Allen Krob

A reminder of what I want parents to know when they drop off their son with us and head home…. I will love them and I will tell them. It will be awkward the first couple times, they may look around or reread a message, but the truth is I told their coach a few years ago life is too short and I want these boys to feel loved no matter what their record or actions say. I’m going to hug them. Yep, safe sport approved, but I’m going to hug them when they are happy, sad, and most times I see them. I’m going to feed them. It’s probably not going to be homemade most of the time, but I’ll serve them. Mainly because they take too much and I worry that we may run out before the end of the line, but I’ll let them come back for seconds! I’m going to ask them about their relationships, their classes, their grades, their weird haircut, if they called their mom, how their leg is healing, and if they want to babysit the twins. I’m going to hold them accountable. I’m going to remind them of their commitment, challenge them to be leaders, call them out when they are spicy, and tattle on them if I need to. I’m going to be proud of them. Not for their results or their accolades, but for just simply getting out of bed some days. I’m going to encourage them to protect their peace and take care of their mind. I have no problem being vulnerable to share the difference therapy has made in our lives if they question if it would benefit theirs. I’m going to give them my husband for too much time, whine about it some days, cry about it another, and then question why they didn’t ask him to do more a week later. I’m going to show them life. I’m not going to pretend to be perfect or have perfect kids. We are going to make mistakes as parents and as spouses and as humans and they are going to see a lot of it. They are going to walk through some of our hardest days with us and some of our best days with us and we will do the same with them. We are not going to give up on them. They may not get what they want, accomplish what they had hoped, changed colors, or left for home early and we will still be at their wedding, commenting on their baby pics, and following them however we may through the different seasons of life You didn’t lose a child, you gained an entire family.💜