Dean Cook

Neither of these women look good coming out of this exchange to be fair. Would be interesting to know the back story of their relationship. I do think that the daughter gives away what is going on though. The little wave behind the Mums back at the door and dragging her away. Makes me think Mum is in the wrong.

This woman is dropping off her stepdaughter to her real mom, every time she does that the real mom always has something smart to say about her and tries to belittle her. The stepdaughter actually enjoys having out more with her real dad and stepmother than she does with her real mom and we all can see why. Nobody else has this issue, so why is the real mom the one always creating problems for everyone, is she not over him maybe? Have you ever had this happen to you too, how do you handle this in a civil manner she the other party isn’t civil?

I get what you’re saying, to be fair. That shift you’re talking about is real. Going from work, structure, adult conversations, a bit of recognition… to being at home all day doing the same loop with no real “off switch” ...yeah, that can mess with your head. It’s not the child, it’s the isolation and losing a bit of who you were for a while. That’s a big adjustment. Where I push back isn’t your experience, it’s how it’s framed a lot of the time. I do think women have been fed this idea that motherhood is somehow lesser or “thankless”, because everything now pushes careers, independence, not needing a man! So when reality hits and it’s harder and quieter than expected, it feels like something’s been taken from you, rather than something you’re gaining. But there’s another side to it as well. I’ve been the one carrying the financial load. Going from two incomes to one, knowing everything rests on you, knowing there’s no room to mess it up. That pressure doesn’t switch off either. Yeah you’re around adults, but it’s not exactly a break, it’s just a different kind of stress. That’s why I don’t buy into the “five jobs” thing. Not because it’s easy at home, it’s not. But because it turns it into this one-sided story where one person’s suffering and the other’s cruising, and that’s just not reality for most families. At the end of the day, it’s about the kid. If you can have one parent at home in those early years, that’s a massive positive for them. Doesn’t mean it’s enjoyable every day, doesn’t mean it doesn’t cost you something personally, but it does matter. So yeah, I’m not dismissing what you’re saying at all. The isolation, the repetition, missing your old life a bit... I just think it’s less “thankless job vs lucky husband” and more: both people are sacrificing in different ways, and no one really prepares you properly for what that actually feels like.

@DeanCook008 @NoFilterSkin Being improperly prepared by the world for this reality then being berated by assholes on the internet who are not ending their careers and hobbies while the partner goes on in the same work passion and colleague interaction. It's a huge change you have to understand that too.

"You're lucky your husband lets you stay home." ​No. ​He's lucky I do the work of five people for free. He's lucky I remember every appointment, every meal, every meltdown. He's lucky I run this home like a CEO with no clock-out time. ​Motherhood is labor without a paycheck, and it's time the world stopped calling it luck and started calling it what it is: work.

I’m not even disagreeing with you. But that’s not the point I was addressing. The point was this idea that a woman can completely drop the physical and intimate side of a marriage for years with zero pushback. That’s not the same thing as normal dry spells because of kids and exhaustion.

@DeanCook008 @JailbirdJunkrat @TheLowkeyMummy @alfkkifine Also, having sex 2-3 times a month when there is small children in the home, is NOT forced celibacy. During those times, take quality over quantity or she'll start feeling resentful when he's not noticing the level of stress and exhaustion she's already experiencing.

The ultimate double standard in modern marriage is the unilateral cancellation of vows. A man is socially and legally expected to fulfill 100% of his traditional duties, to provide, protect, finance, and remain strictly faithful. But a woman can completely abandon the physical and intimate aspects of the marriage for years with zero societal pushback. If he complains, he is shamed as needy or predatory. If he files for divorce to escape a lifetime of forced celibacy, the courts will take his house, his kids, and his income. He is essentially trapped in a legally binding roommate contract where his utility is violently demanded, but his humanity is completely ignored.

@GreenLines223 @_SirSwearsAlot_ @justarando70354 The entailment of SirSwearsAlot's argument, is that he is in fact the only decent father out there. His anecdotes are the only ones that count, his situation is the standard, and everyone else just gets written off as a bad parent.

