ỌMỌỌBA ADEMỌLA 🇬🇭 🇳🇬 리트윗함
Marriage is not built on chemistry.
It’s built on values, discipline, and
Ask her real questions or you’ll learn the hard way when it’s already too late.
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@_Shegzylomo @Letter_to_Jack Very few people understand this point you just made
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@Letter_to_Jack This is why choosing a financially responsible partner matters just as much as earning well. One careless spender can frustrate an entire household.
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I want to put this out here because some single persons who are about to make the ultimate decision of marriage might need it:
There’s a big difference between being financially comfortable as a single person and being comfortable when you’re married.
As a single person, it’s easy to feel like you’ve figured things out because your expenses are controlled and predictable. But the moment you get married, your baseline for everything changes. What you see as financial comfort now would require much more management to be enough. Because you have to feed, shelter and cater for 2 adults.
If you really want to understand or get ahead of it, take your current recurring expenses and multiply it by 4. That’s the kind of financial capacity it takes to maintain the same level of comfort you currently enjoy as a single person.
There is more. Being married without children is one thing. When you introduce children into the equation, the demands increases. At that point, multiply your single person expenses by eight for two kids. That’s when the real weight of responsibility starts to show.
Those ‘luxuries’ and cravings you will still be able to afford them, but you would not buy them. Because bills will come at you thick and fast, never ending. Eventually, you recondition to anticipate unforeseen expenses and become more conservative with personal spending.
My point is: Prepare. Have a trajectory and make sure you marry a partner who would work to support your home. That way, your income increases proportionally with your expenses.
Many single people think they’ve cracked the code on financial comfort and they jump into marriage without well detailed plans. They forget to factor that as single people, they’re operating in a controlled environment with limited variables. You can only understand it when you step into that phase of life.
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@PromptGAMMA @Letter_to_Jack You did not disagree with anything anyway
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I want to disagree slightly with this. You've exaggerated everything. Before getting married, I lived in a 2 bed apartment, we still live there. I had all the electronics appliances needed and bought only a generator after marriage. Now when in marriage, live a simple life. The problem is that young people want to buy expensive stuffs online.
They want to wear the trending watch and use the latest iPhone. I was earning a very good salary monthly yet never had an iPhone. I got one for my wife which she's still using.
Marriage is not very difficult, even if children start to come. Stay humble, don't outdo yourself. As a person I counted myself amongst the poor and lived that way. Simple things but I made sure my family is happy.
I have two children yet life is still the same. Even when my salary increased to the aforementioned, nothing much changed in our way of life. We simply increased savings.
I don't get angry when people say I am poor, the problem usually is that those people don't even earn half of what I earned.
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Today’s date is Friday 13th Dhul Qa’adah 1447H/1st May 2026.
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@roguebaguette @Shuttlersng it is better you guys look into these before Chowdeck and othee bigger boys actually rival you and capitalize on small things like this. They have the money, they are interested in what you do, and they will prove they can do it better
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@Teeniiola Mhen see as Youth Pastor stain church white 🤦🏽♂️
Madam, why you self go dey nack pastor? If una no break up now naso una go lie for marriage counseling say una never nack. You and the pastor no dey fear God.
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@a_faaiz10 @Accoid Which school in Aponmode? I schooled in Aponmode too until I wan kpai Wan small boy wey lie say I tiff Agbalumo! Na dem transfer me go another place
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@Accoid I remember Wariz, he doesn’t have both legs but he’s always the goalkeeper, it’s even an advantage because he’s already on ground level and he does not need to dive to save ball, same with Sir Tuna. We have two cases like that in Aponmode Moniya. Both are goalkeepers
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This is exactly what I mean by “Forced socialization” an average Nigerian kid don’t see that defect in other kids , in their subconscious mind, they’re are all the same , atleast I can speak for LAPO BABIES, not the NEPO ONES.
If you grow in that middle class communities or trenches you can tell .
They don’t see that boy less useful because he was amputated, you can easily draw conclusions why a long year nonverbal autistic kid started talking and acting normal when he was relocated to Nigeria within months.
