Bruce Banzo

Sometimes, when dreaming you come to a moment where something is off. It could be a person who shouldn't be there, a time/place/scenario that doesn't fit, doesn't feel right. Something that stretches the limits of credulity - of even your hazy drunken dream state.

Infants and toddlers wake up crying all the time my friend. Go ahead and play but all I am saying is if the child needs something they are the priority, period. It may be the other side of the story is he is good to the kid and she is complaining even when the child doesn't need anything. She mentions needing his help at times with the child and his not acknowledging however. If that's not the case, fine. I do not care about taking sides, I don't care about the gender war or taking one gender's side just because I am the same gender or anything stupid like that. I simply know that one's child is the #1 priority period.

She sold the PS5 💀

@femalebodybuil6 Arrogance.

Merely conjecture, but I get why it looks like that to you. And as well, as a parent it is tiring and draining as all heck. I get no sleep. So I'll look like that sure. But I still won't trade it for the world. You get drained, tired, and stressed. But yet it's achieving a level of love that gets you as close to God as possible. That's the best I can say.

@RealPostFolder Real. I’ve seen so many guys out in the wild, guys I work with, friends, etc with no light in their eyes like they had before they got married and had kids. It’s not even the kids part it seems like marriage just kills all light in a man 😭🤷‍♂️

I have a unique I think perspective on this my wife and I waited until very late to have our daughter, who will likely be our only although we'd want more since I'm in 50s and wife in 40s. While we had enjoyable time that having children would have interfered with in the before years, if I had to do it over again, I'd have the children in our 20s/30s in a heartbeat. You're not capable of love at that level without children and to feel that love is the closest one can get to God I think. Yes parents that have children will be changed. I can't speak for all parents but I would posit the poster can't relate so feels better to think the problem is with the parents by the "not whole" suggestion. My guess though would be the opposite, given I lived the life on both sides.

If there are any small few individual(s) who are exceptions to this that glean from it, that's good enough for me. I have no expectation otherwise. If you were to say all, every single one of them isn't capable of looking at it from the outside, I'd respectfully disagree that's likely. I imagine there is plenty from the female perspective I'll never really get 100% and that's fine as long as I can sympathize somewhat. I think there is too much gender war in the culture now, likely purposefully pushed so I will not cooperate with it but would do what I can to help even a small few see both or multiple sides if possible. No dissimilar to appearling to moderates in an opposing political party I guess. Saying that, believe me as a man I understand some of the frustrations some are having (I lived in NYC most of my adult career/life) so...I don't know how things play out but if even some few on each side can have compassion mutually (without still having blinders on) that's a win. To me, looking properly for red flags in one's partner (I'm not sure why most folks are so bad at this) and finding the proper green flags that align with your core values is key. It's a wide world out there, saying there is no possibility of it (as the red pill types do) and to completely opt out is cooperating with the downward spiral of the sexes. The original post in question did not deal with what I describe here of course, but I see the angles folks take it on and it becomes man vs. woman where no one listens to other. Furthering the divide. Maybe it's a divide an conquer thing who knows, but why cooperate is my philosophy.

@Bruce_Banzo @HazelAppleyard There is no point in explaining this to women, they have no theory of mind when it comes to men and are for the most part totally solipsistic

Was what she said really that bad?

I think this is sort of the point you may both be missing then. You would not say this because you never hooked up or had one-night stands. That's great actually. That's what guys like. By saying this, the poster indicates she did. It is not projection. She tells him he is not someone she would have hook up with. She says this literally. If she never hooked up with anyone it would make no sense to say. So you are telling him you did this with guys before, and would not have with him. Furthermore, whether you think it is immature of men to take it a certain way is beyond the point. Most men would find it insulting to know they wouldn't be considered for that. Being told he is someone great both for hook up and marriage would be better. But if she didn't do hook ups, she wouldn't need to say this anyway.

@mackin_shawn @HazelAppleyard Could be. I never had an ons, because I need to feel connection in order to be attracted at all. Otherwise I just have no sexual attraction to anyone 😅

@PleaseCallAA @myhomerightnow @iamMayurChouhan Maybe? If you live in the west you have to do quite well to afford a full time maid. Most (men or women) will not afford this. So you'd only speak for a minority of folks. Even well to do affluent folks like doctors, etc. might not have one.

@myhomerightnow @Bruce_Banzo @iamMayurChouhan That is definitely true, but we can afford to hire someone to clean for us. 😉

I don’t want to generalize, but… Most successful men have a wife. Most successful women are single. Why? 😁

@PleaseCallAA @iamMayurChouhan I dont' believe I said it is unattractive. Just that it is not attractive. Of some things there is (as someone else pointed out) indifference. If one is successful (a woman) but also kind hearted and supportive, that's great. I'd find those latter more attractive.

@Bruce_Banzo @iamMayurChouhan What is unattractive about a woman being successful?

Happy to elaborate in my own words but some things are axiomatic through lifelong observation. I don't have skin in this game anyway given I'm happily married. But I have eyes and see. It doesn't mean men don't partner with successful women - indeed it is difficult to live off one income these days. It's just that such success is not a natural attractant to us (me nor most any man I know). It doesn't mean we don't value accomplishment. But that isn't' the same as being attracted to it naturally. Incidentally, I do not care forthe gender war thing that seems to be so prevalent in the culture. Perhaps it is part of some kind of divide and control thing, who knows but it is certainly prevalent in recent years. Or one can say it's a natural counterbalance of for every extreme there is an equal opposite counter. Or both. I have a wife and daughter whom I love, so I value women. Yet my wife has differences in what she finds attractive vs. what I do. Because we are different. But our core values align. I don't for example think red pill/manosphere types are doing themselves a favor with regards to opting out of dating or whatever. I get it, because they think the risk is too much for them. But if there is indeed a push to pull the sexes apart, they are merely rowing with it in that case. I would advise them to be better at looking for whatever red flags deviate from their core values and seeking whatever green flags align. Women of similar core values to them exist. It is a wide world. At the very least, do not close the door on the possibility completely on finding a partner of like values is what I would propose. Being protective of one's self is fine though.

@Bruce_Banzo @iamMayurChouhan some of you don't have thoughts of your own. just repeat what others say on x. you are so boring.

@PleaseCallAA @RafaelTheTruth @iamMayurChouhan Sure we can value it, but it is not a natural attractant for us is all. It is what it is, one can't control what one is attracted to.

@RafaelTheTruth @Bruce_Banzo @iamMayurChouhan Not everything women do is to be more attractive to men. Some us have goals and aspirations outside of what you think of us. I also have no need of a man who only sees me as free labor. Some men value women who can do more than cook and clean. That’s fine if that’s not you.

@PleaseCallAA @iamMayurChouhan Neither? What one is attracted to tends to be natural btw, not formulated in one's head.

@Bruce_Banzo @iamMayurChouhan Because they’re insecure or they want a servant instead of a partner?

@thechosenberg my wife had all kinds of weird ass cravings we got her whatever she wanted. pregnancy is tough. the dood should chill. our baby turned out beautiful.

Let the lady have a burger you monster

@EmilySm43 depending on the angle it can be more convenient. backing in one can do tighter turns. it is why you do it to parallel park. it also doesn't hurt anyone else so what's the problem?

Why though? 🤔

@HazelAppleyard sneaky lad

Why date a non-virgin and then punish her for not being a virgin?

@RealPostFolder I always start with a friendly headbutt

@KILLTOPARTY The person you stick with is the one content to do and go to boring places with you.

Serious question: why are women obsessed with restaurants?

@alphafox Evil.

Would you save your wife or your kids if your house was on fire?