@_SirSwearsAlot_ @DeanCook008 @justarando70354 Oh I know I'm doing a great job I get told every single time I drop my kids off at school and attend pta meetings. My wife is also an awesome mother because we both are running our businesses and also raising our kids TOGETHER

@KittensSuddenly @NoFilterSkin Calling motherhood and homemaking a “thankless, oppressive job” is wild to me. That mindset’s been drilled in. Do you honestly think someone doing 40 hours a week on a checkout gets more fulfilment than you raising your child and running your home?

@DeanCook008 @NoFilterSkin I use to work then had a baby, I love my child and husband. That being said, I much preferred working over the thankless job of being a mother and homemaker. When kiddo goes to school, I’m going right back to work. I don’t discount the importance of what Im doing now though.

@ainsofar @ma1ybe It isn't clear at all. We have no idea what had happened or why he was running after her. No idea at all. There is no evidence at all she was in danger or he meant her harm. You are making assumptions.

@DeanCook008 @ma1ybe Its quite clear she was in danger. Its possible she did something, yes, but in that moment that man meant her harm. Too bad for the women in your life you dont get that. I know what youre doing and its from hating women. Im going to mute you. Enjoy your frustrations.

And this is why we need more women in positions of power, more representation in all spheres. Because women are the only true protectors of women. Men can claim to be protectors but all they do is protect their image & protect their brothers who harm women.

@markgoldbridge Is Scotland considered a top-5 European League?

So the 3 he won in Scotland don't count even though they're probably more impressive than any of the below....

@SamCKx @ianmiles Her colour**

@ianmiles Why mention his colour, Ian? I have never once seen you describe a white person by their colour.

A popular black British influencer had an argument with somebody at London’s busy Argyll Street and decided to resolve the conflict by running her over in her car, crushing the hell out of her.

@ainsofar @ma1ybe Not at all I replied with a fabricated story, to a fabricated story. You demanded I prove my version of events, I am now asking for you to prove the orginal take You said she was "rescued" the original person said "protected from harm" Where is the proof she is in danger?

@DeanCook008 @ma1ybe 🤣🤣🤣🤣 you're dumb.

@ainsofar @ma1ybe Now can you prove the original claim that she was protected and rescued from harm?

@DeanCook008 @ma1ybe Glad youre now honest. I didn't make anything up. I asked you to provide proof of your claim. If you just hate women, say it.

Ah yeah, the classic “go read a feminist” line… that’s not an argument, that’s just dodging the point. You’ve basically backed up what I said without realising it. We’re not living in the 1800s. We’re talking about now, where most single-income households exist because a couple has decided it works best for them. Calling that “oppression” today is a stretch. Most people can’t even afford to live on one wage anymore, so acting like it’s some widespread system holding women down just doesn’t match reality. And the history point always gets one-sided. Yes, some women were in bad situations. So were men. Men were getting sent to war, working brutal jobs, dying young. That doesn’t get framed as “oppression,” it just gets ignored. What’s happened is feminism has taken something that can be a fair trade-off and spun it into exploitation. If one person earns and one runs the home, that’s just a division of labour. One carries the financial pressure, the other runs the household. Both roles matter. Telling someone to “go read feminists” doesn’t suddenly turn a modern-day choice into oppression. It just shows you’re leaning on a script.

@DeanCook008 @NoFilterSkin Single income homes were definitely oppressive. This comment reveals your lack of historical grounding. They are one of the reasons for feminism. Maybe go read what women have been saying. Go read a feminist. Then we can talk

@JailbirdJunkrat @TheLowkeyMummy @alfkkifine This is what you have been told. It is not reality is the overwhelming majority for relationships.

@DeanCook008 @TheLowkeyMummy @alfkkifine Men don’t show up the way you think they do. They really don’t.

