It took me about 4 days of marriage to figure out why men are upset when their wives refuse sex because they’re “not in the mood”. It’s not because men are selfish. It’s because men spend their entire day doing things they’re “not in the mood for.” He was not in the mood to… Wake up early Work overtime Wash their truck Lift heavy weights Manage the finances Please every customer Train the new guy at work Argue with their boss (again) Fix the leaky faucet at midnight Mow the lawn in the blazing heat Deal with the insurance company …and yet he did it all without complaining. Then he asks her for one thing (sex) and she rejects him because she’s “not in the mood.” That’s bullsh*t.

The outrage on this tweet makes sense once you have common sense. Most people today don’t operate on objective reality. They operate on subjective feelings and assume: Mood = consent. If she’s “not in the mood,” no consent. If she’s “in the mood,” yes consent. Reality check: mood has nothing to do with consent. Your feelings are not facts. Am I in the mood to go to the gym? No.
Am I in the mood to clean my house? No.
Am I in the mood to take on responsibilities? No. Do I see it as coercion or force? Of course not. That’s absurd and delusional. I do these things because I’m an adult, capable, and responsible, not because I feel like it. This is why this tweet divides people: •Objective thinkers: act because it’s factual, independent of feelings. •Subjective thinkers: reject responsibility unless it serves them. Look at the comments. You can see who gets it and who lives in delusion.

Women arent in the mood to do laundry or dishes or drive the kids around or pack everyone’s lunches or wake up with a baby every two hours but those things are chores. Youre describing his job as if women dont also work or have domestic labor at home. Turning sex into a chore or a job is just describing prostitution at worst and at best making it incredibly unsexy. She still wont want to do it shell just do it bc its her part of her duty. Sounds fun for everyone.

@GiaMMacool Can I get an AMEN 🙏

@GiaMMacool constipation = no sex give a BJ, ladies

@GiaMMacool 90% of my life is "I'm not in the mood." I do it anyways, with no bitching

@GiaMMacool Finally a woman who spoke well you deserve a good husband

@GiaMMacool Wives have lots and lots of sex with your husbands - solves 99.8% of the problems you encounter in your marriage. -R

@GiaMMacool If I asked, I would never be turned down but that is not the issue. I don’t want to have to ask. I want to be desired as the song by Cheap Trick highlights, “I want you to want me…”

I have never had a woman turn me down for sex, even when they are not in the mood they still pull me in. You as a man are doing something wrong. Its not her fault, its yours. You are lacking something primal in your soul and have made sex into something that is not a psycho-spiritual event. You have made it a hand shake and are being punished for it. Its time to face the music, your inner world is unattractive to all women, not just her

@GiaMMacool both genders days are filled with things they don't want to do, fuck sake this is embarrassing & desperate

@GiaMMacool VERY well said.

He drags himself through a day of stuff he does not want to do, then comes home wanting one thing that feels like relief and closeness and being wanted. When he gets a “no,” it can feel like the last door in the house just shut. But the take still jumps a line it cannot jump. Doing hard things all day does not earn access to someone’s body at night. Sex is not a paycheck you collect for being responsible. If she says no, that is not “bullshit,” that is consent. Full stop. The real problem hiding under this post is something uglier and more fixable: resentment. If he feels like a mule and she feels like a used object, nobody wants anyone. Desire dies in a house where love turns into invoices. If a couple wants this to get better, the move is not guilt. The move is honesty: “I feel unwanted,” “I feel exhausted,” “I feel like I carry too much,” “I feel pressured,” “I miss you,” and then change what is making both people tense in their own skin.

Even when during the day he is - complimenting her - takes chores out of her hands - rubs her feet - cooks for her - brings her flowers He has no right to her body. I loathe the “close your eyes and think of England” attitude. It dulls the electricity of sex, silencing the quiet hum where two bodies begin to listen to each other. Without that attunement, there is no shared surrender, no rising together into pleasure. What ignites extasy is intimacy: open attention, soft courage, a mutual unfolding and total reciprocity. When one partner is only half-there, desire loses its rhythm, touch turns mechanical, and sex becomes something endured rather than felt — a warmth without flame.

@GiaMMacool It's because he's in the mood but she isn't. Y'all got to both be in the mood

@GiaMMacool The problem we currently have is that the modern woman doesn't desire her husband, and it would make sense for women to not want to sleep with men they don't desire. Husband or not. Because duty, covenant, promises, & responsibility isn't as import to women as their feelings are.

@GiaMMacool this is the reason why i never say no i feel like it's the least i can offer

@GiaMMacool To make it worse men are still doing most of the work. 😐

@GiaMMacool Coming from a woman, I'm surprised you understand men so much

@GiaMMacool Yep. 🤷‍♂️ It's also the only way we can express certain emotions.

@GiaMMacool Protect this woman at all costs

@GiaMMacool Damn I gotta start writing male centered contents

@GiaMMacool We need to protect her guys

@GiaMMacool So me I wake up in the mood to do these things? Olodo

@GiaMMacool You are definitely blessed for this

@GiaMMacool this is such a long way to say entitlement

@GiaMMacool Did he pick you Gia?

@GiaMMacool I want to spend the majority of my husband’s paycheck at Target and Hobby Lobby then nonstop deny him in the bedroom

@GiaMMacool No women in the comments?? I know they hate to hear the truth

Not entirely True, women have always since the dawn of time felt powerful when it comes to sex. And so A lot of women weaponize sex and see it as an avenue to show off their supremacy to their husband. Even a harsh man to his wife looks very humble when he wants to ask for sex from the wife. Couples don’t work on their relationship much once they get married, the intimacy and closeness gradually start to fade and that’s why sex becomes a bargaining chip that the wife uses to assert her authority. It’s wrong by the way and usually leads to further problems. And the truth is that women like to dish what they can’t take. She can deny her husband anytime cos she is not in the mood and the man is expected to understand and sleep it off but when she is denied that same sex even once cos the hubby is not the in the mood then hell will surely be let loose cos women hate rejection so much.

@GiaMMacool Healthy relationships work best with empathy both ways Understanding effort and feelings on both sides keeps connection strong

@GiaMMacool it gladdens my heart that such wise women still exists

@GiaMMacool Sound reasoning.