@medieval_bops
I am 51 and deeply regret not having kids. I was stringently brainwashed into believing that I should never have children. I’ve never even been pregnant as far as I know. I was on birth control from age 16 through age 49.
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