No, focusing on sex isn’t missing the point… it is the point. Sex is the one thing that separates a marriage from every other relationship in your life. You can get conversation, support, even affection from friends and family. You can’t get sexual intimacy anywhere else without it being called cheating. That’s why it matters. So yeah, when men focus on sex, it’s because that’s the part that’s exclusive to the relationship. If that disappears long term, what you’ve got isn’t a marriage anymore… it’s a roommate situation with legal ties. No one’s being “dishonest” here. You’re just trying to downplay something that clearly matters, otherwise exclusivity wouldn’t even be a thing. So yeah… focusing on sex is completely valid, because it’s the one part of the relationship you both agreed is reserved for each other. If that’s gone and no one’s even trying to fix it, the issue isn’t “men whining”… it’s a broken relationship.

@DeanCook008 @TheLowkeyMummy @alfkkifine Men are on here whining about sex, so yes that is the point. They’re not whining that their wives don’t hold their hands or touch their cheeks, so don’t be intellectually dishonest about what the actual contention is here.

There it is… you’ve just walked your own argument back. From “five jobs” to “maybe three.” That’s not a refinement, that’s you admitting the original claim was inflated. And “go read the double burden” isn’t a rebuttal… it’s you pointing me to feminist theory to prove a point about feminist spin. That’s circular. Of course it agrees with you, it’s the same framework that created the claim in the first place. That’s not evidence, that’s confirmation bias. If your position only holds up when you quote people who already agree with it, it’s not a strong argument. You’ve basically conceded the core point: it’s a demanding role with multiple responsibilities… not multiple full-time jobs stacked on top of each other. That’s been the point from the start.

@DeanCook008 @justarando70354 Maybe not five jobs but three for sure, and I don’t say all men i said most and you can clearly see that is true just by reading through the sexual slip that gets posted here. The whole feminist propaganda thing is weak as fuck, go read “the double burden.” Read what women say

You’re arguing with a strawman and pretending it’s the point. No one’s claiming men are “owed sex on demand.” You keep going back to that because it’s easier than addressing the actual point. The point is simple… you can’t have a marriage where exclusivity is expected, but intimacy can just disappear for years with no accountability. That’s not “autonomy,” that’s changing the deal halfway through. If sex and intimacy genuinely don’t matter, fine… then drop the expectation of exclusivity as well. But no one does that, because everyone knows intimacy is part of what makes a marriage a marriage, not just a roommate situation. This constant “emotional labour” excuse gets wheeled out every time like it explains everything. It doesn’t. Relationships break down for loads of reasons on both sides. Men deal with pressure, stress, rejection and still show up. You can’t treat one side as non negotiable and the other as optional depending on mood. And the idea that intimacy is “just sex to men” is rubbish. It’s connection, affection, feeling wanted. That matters to both sides. No one’s talking about controlling anyone’s body. They’re saying if a core part of the relationship disappears long term and no one’s even trying to fix it… the relationship’s already broken. That’s not entitlement. That’s just being honest about it.

@DeanCook008 @TheLowkeyMummy @alfkkifine Ah ah. No one is owed another persons body full stop. That includes all aspects of intimacy (which to men just means sex). Now, instead of figuring out WHY your wife won’t sleep with you, which I guarantee is simply of “she’s doing all the goddamn emotional labor”, yall whimper

“Most men are clueless” is just lazy and bitter. Loads of dads are hands-on… school runs, appointments, coaching, discipline, finances, long hours to keep everything running. You don’t see it, so you write it off. That’s a you problem. And this “emotional labour” line gets thrown around like it’s some exclusive burden. It isn’t. Men carry pressure too… financial strain, responsibility for the family staying afloat, making the calls when things go sideways. Just because it’s not dressed up with a label doesn’t mean it’s not real. Your whole argument relies on exaggeration. “Five full-time jobs”? Be serious. If it were literally that, no one could sustain it. It’s one demanding role with multiple responsibilities… same as being the sole earner. Different pressures, same reality: trade-offs. And here’s where it really falls apart. You say it’s “five full-time jobs”… but you also say you did it alongside a full-time job. So which is it? Because you’re basically asking people to believe you were doing the equivalent of 6–7 full-time jobs in a day. That’s nonsense. All you’ve actually shown is that it can be done alongside full-time work. Was it hard? Yeah. No one’s arguing that. But if it’s manageable next to a full-time job, then doing just the childcare side on its own isn’t the superhuman workload you’re trying to sell it as. And the “men should stfu” bit? That’s not an argument, it’s a cop-out. You’re trying to shut down disagreement because your point doesn’t hold up. Families run on trade-offs. One earns, one runs the home, sometimes both do both. Both sides carry weight. Pretending one side is clueless and the other is doing “five jobs for free” is just feminist propaganda that you have bought.

