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@lambtonworm3 @collinstimbela_ You're unbelievably clueless to reality which makes me think you're no older than 22 probably from a middle/upper class family and never done a proper days work

@1993rob @collinstimbela_ Yeah whatever. Not everyone works on an oilrig and very, very few are at risk of injury or death when proper safety protocols are observed.

A grumpy man can control a family without ever raising his voice. He just has to make his displeasure expensive enough. A long silence at dinner. A ruined car ride. Soon, everyone starts pre-adjusting. The kids are told “not now” before they can ask. She chooses the restaurant he likes, the movie he won’t complain through, the route that avoids traffic because traffic makes him unbearable. This is how a household becomes organized around one person’s refusal to regulate themselves.

@lambtonworm3 @collinstimbela_ That's how every family in every country is structured. Every true Englishman wants a wife and kids to provide for and to protect

@1993rob @collinstimbela_ The father is supposed to be the head of the family and the protector of the family. This is not something a normal English person would go on about. It sounds like 1950s America.

@lambtonworm3 @collinstimbela_ Alot of men have jobs where there's a high risk of injury or death simply to provide for his family how's saying that dramatic? You've obviously lived an easy life and have no real life experience

@1993rob @collinstimbela_ Who said anything about deaths? Most people don't go to work to risk death, they get on a train and go to an office or whatever. Stop being so dramatic. You'll be on about war next.

@lambtonworm3 @collinstimbela_ 95% of work place deaths are men that's nothappening in accounts that's happening on oil rigs, construction sites and all the jobs women can't do or don't want to do. Women fought for equal rights and fought even harder to avoid equal responsibility and accountability

@1993rob @collinstimbela_ Respect is a two way street as is gratitude. Women work really hard as well and are deserving of both. Stop pretending men are on some frontier, they're going to work in Accounts.

@girlfromsouthie @wynrosei There's a decline in birth rate but not pregnancy. The decline in birth rate is heavily linked to open access to abortion

@1993rob @wynrosei Same man cries about birth rate decline.

This is the first generation of women who aren't required to get married to survive. The first time in history women aren't slaves to men. So yes feminism is serious.

@bwillems1000 @GoodiCode No force needed. Men have already stopped chasing women because their tired of wasting their energy the switch in dynamic is about to change with benefits men and women

@1993rob @GoodiCode It might make sense, but that doesn’t translate to them doing it. The reasons could be many or just one, but for whatever reason, women just don’t approach men or signal for us to approach them. We can’t force them to change their tactics!

What does it actually look like when women pursue men and how common is it? I’ve been seeing a lot of discussions saying most men never really experience being wanted or chased, and it got me thinking. I’m 25, and honestly, I’ve never felt that from women. Outside of family, I’ve never had someone clearly show interest first or pursue me in a direct way. I’ve spent years working on myself: Got a good degree, built a stable job, stay in shape, dress well, and try to carry myself properly. I wouldn’t say I’m unattractive either. I also pay attention to conversations like this, try to learn from other people’s experiences, and keep improving where I can. But despite all that, I’ve never really felt desired. So I’m curious. What does it actually look like when a woman genuinely pursues a man? Is it obvious, or more subtle? And for most men, is it normal to never really experience that? Or does it change at some point?

@Rohit_Choudhury @wynrosei Not sure what your trying to say but single men are vastly more happy that married men and single women

@1993rob @wynrosei A pig rolling in mud is at least happy compared to out of it!

@lambtonworm3 @collinstimbela_ Men will sacrifice everything for their family, they work any and every job they can and give everything they've got and they're happy to do it and all they want in return is respect and gratitude and receive neither

@1993rob @collinstimbela_ Disrespect and lack of gratitude is earned by unpleasant, bullying, controlling men. No sympathy.

@fffffjjjvvvyy @GoodiCode Women say that all the time. I think women should make the first move, give them power to approach who they want because as soon she does the man will take over and do all the things men are supposed to. If it's women who approach it'll stop women experiencing unwanted attention

@GoodiCode It's never going to come from the ones you want

@Chizitere_xyz You've just described women's mentality perfectly they want their partner to communicate but only to agree. Men have learnt to stay quiet because it makes their life easier

Everyone loudly begs for "communication," but almost nobody actually wants it. What they actually want is agreement. The exact second a partner effectively communicates a boundary, expresses dissatisfaction, or points out a flaw in the dynamic, they are immediately accused of "arguing," "ruining the mood," or "giving headache." People love the aesthetic of communication until they actually have to hear something uncomfortable.

@AnUnspokenHeart @Luv_Xcuses Blocking to avoid discourse is pathetic. Women are granted all the space for their emotions and have all the excuses to justify their emotions. Where as men aren't allowed to show any emotions

@AnUnspokenHeart @Luv_Xcuses Men are raised and told they aren't allowed to show emotion so they bottle everything up but neither men or women can suppress anger so that's the only emotion men express. Women's anger is on par with a child's anger because neither pose a theat other than a headache

Why is male anger normalized, but women’s anger labeled as attitude?

@CycloneJack11 @IM_YARA4 All men have is their friends it's women who belittle, berate and disregard their partner. Men go through and feel things the same as women but are criticised for reacting and expected to process alone and in private because god forbid a man show emotion

@1993rob @IM_YARA4 You need new friends.

I’ll never forget when I told my man I had a long day and didn’t feel like talking. I just wanted to be left alone to decompress. He didn’t argue. He just said ok. About an hour later, there was a knock at my door. He drove 40 minutes just to drop off food, my favorite drink, and his hoodie. He said, “I know you didn’t want company. I just wanted you to feel cared for” and then left. And even now he still goes above and beyond to make me feel loved. That’s what love looks like 🥹❤️Does this kind of love still exist? Yes they do Is it difficult for men to love like this? No he just have to be genuinely interested in only you

@Captain_Epic3 @Luv_Xcuses Men are taught that anger is the only emotion acceptable for them to show but that they're a horrible person when they do. Men's anger is what protects the vulnerable and it's what protects the modern world men created

@Luv_Xcuses Men are taught to be angry from childhood. Women on the other hand, are supposed to be soft and delicate, speak when spoken to type.

@IM_YARA4 Why not ask if you could go over to his? I agree he should want to come over to comfort you but you're the one who had the issue so you're the one who should make the effort. Plus missing context on how long you've been dating and how many times you've made that request

I dated a man once, and because I called him at 1 AM and he picked up right away, I was like, “Could you please come over?” I wanted to be close with him, and we had been dating for a while, so we had already crossed that point. He was like, “I’m so tired. I’ll come first thing in the morning, I promise.” And in my mind, I was like, a husband of mine would never turn me down because I need my man to be ready anytime, any place, at any moment. So I broke up with him because that felt cruel to me. I’m waiting on someone to get this post correct. I’m waiting for somebody to decipher this post

@MeIm128251 @wynrosei Every study says otherwise

@1993rob @wynrosei Women’s happiness has been on the incline since 70’s when we finally got to live with rights the fuck are you on

@CycloneJack11 @IM_YARA4 If we do we're told to suck it, be a man or simply ignored. Men come home from work and are expected to do something, men aren't allowed to just sit and relax because society only values men when they're useful as soon as they take time for themselves they're lazy or a loser

@1993rob @IM_YARA4 Every man can say this. Be a man and say it.