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Last week we started inviting the first people from our waiting list to @Actual_Chat, an AI-supported 1:1 messaging platform for gentler, clearer, happier conversations with your most important relationships 🕊️ We're testing our beta, rolling it out via actual.chat.

Dear new people who follow Actual, Please be advised this product is currently undergoing a major transformation. Stay tuned to what's coming! 📚📲📰🧠🤗🚀

I like Ozy's taxonomy of the five basic types of relationship problems: 1. stupid problems 2. basic incompatibilities 3. problems that are actually a different kind of problem 4. horrifying soul-sucking messes 5. terrible people thingofthings.wordpress.com/2019/04/19/fou…

I'm thinking of starting a series of short videos where I explain what we're finding out about communication, relationships and technology at @Actual_Chat....

@ChuckBaggett Sorry about that! We're rebuilding the site, bear with us 🙏

@Actual_Chat The Twitter, Facebook, email, etc. icons don't do anything when my mouse cursor hovers them or when they are clicked on. Should they? Also, what is the rightmost icon for?

While all this madness is happening, we're rebuilding the @Actual_Chat product, and you can soon try a demo 💗🤫

"The main problem with sarcasm seems to stem from the fact that the recipient doesn’t really have good options for how to respond." 🤷🏽‍♂️😭🙊💔🤬⁉️ “How to Deal With Sarcasm in Messaging” by Actual link.medium.com/oShUiYpa6V

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I wish they would teach how to communicate in school. Such as how to - give and receive feedback (good and bad) - positive reframing - non violent communication - creating positive feedback loops - difference between facts and emotions - eye contact, intonation and pausing

Which one are you 🧡✨

"Don’t forget: when it comes to apologies, no gesture can be too touchy! If this person is really important to you, do show it!" 🤗 “The Best Way to Apologize After a Messaging Fight” by Actual link.medium.com/5kuk9DTkWV

I just published Women In Tech — The Definitive London Guide. Read if you're a London-based woman developing her career in the tech world, for the go-to-list of resources for learning, networking, and guidance link.medium.com/5cM57XZNNV #WomenInTech

Anyone involved in digital — i.e., any — courtship in 2019 will cite this “flow and ebb” phenomenon as both a digital playground promising excitement and pleasure, and an endless source or stress [and] anxiety... 🤷🏾‍♂️💋📲🔎 🤷🏻‍♀️🍆💌⚡ link.medium.com/ENcEoXwP7U

@LiveWorkPlayDxb I've recently heard from multiple people that sarcasm [in messaging] was a happiness level lowering factor in their life in general. I'm quite curious about this, may write my next piece for @Actual_Chat about this!

@kevinmarts @TheAnnaGat 💜💜🙏

Last week we started inviting the first people from our waiting list to @Actual_Chat, an AI-supported 1:1 messaging platform for gentler, clearer, happier conversations with your most important relationships 🕊️ We're testing our beta, rolling it out via actual.chat.

🧡🧡🧡🧡🤗 Welcome Francisco!

I've recently heard from multiple people that sarcasm in messaging was a life worsening factor in their lives, in general and across types of relationships. We have some stuff on this. Should I write the next @Actual_Chat piece about sarcasm?

@michaelgarfield @SimonDeDeo @TheAnnaGat @IxyLabs @sfiscience Our work may be relevant here indeed 🤗

@SimonDeDeo @TheAnnaGat @IxyLabs Oh dang! I know Actual and would love to have you, Anna/team, on #futurefossils podcast to discuss these matters - as the *very patient* moderator of @sfiscience's Facebook group, I carry many stories from the trenches (but prefer asking disarming questions)

Feels like a very rich area for #complexity research, especially given the many other recent successes of computational social science... @SimonDeDeo give us a general theory of discord! 🐦🔥😉 amp.theatlantic.com/amp/article/58… #eris #erisology #flamewar Take some pointers, @nntaleb

“A philosopher who is not taking part in discussions is like a boxer who never goes into the ring” - Ludwig Wittgenstein