@DeanCook008 @justarando70354 Im not the lazy gatekeeper here. You are and you are clueless about parenting and should stfu and listen instead of spewing your useless fucking wall of text at me

“No one is owed sex”... fine. But let’s not play dumb about what marriage is. When two people get married, intimacy is part of the deal. It’s not written like a contract, but everyone understands it’s part of the relationship. That’s exactly why cheating is called adultery, because sex is supposed to stay within the marriage. You can’t say “you’re not owed intimacy” and at the same time expect total sexual exclusivity. Those two things don’t sit together. If one partner shuts that side of the relationship down long-term with no effort to fix it, that’s not just a “boundary”, that’s the relationship breaking down. And pretending that has no impact is just as dismissive as demanding it. This constant framing that any expectation of intimacy = entitlement is just warped. Most normal people, including most women, understand that intimacy is part of a healthy relationship. It’s just the loud ones online trying to twist it into something it’s not.

@DeanCook008 @TheLowkeyMummy @alfkkifine Yeah because you aren’t owed anyone’s body, dipshit. That’s not a right.

@ainsofar @ma1ybe We see a man running after and looking for a woman. We don't know why. There is no evidence that he harmed her or was planning to harm her. That is objectively true. The rest YOU have made up. I don't have proof, I was just making up a false narrative like everyone else.

@DeanCook008 @ma1ybe So you dont have any proof of your claim. The video clearly shows a woman being chased by a man. She was rescued by another woman. This is clear. If you have counter Info, post it.

Juggling a full-time remote job and raising kids is rough. No one’s denying that. But let’s not pretend that makes you a stay-at-home dad. You were doing both roles at once. Its not the same thing we are talking about. All you’ve proven is that stacking two jobs is exhausting. That’s obvious. It doesn’t suddenly mean the stay-at-home role on its own is harder than being the sole breadwinner carrying the income, pressure, and risk. And this “if you haven’t done it, shut up” line? It’s weak. By that logic, nobody can speak on anything they haven’t personally lived... which is clearly nonsense. People can observe, use data, and understand trade-offs without needing your exact life experience. The real issue is the spin. Calling it “five full-time jobs for free” while pretending the breadwinner does nothing is just dishonest. Your situation doesn’t prove that... it proves doing both ends is hard. If your point is “I did both and it’s tougher than people think,” fine. But trying to use that to shut everyone else down is just lazy gatekeeping.

@DeanCook008 @justarando70354 I (male) did this I staid home and raised kids whole also doing a full time job from home and I can tell you for a fact the “women’s” role is much harder. Unless they have actually done this, men should stfu on this because they are blowing it out their arses

Calling facts "fat-shaming" is pathetic nonsense. Obesity hits 41% of U.S. women, driving diabetes, heart disease, and skyrocketing health costs. "Healthy at every size" and body positivity? Delusional lies that hurt people. Pearl speaks truth. Stop the gaslighting... reality isn't hate.

The debate exploded the moment Hannah Pearl Davis was accused of fat-shaming. Ava Santini: “You call women fat, you say they shouldn’t have abortions, you say they have STDs.” Pearl shot back without hesitation: “The average American woman is 170 pounds (77 kg). That’s objectively overwhelming.” Piers Morgan agreed: “We now celebrate morbid obesity as body positive and it is complete nonsense.” Hannah doubled down: “She was fat, obese and a divorcee. These things are just subjective facts. Women don’t want to live in reality.” The exchange turned raw and uncomfortable in seconds. When does “telling the truth” become cruelty — and when does refusing to say uncomfortable facts become the bigger problem?