Bradly Anderson

The elites don’t want you to know this song exists and that it used to be played on the radio

My wife was formerly promiscuous. I was a virgin. She was then radically born-again. Committed to church, evangelized constantly, Puritan books in her bedroom, prayer journals, grief over past sexual sin, etc. We got to know each other well for over a year, dated for four months, engaged for two and a half, and didn't sin sexually with one another. Our first kiss with each other was at the altar on our wedding day (reaction pic attached!). We've been married for over five years now, and she's been the most wonderful and godly wife, mother to our three children, and homemaker you could imagine. She's more pure than most virgins, as biblical purity has less to with past sins (though they certainly matter) and more to do with one's current posture of the heart and daily decisions to honor the Lord (Matt. 5:8). We're far too quick to forget the story of the woman labeled as a known "sinner" (likely a prostitute) in Luke 7:36-50 who was washing Jesus' feet with her tears while kissing them too. The Pharisees were shocked that Jesus let a public sinner do this. Jesus responded with a parable about debts being forgiven and ended with this powerful conclusion: "Her many sins have been forgiven; that’s why she loved much. But the one who is forgiven little, loves little" (Luke 7:47). Everyone seems to highlight the benefits of virginity, and it certainly is a blessing. But we forget to highlight the benefits of being forgiven much as well. My wife knows the depths of Jesus' forgiveness more than most people, enabling her to more easily live out a life of passionate love for her Savior. A woman or man's past sexual sin matters. But what matters far more when it comes to deciding who to marry is if the person is truly born again, if their repentance is real, if they truly have a heart for Christ, if they truly follow Jesus and obey his commands. "God has chosen what is foolish in the world to shame the wise, and God has chosen what is weak in the world to shame the strong. God has chosen what is insignificant and despised in the world ​— ​what is viewed as nothing ​— ​to bring to nothing what is viewed as something, so that no one may boast in his presence. It is from him that you are in Christ Jesus, who became wisdom from God for us ​— ​our righteousness, sanctification, and redemption, — in order that, as it is written: 'Let the one who boasts, boast in the Lord.'" (1 Cor. 1:27-31) "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has passed away, and see, the new has come!" (2 Cor. 5:17)

If he was authentic I would be more inclined to pay attention. What this guy does isn’t his “testimony.” It’s content. Leading with “my wife was promiscuous” while highlighting your own purity isn’t humility… it’s engagement bait. You’re taking your wife’s past, putting it on display, and packaging it for clicks. There’s a difference between a woman choosing to tell her story and a husband using that same story as content - especially when it’s framed in a way that elevates himself and highlights her past. In my opinion, he crossed a line. That’s why he’s getting so much pushback. A testimony should sound like: “Look what God redeemed in us.” Not: “I was pure, she wasn’t - but I chose her anyway.” From a Christian standard, a husband is called to cover, honor, and protect his wife. Not repackage her past for engagement. Not put her on display for ridicule. He did not need to spotlight her history to glorify God. And if he did need to, it needed to be written differently. Leading with “my wife was promiscuous” is deliberately provocative. At best, it was oversharing. At worst, it’s using your spouse’s past as a platform. And people can feel the difference. There’s a difference between testimony which is shared with humility, balance, and mutual dignity. And content which is crafted to provoke, trigger, and go viral. It subtly shifts from “look what God redeemed” to “look what I accepted.” That’s not a shared redemption story..that’s a hierarchy. If the goal was truly to glorify God, you wouldn’t need to spotlight her past to do it. It wasn’t “bold”, It’s oversharing and written to shock people. And yes- it throws her under the bus. You all know dang well his post was written for engagement. I’m just saying it out loud.

Paul (originally Saul of Tarsus) persecuted Christians and saw many to their deaths. He went on to be redeemed and write half the New Testament. People are content when others tell his story. But let a husband share his wife's story and watch Pharisees grab stones.