Aina Orosun 🥰🥰🥰@seyfunmi
There is something about Nigeria 🇳🇬 that someone needs to research: its ability to elicit speech in non verbal autistic children. A friend just told me about her 5 year old daughter, who had never uttered a word while they were in Canada. However, after just few months in Nigeria
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ỌMỌỌBA ADEMỌLA 🇬🇭 🇳🇬 리트윗함
You'll admonish someone in public, they'll say why didn't you just talk to them in private.
You then advise in private, they'll screenshot your advice, post for the public, and still insult you and your existence.
Who are you trying to please?
“We didn’t appear in this worldly life to live in it like grazing animals and merely eat, drink and sleep. Rather, we came to this dunya (the worldly life) in order to prepare provisions for the hereafter.”
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (May Allah be pleased with him)
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ỌMỌỌBA ADEMỌLA 🇬🇭 🇳🇬 리트윗함
My husband should leave providing for the family to attend the kids party when I can do that comfortably without anyone being affected???
Tech and online jobs is making y’all think that life is easy.
I’ll teach my kids to understand that your father not attending is because he couldn’t do that and that does not stop him from loving you.
That was what my mum did for us. She always try to make us understand the actions of our dad. I didn’t understand before but growing up and seeing a lot of things I realized that my mum did great.
She did everything she can to make sure we don’t hate our dad… A man that wasn’t trained with emotional support can’t give it. No man is perfect and you can’t give what you don’t have but as a mother you can help me where he’s having issues.
A lot of times, kids hatred for their dad is being sponsored by their mom. I know this cos I’ve heard a lot of my friends say how their mum use to turn them against their dad…
I know someone specifically that currently hate his mom with passion because it was after the death of his dad he realized that his mom has been manipulating them.
He said the only thing he ever gave his dad was 5,000 and he had to hide and give him cos his mom won’t allow them.
I can’t say everything but I won’t allow my husband go thru all that to prove to you that he loves you; if you can’t see the sacrifices he’s doing for you as something.
When you grow up and have your own kids, you’ll understand
Chicken Catcher🐔@Only1Etubo
I have tweeted this a few times, and I will tweet it again. Firstly, we cannot say they didn’t build or buy a house for their fathers just because it wasn’t posted online. Secondly, if they didn’t, there must be a story behind it. Lastly, and most importantly, we men underestimate the importance of bonding, showing up, and emotionally supporting our kids. We act like these things aren’t as important as providing. Many men don’t even try at all. no bond, no emotional support, and just providing. Do you know why many men are quick to disown their kids? It’s because there is no bond. We see it online all the time: a video of kids making mistakes, and men commenting, “If any of my kids try this, I will disown them.” That easy? The first thing that comes to your mind is to disown them? I changed so many diapers, soothed their sickness, and endured every tantrum, and you just want me to disown my kids? Many men see kids as people they only need to provide for. If all you do is provide, while the mother does the showing up, emotional support, and bonding, then when the kids grow up and it’s time to give back, they will do the same. Not because they are bad kids, but because that’s what they learned. They will celebrate their mother more. They will talk to her more. Meanwhile, you as the father who only provided, will only receive financial gestures and gifts. You will be taken care of. They will like post their mom and rarely post you. Ask people who openly celebrate their dads if all he did was provide. But if you never celebrated them when they were young, why should they celebrate you? You can’t expect them to miraculously create a bond you never built. If you’re lucky, your kids may unlearn that pattern and try to build a relationship with you, but it will be difficult, because they were raised with, “As a father, it’s my way or the highway.” I work 12 to 16 hours sometimes, and my daughter has a game right after that. I get tired, really tired, but I still show up. And many times, when I get there, the smile that lights up her face when she spots me in the crowd is priceless. I love seeing that. Do you think I always have the strength to go to parks, birthday parties, pools, and watch her play sports? Sometimes I want to rest, but I still try. And whenever I can’t make it, I communicate that with her. I don’t just fail to show up. I explain and give her reasons. So, my brothers, providing for your family and being emotionally present aren’t mutually exclusive. Try. Otherwise, when you are down, your kids won’t be beside you on your deathbed, but they will make sure you d*e comfortably.
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Today’s date is Thursday 12th Dhul Qa’adah 1447H/30th April 2026.
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Exactly what Ope was trying to say in this clip..
Men go dey tell una wetin dem like, una go dey argue
A Man that really wants you to be his could care less
Who gives a fvck about the wig on your head when i’d be the one to experience you in your natural state the most ?
Kọdies@KDbaby_
Btw, Nigerian men love wigs like maddd Don’t let them lie to you😂 An average Nigerian man would place you on a pedestal because of the wig you have on your head. They are worse than the women, trust me.
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Today’s date is Wednesday 11th Dhul Qa’adah 1447H/29th April 2026.
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@egi_nupe Happy Birthday bro!
More blessings and continuous growth!
Abi na you I see for Federal high court yesterday
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Alhamdulilah, exactly 34years ago, this world was blessed with my birth and it’s been 34years of amazing grace, greatness and growth.
Happy birthday Muhammed.
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@snowydaze2020 @VikyInsights If you're a fat woman, your behaviour is not near perfect because why are you killing yourself by not trying to shed the fat off
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@VikyInsights Men demand nothing from women but to be a 10 and put out. Be for real.
Am i wrong? Ask how many men are willing to date a fat woman whose behavior is absolutely perfect.
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ỌMỌỌBA ADEMỌLA 🇬🇭 🇳🇬 리트윗함
Everything women demand from a man costs money.
-Provision costs money.
-Protection costs money.
-Leadership costs money.
-Performance costs money.
Everything men ask from a woman costs nothing.
-Respect.
-Peace.
-Loyalty.
-Softness.
And somehow, what costs nothing is still called "too much" BY MODERN FEMINISTS. 🥺
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@kingsuleiman27 🙄🙄🙄🙄 No try this one ó! If she does, it's gone whether you're the cause or not!
Just let her go otherwise the problem for front go pass the one wey dey back!
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@NoirConstructs @talk2veee I agree with this post as much as I agreed with Àgbà's post. If we all decide to have children we can afford because of our financial status, who'll do their menial work? This also means there'll be no charity or alms as there'll not be poor people. No maid, no help, etc.
Hmmmmmm
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I am not entirely convinced by the idea that finances should be the primary factor in deciding how many children a person should have.
And by extension, I do not agree with the notion that it is better for a poor man not to father a child.
On the surface, that argument is logical. It makes sense. But there is something fundamentally troubling about the philosophy beneath it.
At its core, that thinking assumes that a child who may live a “subpar” life is better off never existing at all.
That is a dangerous line of thought.
Because once we start measuring the worthiness of life by comfort, wealth, or quality of living, we step onto a slippery slope.
Today it is: “Don’t have children if you cannot afford them.”
Tomorrow it becomes: “People living difficult lives would have been better off never being born.”
And from there, society begins to entertain ideas about whose life is worth preserving and whose is not.
That is where humanity starts losing its moral footing.
Yes, poverty makes life harder. No one should romanticize suffering.
But life itself carries possibility.
A child born into hardship is still a life filled with potential. Potential to grow, to change their circumstances, to contribute, to build, to become.
And that possibility is valuable.
If we are speaking economically, human beings are not merely mouths to feed; they are also hands to build, minds to create, and the workforce that drives every economy.
Population, by itself, is not the problem.
People are not the problem.
The real question is what society does with its people.
Àgbà John Doe@jon_d_doe
The reason I have just two children despite being able to cater to more as of today, is because I cannot predict what the future holds for me and my lovely wife and my finances. And I live in Nigeria where the government doesn't care about you. I don't want to be a father that would enable my son to commit crimes or force my daughter to prostitute. I am not God, I am human. But I have seen too many examples of parents who have unfortunately experienced this. And I don't want to believe that I am an exception. End.
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